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Tribal Custom Means a Husband Never Sees His Wife's Face
Arab News (The Middle East's Leading English Language Daily) ^ | 4 September 2003 | Raid Qusti, Riyadh Bureau Chief

Posted on 08/05/2007 8:33:40 AM PDT by JCG

One of the most remarkable among the many and varied tribal customs that survive in Saudi Arabia is one that forbids anyone at all seeing a woman’s face. In parts of the Al-Kharj region, not even a woman’s husband and children are permitted to see her face uncovered.

In interviews with Al-Kharj residents, Sayidaty, a sister publication of Arab News, heard that often the first time even a daughter sees her mother’s face is after the mother’s death.

“I always dreamt of seeing my mother’s face because I am a woman like her,” resident Hissa Al-Massareir told the magazine. “But because of customs and traditions in the family, this was impossible. It was only when my mother died that my dream came true,” she added.

Al-Kharj native Muhammad Abdullah has never seen his wife’s face. “We’ve been married for ten years and I’ve never seen it, not once,” he said. The burqa — the garment that covers all of head except the eyes — “is stuck to her face 24 hours a day,” he said.

This is not for want of trying. “One day I tried to remove the burqa while she was asleep. She was furious. She left and went to her parents’ house and returned only after I had signed an undertaking that I would never attempt to do such a thing again.”

Saud Al-Otaibi also found his wife fiercely loyal to the custom. “I tried to blackmail my wife by saying I’d marry another woman if she didn’t show me her face,” he said.

But he was in for a surprise. “Instead of giving in she said, all right, marry someone else. And she set me up with a friend of hers who wasn’t so strict in her adherence to the custom, and I married her.”

Others report that they have become so used to not seeing the faces of even close relatives that they would be shocked if they did.

“I have never seen my mother’s face,” Ahmed Bikhait told the magazine. “I tried many times but was always rebuffed. By now I’d think it weird if she suddenly unveiled her face,” he added.

A woman in her sixties explained that this tradition, like many others, is disappearing fast. “We have inherited these customs from time immemorial, and they are normal to us,” she said. “But of course our children don’t believe in these traditions any more.” The imam of a mosque in the region, Ayid Al-Dosari, said there was no sin in a woman unveiling her face to her husband or children and the phenomenon had to be attributed to tribal customs rather than religion.

“This has nothing to do with Islam,” he said. “It’s simply one of the traditions that some tribes follow.

“In Islam, a husband can, of course, see the whole of his wife’s body. The face is the least he’s entitled to,” he said.

“But these are inherited customs and these people follow them. There is nothing I can do about that,” he added.


TOPICS: Culture/Society
KEYWORDS: burqa; deathcult; humanrights; islam; islamiclaw; magicunderwear; muslim; noseeum; psychosexualproblems
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Undamnedbelievable.
1 posted on 08/05/2007 8:33:46 AM PDT by JCG
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More proof that Islam reports directly to hell.


2 posted on 08/05/2007 8:35:34 AM PDT by farmer18th
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From one friggin’ nutjob belief , they go right into another.


3 posted on 08/05/2007 8:38:01 AM PDT by ikka
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Oh, come on. All we have to do is put on a headscarf and “talk” with these people of reason. /s


4 posted on 08/05/2007 8:38:03 AM PDT by poobear (Pure democracy is two wolves and a lamb voting on what's for dinner. God save the Republic!)
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To: JCG
“I have never seen my mother’s face,” Ahmed Bikhait told the magazine. “I tried many times but was always rebuffed. By now I’d think it weird if she suddenly unveiled her face,” he added.

Might be worse than just "weird", pal.


5 posted on 08/05/2007 8:41:11 AM PDT by SIDENET (Hubba Hubba...)
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To: JCG

6 posted on 08/05/2007 8:41:20 AM PDT by skimbell
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More unbelieveable than this?
7 posted on 08/05/2007 8:43:36 AM PDT by nuconvert ([there are bad people in the pistachio business] (...but his head is so tiny...))
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To: JCG
Or maybe the reason...


8 posted on 08/05/2007 8:43:37 AM PDT by skimbell
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This is one of the stupidest things I’ve ever heard. There are some “double burka” kinda women out there, no doubt about it, but the beauty they miss...they’re insane.


9 posted on 08/05/2007 8:43:39 AM PDT by GBA (God Bless America!)
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To: skimbell

Hey, I know her!


10 posted on 08/05/2007 8:44:46 AM PDT by Emmett McCarthy
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To: SIDENET

LOL - beat me to it!


11 posted on 08/05/2007 8:45:25 AM PDT by Enterprise (I can't talk about liberals anymore because some of the words will get me sent to rehab.)
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To: SIDENET

I was secretly hoping someone would post her picture~ The Case for Burquas.


12 posted on 08/05/2007 8:45:28 AM PDT by small voice in the wilderness ( Bumper sticker idea: Hillary/Obama Nation '08. Let the desolation begin)
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To: GBA

In far western enclaves of the U.S. there are tribal customs that include ritualistic enhancement of womens’ breasts and the injection of toxins directly into the face.


13 posted on 08/05/2007 8:46:13 AM PDT by durasell (!)
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As long as she can lay down a b*tchin' bass line, who cares what she looks like.

14 posted on 08/05/2007 8:49:34 AM PDT by martin_fierro (< |:)~)
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Helen was indeed fortunate to be born an Arab.


15 posted on 08/05/2007 8:50:04 AM PDT by ErnBatavia (...forward this to your 10 very best friends....)
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To: durasell
In far western enclaves of the U.S. there are tribal customs that include ritualistic enhancement of womens’ breasts and the injection of toxins directly into the face.

There are plenty of men who get botox. There are also men who get pec-implants (but they are rigid silicone and not bags of gel. They also have implants for all the major muscle groups to give a “sculpted” look.

Remember Kerry with his orange sun tan? Vanity is exploding everywhere!

16 posted on 08/05/2007 8:50:18 AM PDT by Grizzled Bear ("Does not play well with others.")
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“Tribal Custom...”

In most cultures, there are customs and then there are perversions...usually, mutually exclusive. Islam is where customs are perversions.


17 posted on 08/05/2007 8:51:44 AM PDT by RouxStir (No Peeing Allowed in the Gene Pool.)
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To: farmer18th

In all fairness (yuck), that’s some twisted Arab tribal custom, not one of the many fascist islamic cult rules.


18 posted on 08/05/2007 8:54:03 AM PDT by visualops (artlife.us)
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* kaff *

19 posted on 08/05/2007 8:54:48 AM PDT by martin_fierro (< |:)~)
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To: ErnBatavia

unfortunately for us, she doesn’t follow that custom


20 posted on 08/05/2007 8:54:51 AM PDT by ari-freedom (Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity.)
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