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My comment was actually not intended to be about grief counseling per se, but rather years and years of therapy in an effort to "fix" one's life. You know, passing responsibility for one's problems to parents or spouses or whomever..."If only my (fill in the blank) had treated me better I wouldn't have this problem today.

Well, (and I say this as a child of a former family therapist) you do have that problem, we can't go back and fix it, so now....how are you going to deal with the reality.

I don't believe you can ever fix the death of a loved one. All you have is your ability to react to it, to weave it into the fabric of your life and make the best of a heart wrenching situation. In fact, I think "grief counseling" may just give people false hope that it can be fixed and everything will be "perfect again." It will always cause pain, but it doesn't have to destroy your life. That is the choice.

That's what I was intending...but it came across a little harsh, huh?