Yes.
I have read that parents who don’t spank yell more. Kids eyes will glaze over while they wait for the rant to end, learning nothing and not changing the behavior.
The one time I got the belt I had black-and-blue marks for a week...
It’s been 40 years and I STILL won’t tell a lie to my Father.
Used appropriately, negative physical feedback can be very effective. Used too much, and it can have an opposite effect as we see in cases of generational abuse.
This brain trust is completely disregarding the effect that the kids' social group has on their attitude. IMHO spanking was not meted out often enough, nor to the right subject.
“spanking inhibits the learning process . . . It leads to anger, depression, violence and alcohol and drug abuse. It breeds hostility toward authority . . . and spawns other antisocial behaviors.” Physical punishment, he continues “is associated with legions of sullen, angry, violence-prone boys . . . ” “
Evidence, please. (not poster, the person quoted).
I was spanked rarely and rarely spanked, but when I was or did, it was because other methods failed to work or the bad behavior was such that it could get someone killed (or worse).
Last resort, never in anger, rare, but sometimes necessary.
Punishment needs to be effective to create self-discipline in children. Spanking does that. I’m not sure whether there are more effective ways for most parents to instill that self-discipline. I suspect there may be but whether there are or not, its better to spank and have a child who can control himself or herself and be responsible for his or her own actions than a wild little terror who grows up to be irresponsible, lazy, unproductive and a net drain on society and his or her family.
There is a difference between a spanking and a beating.
What Adrian Peterson did was not spanking and he should be kicked out of the NFL and put in jail.
As with anything a parent must mete out punishment in calmer moments, not when you're angry. With my own kids I think spankings are best used for immediate behavior modification, and not as punishment per se. And thankfully I rarely have to do it.
What we have here is the same situation we have with the use of guns, food, and cold medicine: Because a few people abuse something then EVERYONE must stop doing it immediately, or their liberties MUST be stifled with more laws.
Didn’t we just go through this about a week ago?
I’ve just finished the draft for a book, regarding kids who totally own their parents.
Spanking is discussed as an option, along with about 60 other things a parent can do to subdue an incorrigible child. Just be wise about it.
The proper answer to this is that it is not a topic to be discussed in public. The father is the Biblical, God-appointed head of the household. In that domain, the father is answerable ONLY to God. No person has a right to interfere or inquire.
Women who feel the father goes to far can and do leave. But they must be sure that the threat to then merits the consequences for stepping out of the authority of the husband. Women are required by God to submit to their husbands and so breaking that covenant should never be done lightly. It should be rare and done only in extreme circumstances. The 50% divorce rate of today is a sign that women have been taught by feminism to rebel against God.
Regardless of what happens, all details should be kept within the family, save the participation of trusted clergyman who is right with God.
Not that I am parent of the year but I think the key thing is actually enjoying and liking your children. There isn't anyone on the planet I'd rather be with more than my kids.
Yes.
“Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far from him.” -Proverb
It is better for parents to discipline a child early than to see that child disciplined by police later on.
The current powers in federal government give much evidence that they did not experience discipline when it was most needed.
My son is 8.5 and I ‘ve only had whoop his butt 3 times,,, he is a better person because of them..
It called deterrence.
spanking is fine unless/until you start liking it too much
A lot of parenting is about children learning that the parents are in control of them, not vice versa (as they seem to learn in school).
There are a lot of ways to demonstrate control, including spanking. However, if you beat the crap out of your kid, you only show him that you cannot control your anger.
My answer is yes. I spanked my boys.
I didn’t bum-rush them through the door into the garage and across the hood of the car, though. I considered that just slightly out of bounds.
IMHO, a direct parallel to the Judicial revolving-door....do the crime, do the time, get out and start the process over again. If there is NO punishment (I don’t consider ‘time’ in a stocked gym with A/C, 3 squares, etc. ‘detrimental’), why worry?