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Whatever happened to dressing up on Easter Sunday?
The Pittsburgh Tribune-Review ^ | Saturday, April 10, 2004 | Alyson Walls

Posted on 04/11/2004 9:02:32 AM PDT by Willie Green

Although famed musical composer Irving Berlin thought them lovely enough to write a sonnet, nowadays few women are donning Easter bonnets.

In fact, you're more apt to see wrinkled khakis and rumpled polo shirts than pressed suits and pastel pumps at church on Sunday.

While Easter Sunday has traditionally been the day to show off your new spring finery, America has become a nation that dresses down, and not just on "casual Fridays" in the office.

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TOPICS: Culture/Society; Editorial
KEYWORDS: 5thavenueparade; church; easter; easterbonnets; easterparade; eastersunday; fashioncritiques; fashionreview; fasionistas; slobs; springfinery; theguild
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To: banyanroot
a mere 1% of what we blow on stylish clothes was instead donated to programs that help out the families of our brave troops, millions of dollars would be far better spent.

Amen.

401 posted on 04/13/2004 7:52:10 PM PDT by Rytwyng
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To: Vision
What do you suggest?

That was a suggestion.

Do you mean what denominations specifically do I suggest? If so, that would be difficult and inappropriate since I do not know you personally. But I would be happy to knock it around with you if it is a serious question. It might help you contemplate.

402 posted on 04/13/2004 8:05:30 PM PDT by Protagoras (When they asked me what I thought of freedom in America,,, I said I thought it would be a good idea.)
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To: adiaireton8
It is no accident that you think that how one acts and dresses in God's presence does not matter.

If I gave you that impression then I've inaccurately stated my position. I would never wear shorts to church, I honestly think business casual is more attractive and also more practical for church, especially during the summer. I cringe every time I see young girls at church showing more skin than modesty.

I have limits as well and I doubt anyone in church has ever looked at me and thought, "look how he is dressed, that's so disrespectful". Now my grandpa would chastise me if I didn't have a tie on in his church (he was a deacon for many years). I go to a church with a young crowd with families of their own and I dress in what I would consider an average fashion. Not flashy enough to stand out and not under dressed enough to draw ridicule.
403 posted on 04/13/2004 8:26:19 PM PDT by RockyMtnMan
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To: adiaireton8
Your motives appear to be well placed and I will take to heart your comments. I doubt I'll drag my one and only suit out of the closet or go out and spend a couple hundred on a new suit. My business casual attire is what I would consider nice and I think others would agree.

The money I would have used to buy a new suit will go into the offering in it's place. I would consider that a better investment for myself and those who would benefit from the money.
404 posted on 04/13/2004 8:31:52 PM PDT by RockyMtnMan
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To: RockyMtnMan
For me, It's a generational thing. I believe strongly in tradition: passing values down from one generation to another. I do think sloppy dress often indicates a lack of discipline. Hey I wear jeans also-but not to church. However, I believe in live and let live. I don't judge those who think differently than me. Nor do I believe God cares particularly.
405 posted on 04/13/2004 8:49:23 PM PDT by nyconse
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To: Mamzelle
I'm in God's presence many times when I'm not in church.

I presume you know that God is omnipresent. Then why did God ask Moses to take off his shoes on Mt. Sinai?

There is a difference between God's presence in virtue of His omnipresence, and God's special presence in the assembly of His people, and in the Eucharist. This is, in part, why we must not "forsake the assembling of ourselves together". Otherwise, we could all just stay at home on Sundays, and 'have church' by watching televangelists.

Given the Church-lady righteousness of your tone . . .

This is an ad hominem.

exactly what theology, scripture, or what dictates a certain dress code for church attendence?

The nature of God and the nature of man determine how man should behave toward God. You don't need a Bible to figure this out, just as you shouldn't need a Bible to know that children should honor their parents. Nature itself (i.e. reason itself) teaches us this. A fortiori, creation should honor and revere its omniscient, omnipresent, omnipotent, omnibenevolent Creator.

Once you know that in God's presence we should act (and dress) in a way that respects and reveres God, then to figure out exactly what that entails, one needs to know something about aesthetics. You have to be able to distinguish between ways of dressing that do not honor, respect and revere God, and ways of dressing that do.

I'd rather have someone wake up, put on the jeans, and arrive to partake in communal worship than miss because he doesn't have the suit cleaned.

Theology of worship is not determined by what *you* would rather have.

And I'll warn you that it's much easier to manage smaller children than teens in this regard--you may live to eat your smug words and self-congratulation.

"Mays" and "mights" are a dime a dozen. So are ad hominems.

If you can't get your teens ready for church on time, then you have a big problem. But I'll wager its not demons; more likely its a training problem that has its origins in their pre-teen years. My parents never had a problem with four teenagers being ready for church. From as early as I can remember we were taught to be ready for church out of respect for God. We didn't lose this habit when we became teenagers. Not being ready for church was simply not an option. My dad made it clear that as long as we wished to live under that roof, we would follow my parents' rules. And we did. I use the same philosophy in my family. My almost-10 year old gets herself ready for church (and school) without be told to do so. She does this not just because she has to, but because she wants to. She herself wants to know God and encounter Him in worship. So I don't have to drag her out the door on Sundays. She is usually in the car before me. I don't expect that to change when she becomes a teenager. "Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it." It is my responsibility as a parent not only to impart the proper habits to my children, but also to transmit to them the understanding and motivation that grounds those habits.

406 posted on 04/13/2004 8:59:17 PM PDT by adiaireton8 ("There is no greater evil one can suffer than to hate reasonable discourse." - Plato, Phaedo 89d)
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To: RockyMtnMan
I think we are pretty close to agreeing, from what I can gather from your last comments.
407 posted on 04/13/2004 9:02:12 PM PDT by adiaireton8 ("There is no greater evil one can suffer than to hate reasonable discourse." - Plato, Phaedo 89d)
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To: Rytwyng
Obviously, if you are actually unable to dress [in the manner you, adiaireton* interpret as] respectfully and reverently as long as you are in that condition, you are not obligated to do so.

No, I'm not talking about my interpretations of respectful dress. I'm talking about respectful and reverent dress. You can change the subject if you wish, but don't twist my words by changing what comes between the quotation marks. I meant exactly what I said.

Regarding your condition, I am sympathetic. It is hard for me to believe that you really cannot find a suit (or even shirt and tie) that does not make you absolutely miserable. (It seems like you could put a layer of comfortable clothing on underneath, e.g. cotton or whatever the casual clothes you can wear are made of, so that your skin wouldn't even touch the other offending kinds of fabric.) But if that is indeed the case, then you can't be expected to do what you just can't do. I remain convinced that most people do not share your physical condition, but, your point that we should give a person the benefit of the doubt on the principle of charity is well taken.

408 posted on 04/13/2004 9:40:31 PM PDT by adiaireton8 ("There is no greater evil one can suffer than to hate reasonable discourse." - Plato, Phaedo 89d)
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To: nyconse
I agree with the generation gap assessment. As important as it is to pass on tradition it is equally important to accept new ideas that do not conflict with our core beliefs. If we cave a little on dress code, not to the point of irreverence, and it brings more young people to church, then it should be looked at as a positive gain.

Maybe the right approach is one that many churches are taking now, where they have a sister church that caters to younger followers. I do think some of these churches are letting the ladies get away with way too much skin exposure and that should be reigned in.
409 posted on 04/13/2004 9:49:01 PM PDT by RockyMtnMan
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To: adiaireton8
To quantify further, I wear shorts and a t-shirt to work during the summer. I wear business casual to church, so what you might consider dressing down, I consider dressing up.

I stopped wearing suits about 8 years ago. Even though the one in the closet fits I don't consider it nicer than my business casual clothes. I only drag it out when I absolutely have to and that is a rare occasion. I never got used to wearing a suit and I don't have a desire to try again.
410 posted on 04/13/2004 9:55:23 PM PDT by RockyMtnMan
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To: adiaireton8
No, I'm not talking about my interpretations of respectful dress. I'm talking about respectful and reverent dress. You can change the subject if you wish.."

Since you have yet to provide an objective standard to define reverent, respectful dress, I am logically forced to continue to maintain that it is merely your interpretation, your opinion.

What was the dress code in the early church, when the vast majority of believers (indeed, of people alive at the time)owned only one set of clothes? Carpenters and fishermen came to church in their work clothes because the alternative was to go naked. Did Jesus or any of the Apostles ever tell them to save up their money and spend it on a fine suit so they'd look great in church?

It is hard for me to believe that you really cannot find a suit (or even shirt and tie) that does not make you absolutely miserable.

Oh, I have found a few... a very few... But they're so hard to find that I don't dare wear them out by wearing them every week; I save them for the rare occasions (2 or 3 times a year) when one *absolutely must* dress up -- eg, weddings, funerals, etc. If I win the lottery maybe I can accommodate your tastes.

It seems like you could put a layer of comfortable clothing on underneath, e.g. cotton or whatever the casual clothes you can wear are made of, so that your skin wouldn't even touch the other offending kinds of fabric.

Multiple layers? IN THIS HEAT???????????????? To paraphrase C.S. Lewis, "regardless of whether or not it ought to happen, the fact is, it will not happen..."

I remain convinced that most people do not share your physical condition

And I remain equally convinced that there are lot more than you realize. I may have a more extreme case than most, but I am by no means alone.

I have carefully considered your views (not just recently, I thought this through long ago)...but I don't think you've really given serious consideration to mine. So I have to ask -- Have you even considered the possibility that many (perhaps most) of the casually dressed church attenders whom you condemn, are motivated solely by physical discomfort,not irreverence?

**** sigh****

The real problem here, is that there's no Romans 14 solution to this problem. Romans 14 basically teaches that when 2 believers are in a state of disagreement, then the one with the laxer standard should give way to the stricter (even if the stricter one is ultimately wrong). For example, one man feels free in the Lord to have a glass of wine with dinner, and another feels a strong conviction that all alcohol use, no matter how moderate, is a sin. If these two men have dinner together, the proper course for the drinker is to abstain in that situation. After all, he doesn't believe he MUST drink, and the other fellow believes he must not, so, an alcohol-free table is acceptable for both of them.

However, this logic CANNOT be applied to our dispute because there is no place you and I can go, that doesn't severely offend at least one of us. In my church, you'd be offended at the apparent irreverence of the casually dressed worshippers, because you have a much stricter standard of style. In your church, I'd be equally if not more offended by the dress code which I find physically so uncomfortable as to be utterly repellent -- or in other words, I have a much stricter standard of comfort. (Not to mention, I also happen to think it's scripturally unsupportable). So there's no place where we can meet --there isn't a neutral ground. What to do?

411 posted on 04/14/2004 12:43:58 AM PDT by Rytwyng
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To: RockyMtnMan
I have no problem with causally dressed people at church. It is their decision. I am still shocked when I see such people at weddings! I am not sure that this constant "casual" attitude is that good for people. There is a time and a place to dress to a certain extent:work, social occasions, church (I think) etc. It just seems as if people today lack the discipline that our parents had in terms of a work ethic, spending, raising kids,even good manners and our dress reflects this trend. I taught school for a number of years before having my last three children (had one). I can tell you, the schools I taught in that had strict dress codes (suit jackets for boys,skirts for girls) had much better discipline than schools where very casual (and often skimpy) dress was permitted. We dress in the best that we have when we go to church in order to pass on to our children how important we believe it is to attend services and to worship in general. They say Ronald Reagan would not take his jacket off in the oval office. Contrast this with Bill Clinton who engaged in -well you know- in the oval office. Clinton was very casual and often wore jeans in the oval office. He had little respect for the "people house" or traditions surrounding the presidency. LOL
412 posted on 04/14/2004 1:19:34 AM PDT by nyconse
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To: Rytwyng
Since you have yet to provide an objective standard to define reverent, respectful dress, I am logically forced to continue to maintain that it is merely your interpretation, your opinion.

Logic does not force that conclusion. Imagine that I was talking about an objective standard of ethics, but I had not yet described specific ethical prescriptions and prohibitions regarding the treatment of the unborn child. In that case, you would not be "logically forced" to continue to maintain that what I was talking about regarding the treatment of the unborn child was merely my interpretation or opinion of ethics. Why? Because even though I had not yet mentioned any specific objective ethical requirements regarding the treatment of the unborn, there very well might still *be* such requirements, and I very well might still know them. Likewise, in this present case, logic does not provide the conclusion you reach here.

What was the dress code in the early church, when the vast majority of believers (indeed, of people alive at the time)owned only one set of clothes? Carpenters and fishermen came to church in their work clothes because the alternative was to go naked. Did Jesus or any of the Apostles ever tell them to save up their money and spend it on a fine suit so they'd look great in church?

First, the behavior of Christians in the early church does not determine the proper behavior for Christians in all times. (E.g. Acts 2:44, 4:32) Second, the fact that persons who only possess carpenter's or fishermen's clothes cannot dress up does not mean that those who can dress up needn't. A homeless person cannot provide hospitality in the form of shelter, but that does not mean that homeowners need not provide hospitality. Third, the person who only posseses the means for carpenter's or fishermen's clothes can express his reverence and respect for God by at least cleaning his clothes and his body before coming to church. Fourth the Apostles were called to poverty. Not every Christian is called to the life of poverty. We are not all called to "have no place to lay our head", as was true of Christ.

but I don't think you've really given serious consideration to mine.

The question is not how much time have I spent thinking about your views. The question is how well have I defended my position against your objections. I have said that those who have your physical condition are exempt from the requirement to dress up for church. They are not exempt from doing whatever is in their power to present themselves respectfully and reverently in church.

The real problem here, is that there's no Romans 14 solution to this problem. . . . However, this logic CANNOT be applied to our dispute because there is no place you and I can go, that doesn't severely offend at least one of us. In my church, you'd be offended at the apparent irreverence of the casually dressed worshippers, because you have a much stricter standard of style. In your church, I'd be equally if not more offended by the dress code which I find physically so uncomfortable as to be utterly repellent -- or in other words, I have a much stricter standard of comfort. (Not to mention, I also happen to think it's scripturally unsupportable). So there's no place where we can meet --there isn't a neutral ground. What to do?

You are misrepresenting my position. First, this is not about me, or what offends me. This is about how Christians ought to dress in church. Second, there is nothing wrong with Christians dressing casually in church if that is the best they can do given their physical or financial condition, just as their is nothing wrong with the homeless man not providing shelter to the stranger. So, this 'problem' you are lamenting is not so unresolvable as you suggest.

413 posted on 04/14/2004 5:51:36 AM PDT by adiaireton8 ("There is no greater evil one can suffer than to hate reasonable discourse." - Plato, Phaedo 89d)
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To: adiaireton8
I think "pride" and "vanity" and "haughty spirit" might be something for you to keep an eye on in your walk, as you are very quick to condemn on the basis of a few blue jeans -- a superficial matter-- and are convicted of the notion that dress provides you with some kind of sanctity. You sure enjoy telling people how wonderful you are.

But I also invite you to take the last word--

414 posted on 04/14/2004 5:54:20 AM PDT by Mamzelle (for a post-Neo conservatism)
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To: Willie Green
I agree.

In my church this Sunday many of the teenagers---and even a few of the adults---were wearing jeans. That says something about (dis)respect.
415 posted on 04/14/2004 5:56:16 AM PDT by Minuteman23
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To: Mamzelle
I think "pride" and "vanity" and "haughty spirit" might be something for you to keep an eye on in your walk

Ad hominem.

as you are very quick to condemn on the basis of a few blue jeans -- a superficial matter-- and are convicted of the notion that dress provides you with some kind of sanctity.

Ad hominem.

You sure enjoy telling people how wonderful you are

Ad hominem.

Do you have any criticisms of my *position*? Or do you only have ad hominems?

416 posted on 04/14/2004 7:02:41 AM PDT by adiaireton8 ("There is no greater evil one can suffer than to hate reasonable discourse." - Plato, Phaedo 89d)
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To: adiaireton8
adhom, adhom, adhom---Let me add to the ads--a crank, a bore, and prissily enamored of your self-image as Mrs. Spock.

Just because it's an ad homina--don't mean it ain't TRUE.

Now, have your last last word.

417 posted on 04/14/2004 7:50:53 AM PDT by Mamzelle (for a post-Neo conservatism)
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To: Mamzelle
adhom, adhom, adhom---Let me add to the ads--a crank, a bore, and prissily enamored of your self-image as Mrs. Spock.

More ad hominems.

Do you have anything of substance to say regarding this question about dressing respectively, or do you simply feel like spewing invective?

418 posted on 04/14/2004 5:58:58 PM PDT by adiaireton8 ("There is no greater evil one can suffer than to hate reasonable discourse." - Plato, Phaedo 89d)
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To: adiaireton8
..Imagine that I was talking about an objective standard of ethics, but I had not yet described specific ethical prescriptions and prohibitions regarding the treatment of the unborn child. In that case, you would not be "logically forced" to continue to maintain that what I was talking about regarding the treatment of the unborn child was merely my interpretation or opinion of ethics. Why? Because even though I had not yet mentioned any specific objective ethical requirements regarding the treatment of the unborn, there very well might still *be* such requirements, and I very well might still know them...

That's a false comparison because we DO have objective Biblical doctrine regarding that point. But though that's a false analogy, let's run with it. What indeed ARE those requirements, that you believe you still "know", regarding this issue? End the argument once and for all by describing the "specific ethical prescriptions and prohibitions" regarding the appropriate clothing for church. Exclude such obvious considerations as modesty and cleanliness, on which we already agree, and even disregard questions of the parishioner's physical comfort (ADHDers or not), and address the heart of the issue: Where do you get this idea that wearing "formal" clothing to church somehow shows greater respect for God?

Q. What was the dress code in the early church. A. First, the behavior of Christians in the early church does not determine the proper behavior for Christians in all times. (E.g. Acts 2:44, 4:32)

True, however, if the early Christians did it, it's hard to argue that it's WRONG. What else did the early church get wrong?

Second, the fact that persons who only possess carpenter's or fishermen's clothes cannot dress up does not mean that those who can dress up needn't.

Again, where do you get the idea that the person who CAN dress up, DOES need to? I'm still searching for the source of this idea.

Third, the person who only posseses the means for carpenter's or fishermen's clothes can express his reverence and respect for God by at least cleaning his clothes and his body before coming to church.

You already know that I agree with you on this point. Why bring it up?

Fourth the Apostles were called to poverty. Not every Christian is called to the life of poverty.

So the holiest among us, attend church in jeans, while everyone else dresses up and makes them look "lowly" by comparison? Hmmmmm... Ask Mother Teresa about that one.

The question is not how much time have I spent thinking about your views. The question is how well have I defended my position against your objections.

One and the same. I haven't yet seen you successfully defend anything yet.

I have said that those who have your physical condition are exempt from the requirement to dress up for church.

Leaving aside the ADHD/tactile hypersensitivity exemptions, where do you get the idea that there's a requirement to begin with?

They are not exempt from doing whatever is in their power to present themselves respectfully and reverently in church.

Clean, neat, modest... sure. What else?

this is not about me, or what offends me. This is about how Christians ought to dress in church.

Well.. sorry, but it sure seemed that you are indeed offended. Glad to hear you are not.

Second, there is nothing wrong with Christians dressing casually in church if that is the best they can do given their physical or financial condition

Back to the core issue. Whence cometh that "if" clause? Why can't you say, "there is nothing wrong with Christians dressing casually in church, PERIOD". I ask again, where do you get the idea that dressing up for church, somehow honors God? That's the core question of the evening.

419 posted on 04/14/2004 9:18:27 PM PDT by Rytwyng
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To: Rytwyng
Here's a rough draft form of the argument:

(P1) Every human person is obligated to honor and revere and respect God above all other things, insofar as it is in our power.
(P2) Church is a place where God is present in a special way.
(C1) Whenever human persons are in God's special presence, we are obligated to honor and revere and respect God in extraordinary ways (i.e. not just in the ordinary ways we honor God in our every day life).(from P1, and certain passages in Scripture, such as God telling Moses to take of his shoes.)
(C2) Whenever human persons are in church, we are obligated to honor and revere and respect God above all other things, in extraordinary ways, insofar as it is in our power. (from P2 and C1)
(P3) Dressing formally (as opposed to casually) is a way of showing honor and respect for those whose presence we enter so attired.
(C3) Choosing to dress informally, when one has the ability and means to dress formally, is a way of choosing not to show one form of honor and respect to those whose presence one enters so attired.(P3)
(C4) Those who have the ability and means to dress formally for church, and yet choose to dress causally for church, are failing to fulfill their obligation to honor God above all other things in extraordinary ways insofar as it is in their power, all other things being equal. (C2, C3)
(C5) Whenever human persons are in church, we are obligated to dress formally, insofar as it is in our power, all other things being equal. (C4)

Among the things that come in under the "insofar as it is in our power" clause are: our financial means, our physical condition, our meterological condition, etc. Also, among the things that come in under the "all other things being equal" clause are the prohibitions against ostentatious dress and the prohibitions against provocative or enticing dress.

420 posted on 04/14/2004 11:33:04 PM PDT by adiaireton8 ("There is no greater evil one can suffer than to hate reasonable discourse." - Plato, Phaedo 89d)
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