“who pays for what”
C’mon, man. You are going to pay. Sooner or later, one way or another, she will collect.
Might as well get it out of the way up front.
If she’s reaching for her purse when the check comes, you’re being friend zoned.
Which is much cheaper in the long run...
Of course you reach for the check and then IF she happens to say something like, "I got this" or "what's my portion?", you say, "No, no, I got this. You can get the next one."
If there should happen to be a second date, you just do the same thing.
You, being the male, buy the meal and drinks, certainly, if you want a 2nd date.
Sorry, its the way it works, especially when you are dating middle-aged women who have been around the block already. As the article says - Feminism? Its all bullshyte at that point
Sorry, its just reality, proven by gobs of research and observation on the post-divorce dating scene
The guy pays. Because she has the p***y.
AAAGGHHHH ><
How do you get to 50 and still ask DUMB !@# questions like this?
I take it back. We don’t just need adults to stand up and say “NO”. We also need adults to stand up and say “FIND YOUR BALLS”.
however, if you decide to start dating anyway, at least have the balls to acknowledge that you don't want to pay for her and stop dating her....
what a wimpy society...
bad enough we're among communists now we get the wimps afraid to pay for dates...
Years ago I was dating a pretty girl who was part American Indian but she was full into Indian culture. After our first date to Outback where I paid I next asked her to a place that was a little cheaper and she was MAD. I was going to pay the whole ticket of course but found out Shoney’s was just beneath her. So the second date didn’t happen. I think I dodged a bullet on that one. She could have just recommended another place instead of acting like she had been insulted.
Its only money, money just gives you options. You can't die and take it with you.
She's either worth or she's not.
I’ am sure that I have been out with hundreds of women and I don’t believe I’ve had a woman offer to pay anything other than maybe once or twice. I haven’t really wanted them to. It is just the way it is.
You are a man. You pay. if that offends her, you don’t need her. She will be nothing but a pain in the ass. If you are putting forth your talent as a gigolo then things are different.
I’m so glad I don’t have to worry about dating in today’s world...
Simple: get her pregnant so she gets welfare and can afford to buy you drinks, or anything else you want.
Plus she’ll have lots of money to make herself look nice.
(Sarcasm... or is it?)
dude, the answer is you just invite her straight to your hot bachelor pad for a home cooked meal......
It’s been a loooooong time since I was dating, but it seems to me the guy should pay, at least during the early phase. After a while if the relationship grows then you can be a little more casual about it.
And if money’s tight, why not invite her over and prepare a GREAT meal for her. It’s a lot cheaper and done right, the food is better. AND . . . she’s in your house.
Don’t forget to serve wine.
Whoever does the inviting, pays. If the woman wants to argue about it, tell her that’s your rule and that she’s welcome to ask you out and pay then. If she still wants to argue, then you know that she’s more interested in being a feminist than in being a gracious date.
In my book you pay every meal. If she wants to pay you can let her. But I prefer to pay so I can order what I want. If its too expensive. Try cheaper things like make her dinner or a picnic. She just wants to go out and have fun. There are lots of ways to do it without spending too much money.
And by the way daughters cost a lot more and you always pay for them.
The woman never paid for anything when I was dating, certainly not dinner, drinks or entertainment and not even if we went into a shop while being tourists. If you don’t have money you shouldn’t date women.
After the 19th and Equal Rights Amendments, I refuse to treat anyone special and consider it offensive when they don’t offer to pay a portion, if not pick up the entire tab.
I refuse to sleep with them, call them or even walk them to the door, unless I am demanding they leave my presence....
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Whoever gives the invitation pays.