Posted on 07/15/2004 5:45:22 AM PDT by SJackson
Single women who have affairs with married men should be held accountable.
Monica Lewinsky has finally apologized – but to the wrong party. In a startling letter to Liz Smith of the New York Post highlighting her desire to take responsibility for her actions in having had an affair with the president, she writes that she took the opportunity in a recent television interview "to apologize to former president Clinton for having betrayed his trust by confiding in my friend Linda Tripp. It's an apology he was owed and one I wasn't sure had been given."
Talk about weird. Here you have a single woman who had an affair with a married man. But rather than apologize to the man's wife for having relations with her husband and causing her terrific pain, she apologizes to her former lover for betraying their secret. But then, single women who have affairs with married men are rarely held accountable. It's always the men that we blame while the women get off the hook.
To be sure, a lying and cheating husband is a greater offender than the single woman he cheated with because it is he who breaks his marital vows and sins against the woman who took his last name and bore his children. Married men who are unfaithful lack gratitude, display obscene selfishness, and offend the Creator who, in His infinite kindness, provided them with a life-long companion to mitigate their loneliness and provide erotic excitement.
Fair enough. But why should single women who have affairs with married man be treated as neutral parties who have done little wrong? Why indeed, in the sad Clinton-Lewinsky scandal, was all the opprobrium heaped on Bill and almost none on Monica? Why do single women who are home-wreckers get a pass?
If Monica Lewinsky were to have stolen Hillary Clinton's watch and gotten caught, surely she would have been condemned as a thief. And had she broken into the White House in the middle of the night and kidnapped Chelsea, she would have been hated as a kidnapper. But when she took away a woman's husband by trespassing the deepest intimacy which is the exclusive domain of a wife, she was made into an international celebrity and given an apparel line and at TV hosting job to boot.
America, it seems, is becoming a nation of adulterers. In my 2002 book Kosher Adultery, I charted the rapid growth in extramarital liaisons over the past few decades with the most startling increase being, surprisingly, among married women. Indeed, Newsweek magazine published a revealing cover story just last week about the shocking rise in the number of wives who are taking lovers and betraying their marriages.
A few years ago Cosmopolitan magazine went even further in asserting that married women are having more affairs than their husbands. Even if this is an exaggeration, there can be no doubt that the deep marital dissatisfaction among ignored and neglected wives has led to a startling explosion of women who believe that indulging their right to feel sexy in another man's arms is an acceptable solution to an unsatisfying relationship.
I wrote Kosher Adultery to demonstrate to married couples how the erotic sinfulness and steamy lust of adultery could be transferred into the legal institution of marriage. My desire was to teach husbands how to make their wives into their mistresses and turn their marriages into an affair.
No doubt, making marriages more passionate is a key ingredient in curbing the growing culture of infidelity. But there can be no substitute for the critical reproach that is mandatory in holding people accountable when they cheat on their spouses. And that means meting out significant social censure on the spouse who cheats and the partner they cheat with.
FAR FROM adultery being something benign – "It was just sex, honey; I didn't love her" – to be cheated on by one's spouse is one of the most painful and agonizing experiences a man or woman can ever endure, and we dare not trivialize it. In one study, a group of women described the trauma of discovering that their husbands had found a mistress akin to being present at their own funerals. When your husband replaces your body with that of another woman, it makes you feel like you're a corpse. You married this man because he made you feel special. Now, not only are you plain, you're non-existent. You've been replaced by someone more desirable.
I found it outrageous and immoral when so many people asserted that Hillary Clinton experienced no anguish in the Monica Lewinsky scandal because she and Bill "had an understanding." Here was a case of a wife's being robbed not only of her husband but of her legitimate right to experience pain. Dehumanizing her through speculation as to her supposed reptilian nature and her inability to feel aggrieved by a philandering husband was downright criminal, especially when many who were making the allegations claimed to be defenders of the institution of marriage.
And here we go again, with Lewinsky apologizing to Bill while offering no apology to the aggrieved spouse.
Some of my friends tell me that I am wrong to be so hard on Monica. They point out that single women who have affairs with married men are the ones left with a broken heart when the affair ends.
What an absurd argument. Just ask any of the women whose husbands cheated on them, and they will tell you that it was one of the most painful and humiliating experiences of their lives. The pain of an unhappy marriage is never assuaged by the momentary pleasures of a becoming a lying rogue.
Totally agree, despite how much I despise all of the parties involved.
Bill Clinton's the one who should apologize. He was the most powerful man in the world, someone whom lots of women swoon over, and he chooses to mess around with some pudgy insecure moronic simpleton like Lewinsky. That's just messed up.
Monica should appologize to Linda also, for dragging her nto Monica's messed up situation.
I thought sins were done against God. We may make other people feel bad, or even violate their rights, but aren't we sinning against God when we do that?
I have no idea who “SHMULEY BOTEACH” is…and if it’s a man or woman. But………..
“If Monica Lewinsky were to have stolen Hillary Clinton's watch and gotten caught, surely she would have been condemned as a thief…But when she took away a woman's husband by trespassing the deepest intimacy which is the exclusive domain of a wife…”
is absolutely ridiculous! Monica, in a most assuredly immature way, flashed her thong at the President of the United States. In his own immature way, the President “took the bait like a big-mouthed bass” as we say here in Texas. Rather than scold her and send her on her way, he did what he did “because he could”.
If, indeed, “it [adultery] makes you feel like you're a corpse”, then why didn’t Hillary just dump her philandering spouse. Feeling like a corpse was apparently an experience she was quite familiar with, from all accounts.
“Monica Lewinsky has finally apologized..” Well, good for her! She “betrayed his trust by confiding in my friend Linda Tripp” confirms to me that this still-immature twit has got fewer brains than a piece of cheese, and the depth of a birdbath. (She ought to be thanking Linda Tripp from the depths of her heart.)
Hillary?......
While I agree that a single person involved in an aduterous relationship is selfish and thoughtless, they have never made the promises or given the vows that make an adulterer an adulterer.
This is stupid. The Things actions were (and probably still are) classic sexual harassment. He even admitted to it(because I could). Yet the leftist media continues to make it out like some little indescetion. they both are disgusting. He is a unrepentant sexual predator, she is a brain-dead bimbo.
On an emotional level, I believe she is to Bill, as well.
Preeeeecisely.
'I thought sins were done against God. We may make other people feel bad, or even violate their rights, but aren't we sinning against God when we do that?'
You absolutely sin against other humans which is why Christians are commanded to forgive others and ask for forgiveness for their own sins against others. See the Lord's Prayer. These sins are naturally also sins against the Almighty which if repented of are forgiven by the Grace of God through Jesus Christ.
Don't remember the story of the prodigal son real well do you?
"Father, I have sinned against heaven and against you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son."
LOL, good point
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