Posted on 08/24/2022 2:02:07 PM PDT by Brookhaven
My company recently expanded its parental leave policy so that anyone, regardless of gender, gets the same, generous leave of six months fully paid. It’s called “bonding leave” so the intent is pretty clear. One of my male colleagues told me very matter of factly that he is intending to take his full leave after his wife’s paid maternity leave is up. But, instead of caring for the baby, he is going to get a “second” job for 6 months and his wife is going to stay home with the baby and take unpaid leave from her job. In effect, he will have two salaries (but work one job), and she will have no salary. They will actually net out ahead financially because he earns more than her. He is actually going to make tremendously more money during those 6 months, because he is going to do an hourly contractor job, since his benefits are paid for by our company.
I’m appalled but can’t put my finger on why this bothers me so much. His point is that our company – a Fortune 500 company with tens of thousands of employees and plenty of money – is not paying a penny more than they would otherwise; he doesn’t want to care for the baby full-time and his wife desperately does, so they are “maximizing utility.” I didn’t want to ask too many questions because it would have been clear I disapprove. Part of it is, I’m a new mom myself but had my baby before the new policy was announced so was only able to take 18 weeks (still generous, but I’m definitely jealous and kind of mad my baby didn’t “count” in the new policy).
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Wife is taking 6 month paid maternity leave. Wife is then going to take 6 months unpaid leave. At that point, husband will take 6 month paid paternal leave offered by his company. Instead of being a stay at home dad, he is getting a job during that six months. This second income is what will allow his wife to stay at home with the child for an extra six months, otherwise she would have to go back to work while the dad stayed home with the child.
Is the dad a good-guy or a bad-guy?
The cost to his company is the same either way.
My question would be: Is this any business of the woman complaining about it?
Is the company offering the leave on their own or forced by the government?
He kind of made it her business, didn't he?
Nonetheless, I wouldn't care. Fortune 500 companies are pure evil anyway. They will be offering massive benefits for trannies soon enough as well, so everyone should just milk the system any way they can, until our dying nation finally goes belly up.
That is not okay.
He’s given leave for an intended purpose.
Very unethical behavior. I would not want him on my team.
“I’m appalled but can’t put my finger on why this bothers me so much.”
Rocket scientist.
“Is the dad a good-guy or a bad-guy?”
Good or bad, the dad is a smart guy.
He’s given leave for an intended purpose.
= = =
He is caring for his baby.
Kind of in a tertiary manner.
He probably ain’t even the father.
“He’s given leave for an intended purpose.”
Perhaps, but he would still take the leave one way or another even if he didn’t intend to work 2 jobs. So I’m sure the company couldn’t care less since they will pay either way. And if the company does not care, then why should I?
Perhaps the husband’s company should verify that he is entitled to the benefit.
My state verified that I was looking for employment while I collected unemployment benefits.
It is dishonest for him to say he is doing one thing and doing another. The company should reconsider a policy that places its employees in this position.
I thought I heard that a company is allowed to terminate you if they find out you’ve been hired elsewhere, even if under the table, for this kind of thing. Or that you owe the money back. I just remember that there was some sort of repercussion for taking advantage of the situation.
He would be an even better guy if he would allow her to do it forever.
Kids, why have them if you do not plan to raise them?
“I would not want him on my team.”
I wouldn’t, either. Then again, I wouldn’t want anyone on my team. I hate teams.
What about his teammates that are picking up his slack so he can “bond” with his baby? Bad enough, but they aren’t saying OK so he can double dip!
Possibly the scenario of a employee being a trans (fake) female and it’s husband is a trans (fake) male and is the one having a baby.
Agree.
Welcome to the new normal. “Ubi Mea” was the unofficial slogan of the Chicago City Council, according to Mike Royko. Now it has become the national credo. “In benefits we trust. Leave the debt for the kids to settle.”
I’m jealous. I made sure I was in labor on the weekend when birthing our kids, so my husband could be there with me for the labor and delivery. He was back to work on Monday! We had no such thing as parental leave in our day. It was unpaid if you wanted the the time off, or else you took a “vacation” day. Not even sick days were allowed unless you had a real illness. Often needed a doctor’s note to return!
I wonder if his current company also has any rules about a second job. Mine allows it but it must be approved.
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