I'll respond. There are millions of children in the world who have no parents. Your friends, in their desire to have children, could have opened their hearts and home to any one or two or three or more of those children. Instead, they went with a donor. What assurances have these people been given that when their children grow up, they won't fall in love with and marry a 'sperm' sibling? The entire concept of donor insemination is wrong. It goes against the natural laws of procreation.
"The entire concept of donor insemination is wrong. It goes against the natural laws of procreation."
In your opinion. I would strongly disagree. So would my friends, who dearly love their children.
"What assurances have these people been given that when their children grow up, they won't fall in love with and marry a 'sperm' sibling?"
OK, my friends adopt a child instead. Exactly what assurances do they have THAT child won't grow up and fall in love with a sibling or half-sibling? None, of course. It's a pretty ridiculous worry in either case.
To the editor:
The article [“Hello, I’m Your Sister. Our Father is Donor 150,” Nov. 20, 2005] presents the rosy side of half-siblings who share the same sperm donor meeting and forging relationships with one another. I have spent time reading the same email listserve the reporter used and seen other stories as well. Some donor insemination mothers were surprised and vaguely disturbed to find their child’s half-siblings were of a different race. At least one heterosexual couple was shocked to find their child’s half-sibling being raised by lesbians. Other donor insemination mothers who were getting along famously, trading pictures of their kids and getting them together regularly, soon dropped all contact after feuding over what to call the biological father. Some mothers insist he is dad; others insist he is just a sperm donor.
What struck me most was the reporter’s frequent acknowledgement that these donor insemination kids long to feel “whole.” In the years to come, will these half-siblings be able to help each other in achieving that goal? We don’t yet know.
Sincerely,
Elizabeth Marquardt
Affiliate Scholar
Institute for American Values