What about the rest of the children. Where is their IEP? Is their ideal 'least restrictive' environment in a class disturbed by a child with autism? Why are we handicapping a class full of children to benefit one?
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“Because he has an IEP, he gets this special world created for him.”
Yep. I deal closely with a local school. I have seen similar cases. In some situations the child with a behavioral problem essentially hols the whole class hostage and teachers have little they can do. Some parents - and I am sure they tell themselves they are doing all of this for their child - repeatedly blame the teachers when their child continues to fail, act up, get in trouble, etc. Asberger’s is a big deal these days. Teachers all across the country are being trained on how to deal with it, but many sufferers simply don’t have enough self control to be mainstreamed.