Posted on 08/24/2022 2:02:07 PM PDT by Brookhaven
My company recently expanded its parental leave policy so that anyone, regardless of gender, gets the same, generous leave of six months fully paid. It’s called “bonding leave” so the intent is pretty clear. One of my male colleagues told me very matter of factly that he is intending to take his full leave after his wife’s paid maternity leave is up. But, instead of caring for the baby, he is going to get a “second” job for 6 months and his wife is going to stay home with the baby and take unpaid leave from her job. In effect, he will have two salaries (but work one job), and she will have no salary. They will actually net out ahead financially because he earns more than her. He is actually going to make tremendously more money during those 6 months, because he is going to do an hourly contractor job, since his benefits are paid for by our company.
I’m appalled but can’t put my finger on why this bothers me so much. His point is that our company – a Fortune 500 company with tens of thousands of employees and plenty of money – is not paying a penny more than they would otherwise; he doesn’t want to care for the baby full-time and his wife desperately does, so they are “maximizing utility.” I didn’t want to ask too many questions because it would have been clear I disapprove. Part of it is, I’m a new mom myself but had my baby before the new policy was announced so was only able to take 18 weeks (still generous, but I’m definitely jealous and kind of mad my baby didn’t “count” in the new policy).
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Sounds like he’s being a good father and working so his wife can stay home with the baby. You know...the traditional way we used to do this, and built the greatest civilization the world has ever known based on that model.
The company offers it, and he’s using it in a way that will provide for his family to maxim benefit as he sees fit.
I don’t think it anyone else’s business how he does that.
It is dishonest. The man is not to be trusted.
LOL!
Poor people. They just don’t realize how great this economy is ... according to Biden.
Is the baby a trans?
I had a coworker take his ten days of paternity leave as twenty golf afternoons.
He told her about it, but that didn’t make it her business. People have often told me stuff that’s none of my business, but I ignore it rather than spout it to the world as this woman is doing.
How unusual! Was his partner (the chest feeder) assigned female at birth?
My position on paternity leave: The day after the delivery a man should be back at work, working twice as hard to demolish the competition. As soon as the baby's eyes can focus, when he goes to pick him or her up, and for about eight months afterwards, the baby has that, "Oh, crap - not you again" moment which is not good for Dad or baby.
A better arrangement is one year paternity leave when they turn 16, when you actually can do some useful things that birthing persons aren't so good at.
Systems have loop holes some master what other don’t see.
The guy is a bum, taking advantage of his fellow employees. At my work we have “men” who have taken 3+ paternity leaves (and more) over a few years and it places a huge burden on co-workers who have to take up the slack. In the days when America was great, men wouldn’t even consider such an absurdity. These guys are golfing all day and spending maybe an hour shaking car keys at their newborn infants...who sleep 16 hours a day. Absurd policy.
Depends on company policy. If he’s transparent about it, I say fine.
She should look at this as an advantage for her. If a promotion comes up in the next 6 months she will be ahead of him. The six months will also either increase the gap in their qualification levels(if she is more experienced to begin with) or close the gap if she is less experienced. It is still a net benefit for her over him if it is a competitive work environment regarding promotions.
He either qualifies for the time off under the company's rules or he doesn't. I personally think it's ridiculous that men are getting paternity leave after their wife has a baby but I don't make the rules. Pete Buttgigger took two months off from his work and he's just a gay guy that adopted a baby, that's ludicrous but the government's rules say he can do it so ethically he did nothing wrong.
This woman is a busybody and it's none of her business.
I’ve read some stories about guys who are working multiple “remote” jobs simultaneously. If they’re making their bosses happy, so be it.
Burn him with the employer.
She’ll also have six solid months for backstabbing and undermining the guy. He might as well not come back.
Not only a smart guy but his wife and baby will benefit greatly by it. He’s being a good dad by providing for his family. Who cares if the company is paying for his leave. Unless there are restrictions in this company benefit he can do what he pleases and Allison should mind her own business.
Not only a smart guy but his wife and baby will benefit greatly by it. He’s being a good dad by providing for his family. Who cares if the company is paying for his leave. Unless there are restrictions in this company benefit he can do what he pleases and Allison should mind her own business.
Gee who couldn’t see this coming.
I wouldn’t, either. Then again, I wouldn’t want anyone on my team. I hate teams.
Best answer!
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