Posted on 06/19/2007 9:28:11 PM PDT by Mr. Silverback
Note: This commentary was delivered by Prison Fellowship President Mark Earley.
In the book Unhooked: How Young Women Pursue Sex, Delay Love, and Lose at Both by Washington Post journalist Laura Sessions Stepp, many stories are told about young women who have plunged headlong into the hookup culture, only to end up bruised, broken, scared, and isolated.
Stepp spent time with high school and college girls who were all, to some extent, participating in this ubiquitous hookup culture. Their experiencesas disturbing as they areare something that every parent should know about. But in large part, its parents, along with educators and churches, who have fallen down on the job here.
These girls talk about parents who stress the importance of academic and career achievement but never talk to them about how to make relationships work, and often fail to set the example of a good marriage. For romantic education, they turn their kids over to the schools, who teach them all about the technical side of sex and little else. Sadly, our kids, who know more information about sex than possibly any previous generation, know almost nothing about howor even whyto maintain loving relationships.
Thus, a pattern is emerging of young women and men too busy, and too determined on independence, to build real relationships. They engage in brief sexual encounters with partners they hardly know, both parties seeking control and freedom from hurtand yet, somehow, guess what? They end up hurting anyway. In failing to teach our kids how to love, weve unwittingly sentenced them to a sexual landscape thats nothing more than a barren wasteland.
Even many of Stepps subjects recognize how backwards it is that they find it easier to go to bed with a stranger, than to walk across campus holding hands with a young man they like. They recognize itbut they have no idea how to change it. And, according to Stepp, biblical messages on this topic are not getting through to them either.
Does all this mean theres no hope for our kids to be able to live lives of purity? Not at all. Make sure you read the next two commentaries, because Im going to be talking about what we as Christian parents can do to keep our kids from ending up scarred, jaded, and wary of love and commitment. In particular, Mondays commentary, just after Fathers Day weekend, will focus on the difference that dads makea difference thats much bigger than you might realize.
As Stepp says in her book, Fathers and adolescent daughters do less together than fathers and sons, mothers and daughters, and mothers and sons. Would they do more if they knew that their daughters might drink less often, start dating later and begin sex later if they paid more attention? Thats what the research shows.
For more on what that means for you and your kids, be sure to read Mondays BreakPoint.
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Of course, I wouldn’t just blame girls for this.
We see the immature attitudes in men as well, but we tend to attribute women with having more sense and control, traditionally.
Im shocked that so many men I knew went on to have real relationships after their college misadventures.
Itâs the job of the females to weed out these immature men. Women have something that all men want. Not all men have something that all women want. What I mean is that if a women gets drunk at a party and becomes uninhibited to all the males there the men will line up at the door to take advantage. If a man gets drunk and acts similar he would most likely be thrown out on his ear by other men seeking to impress the women. Women have a duty to maintain their chastity. Men are dogs.
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