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Teen Sex Sleepovers: The Latest Fad in Immoral Sex Education
Life News ^ | Brad Mattes

Posted on 08/23/2013 11:04:07 AM PDT by Morgana

Just when I think I’ve heard it all, I come across something that makes me pause in disgust. This week, I read an article from the Huffington Post titled, “How Do You Feel about Sex and Teenage Sleepovers?”

There’s no doubt how I feel, but let’s first take a look at what the author said. In the first paragraph she asks, “Why not teach children how to have sex well, the way you teach them how to do other things?” She elaborates, describing parents inviting the teenager’s partner over, having a nice dinner and then the couple “toddles” off to bed together. (In reality, that’s just permitting the behavior to take place, not actually educating.)

Then she goes further stating, “It seems logical to me that the same way I try to teach my kids to exercise, sleep well and be good people, I would teach them to have healthy sex with other good people.” Appalling mental scenarios come to mind, but I’m not going there.

The author’s arguments in the article are built on a number of faulty premises. I’ll address three:

Blaming abstinence-only sex-education for the teen pregnancy rate in the US. Abstinence-only sex-ed has become increasingly rare in our schools, instead being replaced by so-called comprehensive sex-ed. The truth is, comprehensive sex-ed isn’t working. It fosters an environment of promoting adolescent sexual activity by implying that teen relationships should include sex. Further, it falsely assumes that teens don’t have the ability to avoid sexual experimentation. Teens are actually empowered by embracing sexual purity. For example, a group called Healthy Visions has been welcomed into high schools to tackle tough issues like promiscuity. They present teens with the consequences of sexual activity and empower them to make better life choices. Through their no-nonsense, straight-forward approach, teens are shown they can “change their story.” The impact it’s had on students’ lives is nothing short of astounding. To meet some of their successes firsthand, watch our Emmy Award-winning episode of Facing Life Head-On called “Teens Making Healthy Choices.” Presenting only two perspectives: either abstinence means “sex-is-bad” or promiscuity equals “sex-is-awesome.” Just because a person believes in abstinence doesn’t mean that he or she thinks sex is bad. In fact, I support abstinence and think sex is great! But it’s a gift to be given within marriage, rather than promoting it as something casual. It’s an act that’s to be treated with respect. Recently, Duck Dynasty stars Jase Robertson and wife Missy shared why they chose to wait until marriage to have sex. Jase told reporters, “We were both virgins when we got married until our wedding night. We decided to do it God’s way and basically had a godly agreement that we would help each other get to heaven.” Teaching teens respect and encouraging self-control reinforces how awesome sex really is and why it’s important to wait for the right time and the right person to enjoy it. Downplaying the risks of teen sex, while calling abstinence the “scare-them-silly” camp. We live in a highly sex-saturated culture that mocks abstinence. Unfortunately, this has made it easy for teens to embrace casual sex. Yet, there are consequences for those actions. No matter how “healthy” and “responsible” sex is, young people are putting themselves at risk of sexually transmitted diseases, unplanned pregnancies and all but certain emotional repercussions. This isn’t about instilling a false sense of fear; there are real dangers that exist and cannot be ignored. Abstinence offers the only truly healthy alternative.

Surprisingly, there’s one thing that the author and I agree on—the role of parents. She writes, “It also turns out that parents have more influence on what their kids think and do about sex than teachers do. Parental attitudes, it turns out, are far more influential and meaningful.” (Emphasis mine) That’s why it’s crucial we stay engaged in our children’s lives and not be afraid to discuss sexual purity. We have to be honest; it isn’t easy for teens to remain abstinent. Olympic athlete, Lolo Jones shared this about her efforts to remain abstinent, “It’s just something, a gift that I want to give to my husband. But please understand this journey has been hard… Harder than training for the Olympics, harder than graduating from college, has been to stay a virgin before marriage.”

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What’s not surprising is abortion-giant Planned Parenthood also openly advocates for teen sex. From their perspective, “The solution… is to teach young people how to experience sexual pleasure instead of teaching them not to have sex.” Their motive is clear. When teens are sexually active, they need to rely on Planned Parenthood’s services, including their lucrative abortion “services.” It’s a sick and manipulative approach that essentially fuels Planned Parenthood’s business model. And it’s even more reason we must diligently fight to protect the lives of not just the unborn, but of our young people.


TOPICS: Chit/Chat; Society; Weird Stuff
KEYWORDS: abortion; antiabstinence; clintonlegacy; cultureofcorruption; culturewar; homosexualagenda; indoctrination; itsjustsex; justdoit; moralabsolutes; prolife; sexpositiveagenda; sexualizingchildren; teensex

1 posted on 08/23/2013 11:04:07 AM PDT by Morgana
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To: Morgana

Nazis basically did this...


2 posted on 08/23/2013 11:05:08 AM PDT by goodnesswins (R.I.P. Doherty, Smith, Stevens, Woods.)
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To: goodnesswins

Leftists are insane

Brave New World


3 posted on 08/23/2013 11:05:25 AM PDT by GeronL
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To: GeronL
I remember being a teenager when the movie Endless Love came out.

That film featured scenes of Brooke Shields having a sex sleepover in her parent's home.

The general reaction amongst my peers at the time was "Cool! And kinda creepy!"


4 posted on 08/23/2013 11:10:16 AM PDT by Buckeye McFrog
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To: Morgana

and nowadays, they can all be of the same sex...


5 posted on 08/23/2013 11:11:11 AM PDT by bigbob
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To: Morgana

6 posted on 08/23/2013 11:14:05 AM PDT by Blood of Tyrants (Tyranny is defined as that which is legal for the government but illegal for the people. T Jefferson)
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To: Buckeye McFrog

You have heard that if you don’t use a barrier it could kill you? Well, I am the barrier and I will kill you if you try to have sex with my daughter.


7 posted on 08/23/2013 11:15:53 AM PDT by Blood of Tyrants (Tyranny is defined as that which is legal for the government but illegal for the people. T Jefferson)
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To: Morgana
the role of parents

The author is seriously confused.

1) Parents are extremely influential on their children,

2) Their children are going to have sex regardless of what their parents think so the parents should just go along with it....

I propose option 'three'....use parental influence to help their kids make good safe decisions regarding sex, with abstinence always being the best one.

But that might result in the kids not thinking that I'm "So Cool", and they might not be my best friend anymore, troubling as that is to me. /s

8 posted on 08/23/2013 11:16:47 AM PDT by wbill
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To: Morgana

This was a common practice among the upper middle class upper west siders of manhattan two decades ago—when I was there teaching at a private high school.

I’m surprised its taken this long to get out into the general culture.


9 posted on 08/23/2013 11:17:31 AM PDT by ckilmer
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To: Blood of Tyrants

My point was that though no one wanted to say that what Shields was doing wasn’t “cool”, they really did not want their parents removing that guard rail either.

I think primarily it would have meant way too much pressure on the girls. Course that was a long time ago.


10 posted on 08/23/2013 11:18:57 AM PDT by Buckeye McFrog
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To: Blood of Tyrants
I am the barrier

"I have a shotgun, a shovel, and 25 acres of land behind my house. And no one would ever miss you." :-)

My best friend has a daughter (teenaged, 14? 15?) that is allowed to date anyone, anytime. There just has to be room for my friend to sit between them.

She hasn't taken him up on his offer, yet.

11 posted on 08/23/2013 11:20:28 AM PDT by wbill
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To: Buckeye McFrog

Yea, I know. Any teenager with an ounce of respect for their parents knows that they need those guardrails.


12 posted on 08/23/2013 11:22:04 AM PDT by Blood of Tyrants (Tyranny is defined as that which is legal for the government but illegal for the people. T Jefferson)
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To: Buckeye McFrog

ugh


13 posted on 08/23/2013 11:29:26 AM PDT by GeronL
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To: Morgana
What the hell? I wasn't perfect, but I wouldn't disrespect my parents to try and pull this at their house.

Mom would kill me.

14 posted on 08/23/2013 11:33:50 AM PDT by Darren McCarty (Abortion - legalized murder for convenience)
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To: Morgana
...She elaborates, describing parents inviting the teenager’s partner over, having a nice dinner and then the couple “toddles” off to bed together. (In reality, that’s just permitting the behavior to take place, not actually educating.)

"Parents"? I wouldn't refer to these kinds of people with that term. Even a pimp has a descriptive name.

15 posted on 08/23/2013 11:34:19 AM PDT by 444Flyer (How long O LORD? Psalm 112, Habakkuk 2)
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To: Morgana

So you want to date my daughter? Well, let’s talk about that out in the barn while I show you my new wood chipper...


16 posted on 08/23/2013 11:36:31 AM PDT by baddog 219
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To: wbill
"My best friend has a daughter (teenaged, 14? 15?) that is allowed to date anyone, anytime. There just has to be room for my friend to sit between them.

She hasn't taken him up on his offer, yet.

An over protective older Brother could foot the bill as well.:)

17 posted on 08/23/2013 11:37:37 AM PDT by 444Flyer (How long O LORD? Psalm 112, Habakkuk 2)
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To: 444Flyer

If I had kids my rule is

“When you are 18, you can do whatever you want”


18 posted on 08/23/2013 11:39:36 AM PDT by GeronL
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To: GeronL
A lot of these ‘parents’ are actually afraid of their kids. Zero leadership.
19 posted on 08/23/2013 11:45:07 AM PDT by 444Flyer (How long O LORD? Psalm 112, Habakkuk 2)
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To: 444Flyer

Many of them have bought into the PC crap and no longer know what parenting is.


20 posted on 08/23/2013 11:46:11 AM PDT by GeronL
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To: wbill
Even if this generation is lost, parents should speak for abstinance and morality. If a teenager errs, that message will be there as the ideal they should've met. Besides that, these teens can perhaps convey positive values to THEIR children, in the future, when people are perhaps looking for a return to a decent civilization with values. At least they'll know what the values should be.

Sex sleepovers are just wrong. The home should be somewhere where kids can still be kids. JMHO

21 posted on 08/23/2013 11:47:24 AM PDT by grania
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To: Morgana

a promotion by a league of child-molesters?


22 posted on 08/23/2013 11:49:14 AM PDT by faithhopecharity (E)
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To: Morgana

A friend did that. His first grandchild was born after the couple broke up.


23 posted on 08/23/2013 11:49:50 AM PDT by jimfree (In November 2016 my 13 y/o granddaughter will have more quality exec experience than Barack Obama)
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To: Morgana

Sigh. I was born 45 years too late.


24 posted on 08/23/2013 12:01:02 PM PDT by catnipman (Cat Nipman: Vote Republican in 2012 and only be called racist one more time!)
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To: GeronL
“When you are 18, you can do whatever you want”

Seems like a good idea until they turn 17 1/2.
25 posted on 08/23/2013 12:01:47 PM PDT by mmichaels1970
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To: mmichaels1970

That’s when you get the addendum:

“When you get a job and move out”


26 posted on 08/23/2013 12:11:39 PM PDT by GeronL
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To: GeronL
That’s when you get the addendum:

“When you get a job and move out”


There you go. That addendum seems to go a long way.

They turn 17 1/2, drive your car, earn about $80 a week, couldn't live without those weekly guitar lessons, and suddenly they think the rules won't apply in 6 months.
27 posted on 08/23/2013 12:17:27 PM PDT by mmichaels1970
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To: Morgana

Best quote from a commenter the Huff Post page:

“How Do You Feel About Sex and Teenage Sleepovers?
I’m cool with it so long as my daughter’s male friends are fully aware of the fact that throughout the course of the night, they might find me leaning over them with my chainsaw while uttering the words, ‘go ahead, boy......give me a reason.’”


28 posted on 08/23/2013 12:19:12 PM PDT by thetallguy24
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To: ckilmer
This was a common practice among the upper middle class upper west siders of manhattan two decades ago

I have seen articles endorsing the practice in back issues of Readers Digest from a couple of years either side of 1970.


29 posted on 08/23/2013 12:22:45 PM PDT by Buckeye McFrog
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To: GeronL
If I had kids my rule is “When you are 18, you can do whatever you want”

It's clear that you've never had kids, as your statement is only part right. The part missing is "as long as you've moved out of the house and are paying all your own expenses."

30 posted on 08/23/2013 12:24:35 PM PDT by The Truth Will Make You Free
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To: The Truth Will Make You Free

That is perfect


31 posted on 08/23/2013 12:30:02 PM PDT by GeronL
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To: Morgana

A tenth grader’s dream.


32 posted on 08/23/2013 12:32:26 PM PDT by Sawdring
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To: Morgana

When you have zero morals this is acceptable behavior.

Genuine Christians know exactly what this is. They’d be accepting of it if a marriage ceremony took place earlier that day.


33 posted on 08/23/2013 12:43:51 PM PDT by Secret Agent Man (Gone Galt; Not averse to Going Bronson.)
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To: GeronL

They are FRIENDS with their kids, not parents. Being liked is more important than actually raising the kids properly, with values and lessons (some they themselves may have learned the hard way).

Nope, gotta be buddies with kids. Sorry the adult relationship with your kids comes AFTER you’ve raised them right and they respect you as a person and an older adult to them.


34 posted on 08/23/2013 12:46:51 PM PDT by Secret Agent Man (Gone Galt; Not averse to Going Bronson.)
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To: The Truth Will Make You Free

yup, and the only way that works is if they’ve been raised right too. hopefully things will sink in and they’ll realize mom and dad weren’t so bad or wrong.


35 posted on 08/23/2013 12:48:02 PM PDT by Secret Agent Man (Gone Galt; Not averse to Going Bronson.)
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To: Morgana

I suspect the teens could teach their parents a few things.


36 posted on 08/23/2013 12:54:04 PM PDT by bgill (This reply was mined before it was posted.)
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To: Morgana
“We decided to do it God’s way and basically had a godly agreement that we would help each other get to heaven.”

Probably the most beautiful thing I have read with regards to how a marriage should be.

37 posted on 08/23/2013 1:16:14 PM PDT by Sergio (An object at rest cannot be stopped! - The Evil Midnight Bomber What Bombs at Midnight)
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To: mmichaels1970; GeronL

““When you are 18, you can do whatever you want”

Seems like a good idea until they turn 17 1/2. “ <———

I have to agree with Michaels on this one.


38 posted on 08/23/2013 1:34:20 PM PDT by Morgana (Always a bit of truth in dark humor.)
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To: Blood of Tyrants

Rules #3, 6, 9 and 10 are my favorites...:)

Makes me laugh every time I read it!


39 posted on 08/23/2013 1:37:18 PM PDT by rlmorel (Silence: The New Hate Speech)
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To: Morgana; GeronL; wagglebee
“Why not teach children how to have sex well"

This used to be called "corrupting a minor" and child protective services would pay a visit.

40 posted on 08/24/2013 11:53:37 AM PDT by a fool in paradise (America 2013 - STUCK ON STUPID)
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To: a fool in paradise

Its getting to the point where not allowing your kids to have sex will be considered a crime.


41 posted on 08/24/2013 11:54:35 AM PDT by GeronL
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To: Morgana
Then and Now....


42 posted on 08/24/2013 11:58:24 AM PDT by Daffynition (Life's short- paddle hard!)
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