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My meeting with the Death Panel.
vanity | 04/01/2012 | chuckles

Posted on 04/01/2012 2:01:06 AM PDT by chuckles

Well, I've seen Sarah Palin's "Death Panel" up close.

I started not to write anything about it, but when Cheney got his new heart and the hullabaloo followed, I felt I needed to point out a few things.

My mom had a bad stroke January 29 and was left paralyzed on her left side. She also had trouble swallowing and was given a nasal feeding tube until she could be tested and worked with by a rehab team. Her medical history was she was a 3 time cancer survivor and was on coumadin for a clot in her left leg. Her first bout with cancer was colon cancer and she had 18 inches removed and a radiation follow up. Well, the radiation gave her some bouts of diarrhea and loss of some control. The second cancer, about 7 years later, was a spot on her kidney that was removed lapriscopically by freezing. The third cancer was large cell lymphoma where the colon and small bowel connect. That was removed surgically with chemo afterwards. At the time of the stroke, she was cancer free for 2 years and was living well on her own. She liked to travel, go to the "Opry" and went to Casino's in La. to play the slots.

While in ICU, they tried the "clot buster" but to no avail. After she was stabilized she went to a room for about 3 days. I was informed that she would be released to me about 8 hours before they were going to release her. They said she should go to a hospital called an "LTAC". There were 2 in the area and I was told I should pick one and they would make the arrangements for the move. I asked why not just treat her here, and the answer was Medicare says we have to move her. I knew of one of the LTAC hospitals so I picked the one I knew about. She went there for 20 days and was treated for pneumonia because when she had the stroke she was eating breakfast and apparently aspirated something. They gave her massive amounts of very powerful, and I assume expensive, antibiotics. At times she had 4 bags in her IV at once. She was able to speak and was completely "there" mentally. She remembered everything and was able to communicate well. The only problem was the left side paralysis.

I had dreams of getting her in a wheelchair and going on walks with her and trying to make her life as "normal" as possible. The handle on a one armed bandit is on the right side, so I figured she was good to go. Well, the Physician's assistant on her case made a mistake and told us she would be released on a Monday when we talked with her on Friday. I asked why because she still needed some of the rehab we were promised, and she still was running some fever. Her answer was the same as the hospital,....Medicare only pays for 20-21 days in LTAC. The next move would be home to my house( she was still paralyzed and couldn't live alone) or to a "rehab facility", commonly known as a nursing home. The PA said she still needed skilled nursing care, so unless I wanted to learn how to give her injections, change her diapers, feed her with a blender through her Peg tube, she suggested the skilled nursing facility. True to form, the administrator called Monday morning saying my mom was to be released today, what do you want to do? I asked why can't she get rehab here and it was made quite clear, Medicare won't pay. All this time I was promised some sort of rehab, they had done NOTHING. They got their Medicare money and kicked the can down the road. I had visions of a team of doctors like you see in "House" or Grey's "Anatomy" all working as a team to help my mother, but there was none of that.

I chose the nursing home near my home( I was able to visit a few because the PA made the error of giving me a weekend warning to check some out), so I could visit every day and make sure they were helping her. I got the speal from the head nurse and was shown the rehab room and told of great things they have achieved with their stroke patients. The last sentence of her speal included the "good news" that my mom would qualify for up to 100 days of Medicare payments because of her feeding tube. Then of course, it's Medicaid time. My mom had no real money and her house was on a reverse mortgage. Her private money would be exhausted in about a month.

To make a long story a little shorter, she had an infection and died 8 days into her stay at the "skilled" nursing facility.

Now what, you might ask, does this have to do with Dick Cheney and a heart transplant? You see the vitriol in the media about how he should have died and let a more deserving patient have the heart. He was 71, my mom was 80. IMHO, from the very first moment she entered ICU after the stroke, I was pressed about a DNR, how far do you want us to go,...that type of thing. I said I didn't want her on a ventilator, but I also wanted someone to help her if she was choking on the massive amount of mucus that she coughed up daily. I and My wife spent hours sucking it out after she would get it up from her lungs with the little suction "thingy". I wondered if a nurse checked her in the middle of the night, but of course I knew they only checked about every 4 or so hours, if that much. I spent 6-8 hours a day there and usually had to call them to help her for whatever she needed. When I came one morning, around 11am, she was panting like a dog and sweating profusely. I asked what was wrong with her? They said she had a big morning because they took her to the TV room and rehab had worked with her already that morning. I said she isn't responsive and there is something wrong! They asked well, what do you want? I said call an ambulance. The hospital was about 100 yards from the nursing home so I beat the ambulance across the parking lot to the ER. The ER nurse took her blood and she said she had a massive infection and her "numbers" were all screwed up. She had about twice the coumadin level she should have, her potassium was way off, she was dehydrated, and on and on. They gave her 1 bag of antibiotics and some saline with a vitamin K shot for the coumadin. After about an hour, they moved her to a room. I stayed with her all night. She had her blood drawn again in about 3-4 hours and the "numbers" were still "messed up". NO DOCTOR ever looked in on her and nurses visited 3 times including the blood drawing. She passed at 9:20am about 10 minutes after her "doctor" walked in the room.

Now the connection to Dick Cheney is, my mom was 80, a 3 time cancer survivor, paralyzed on one side with bouts of diarrhea. They pretty much decided she wasn't worth fixing. They didn't care. They didn't even try. They didn't know her. They didn't know her spirit. She was a fighter,....a survivor,....but they didn't want her to survive. This is the same thing they did with Terri Shiavo. They took away her personhood and made her government property. Medicare had it's guidelines and if you don't survive according to their payment schedule, you are going to be killed. The same people that thought Cheney had a long life at 71 and didn't really need to live any longer are deciding who lives and dies, and Cheney had his own money, so he lived, to their horror.

I know I have opened myself up here for the comments like She was 80 after all and probably would die of cancer, or you are blinded to the facts because she was your mother, or she really wouldn't want to live paralyzed like that. We talked about that and she said she wanted to live and would work hard to get the best result she could get. She always looked at the brighter side of adversity. But I was blinded by the sheer numbness of the medical system that they would pick who they would work hard for, and who gets thrown in the trash heap.

I'm sure there will be some that tell me if I'm not happy, I should sue, but that won't get my mother back, and I doubt that would change the system even if I win an award.

My purpose for writting is to point out, we already have Obama Care. It's been here for awhile now. If you go to an ER and roll snake eyes, you will be executed. They will leave you on a gurney to bleed out or choke on your own vomit because they don't like something about you. God help you if you are old, disabled, mentally impaired, or just ugly if you get the wrong nurse or doctor that has just had their Botox injections. If they think you have lived long enough, you are toast. Surviving cancer 3 times is just too much time and money for an 80 year old widow to be given any more attention. Maybe they saw she had voted Republican in the last election. Maybe they knew she had a shotgun in her closet. Who knows what dastardly deed gets you on the wrong side of the Death Panel. If you have some image of a gaggle of doctors and nurses gathered around you to do their best to save you, you have been watching too much TV.


TOPICS: Health/Medicine; Miscellaneous; Science
KEYWORDS: abortion; deathpanels; futilitarians; healthcare; medicare; medicide; obamacare; palin; zerocare

1 posted on 04/01/2012 2:01:13 AM PDT by chuckles
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To: chuckles

Not sure if you are a praying person or not, but I try. If you don’t mind I’ll say a prayer for you and your wife. A sad story, that I imagine gets told every day. Obviously no one (usually) cares for our loved ones like we do, but it is terrible when it seems to overwhelmingly come down to the money. Whether it is our older folks and their health, or our kids and their schooling.

Especially hard to see a “fighter” go down. Again - my prayers for you and yours.


2 posted on 04/01/2012 2:29:26 AM PDT by 21twelve
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To: chuckles
>"you have been watching too much TV."

They are the 99%.

3 posted on 04/01/2012 2:43:39 AM PDT by rawcatslyentist (3 little children murdered by islam, Toulouse March 2012 . Time for the Final Crusade!!!!!)
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To: chuckles

Our prayers will go out to you and your wife.


4 posted on 04/01/2012 2:44:26 AM PDT by Seabeejas (h)
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To: chuckles
"My purpose for writing is to point out, we already have Obama Care. It's been here for awhile now. If you go to an ER and roll snake eyes, you will be executed.

Chuckles,

Thank you for posting your painful story. It may be too painful for some to look at. Many may think this is not happening. It is. And daily.

The same thing happened to my father. I could not believe how fast they wanted to kill him. He went in to the hospital with a stroke that robbed him of the ability to speak. He could not speak for himself so they heavily sedated him. They then told me he was not responsive and would be put on only a saline drip and not fed.

My elderly mother had Power of Attorney so the doctors worked on her to let him pass on. I got ahold of the doctor and found out what drugs they were giving him. One drug was to dry him out so relatives would not hear the death rattle in his throat.

Because I did not have POA the doctor had little patience for me. I confronted him that he was starving my Dad to death in a slow, painful way to die. The doctor told me that as death approaches the body produces natural narcotics to dull the pain. If that were so why were they pumping him full of narcotics to immobilize him.

These death doctors work on the families to get the OK to starve a stoke victim to death. They are slick, lying and totally bloodless. They lie about what they are doing and lie to the family. They know who has POA and ignore the rest of the family members.

I asked the doctor why my Dad was not receiving treatment or therapy for his stoke. It was treatable. The doctor told me that my father was not a candidate for therapy. I asked why. I have a public safety background and know about protocols used in admitting patients. I was able to extract from him that there is a list of factors that need to be met in order for a patient to qualify for therapy. I asked if age was one of the factors. Reluctantly the doctor admitted to me it was. So if you are elderly and cannot speak you will be sedated and starved to death.

Chuckles, I am sorry for the loss of your mother. I know your grief and anger at how she was treated. I have faced it myself.

Be warned. A hospital is a very dangerous place to be if you are elderly or in some way incapacitated. If you do not have a strong, knowledgeable and determined advocate at your side you may well meet the same fate as my father and Chuckles' mother.

5 posted on 04/01/2012 2:56:30 AM PDT by Solar Wind
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To: chuckles
she wanted to live and would work hard to get the best result she could get.

This got to me. They look at age and not the spirit of the person. My MIL had that same spirit. I'm so sorry. It's a warning for all of us, as it could be any one of us since this obamacare has already been implemented.

6 posted on 04/01/2012 2:57:47 AM PDT by presently no screen name
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To: chuckles

I’m so sorry; my prayers to you and your wife for your loss. May she RIP with God.


7 posted on 04/01/2012 3:07:16 AM PDT by carriage_hill (I'll "vote for an orange juice can", over Barry 0bummer and another 4yrs of his Regime From Hell!)
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To: chuckles

My God, what a story. Thank you for sharing this painful tragedy.

My mother died in 92 and the care was better then, that is only twenty years ago!

I am sorry you had to go through this. You have honored your mother by sharing this. Please know that your story also shares what a wonderful child you were to your mother. The love you had for her comes through in your sad tale,I am sure she was aware of your love for her.

May you find some peace and comfort. Its not easy, but you did everything you could for her. Hopefully with more stories shared like this, the senior voters will start waking up.


8 posted on 04/01/2012 3:30:39 AM PDT by Recovering Ex-hippie (NEWT in 2012)
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To: presently no screen name

Now all of us here who have read these cases know when Obama says his Obamacare is going to cut costs he is actually telling the Truth,its not exactly a Secret,Its called the “Complete Lives System” The Brain Child of the Doctor Ezekiel Emmanuel who Chairs Obamas Comparative effectiveness Research Panel That was Funded with 1 Billion Dollars from Obamas Stimulus Bill.Google Complete Lives System, it is all Spelled out in Black and White.


9 posted on 04/01/2012 4:17:41 AM PDT by ballplayer
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To: chuckles

Bump


10 posted on 04/01/2012 4:22:14 AM PDT by lowbridge (Rep. Dingell: "Its taken a long time.....to control the people.")
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To: chuckles
Well all "Baby Boomers" beware.The war against our generation has begun and it is going to escalate as we age further.

The received wisdom of those behind us that there are too many of us, we use too much of available resources, and things would be very much better if we disappear.

I there is any way to avoid a hospital stay, take it.

11 posted on 04/01/2012 4:26:26 AM PDT by Jimmy Valentine (DemocRATS - when they speak, they lie; when they are silent, they are stealing the American Dream)
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To: chuckles

Medicare has always had death panels. It is government medicine.

Try to find a good doctor who takes Medicare patients... impossible.

That’s the future of O-Care.


12 posted on 04/01/2012 4:39:13 AM PDT by Reagan69 (I supported Sarah Palin and all I got was a lousy DVD !)
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To: chuckles

Medicare has always had death panels. It is government medicine.

Try to find a good doctor who takes Medicare patients... impossible.

That’s the future of O-Care.


13 posted on 04/01/2012 4:39:29 AM PDT by Reagan69 (I supported Sarah Palin and all I got was a lousy DVD !)
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To: chuckles
We all have our expiration date in this life. I lost Dad to a heart attack and Mother to Alzheimers’. I was facing the prospect of her eventually becoming unable to swallow, and what that would mean - but then suddenly, she was gone.

I just don’t have an answer for when unlimited resources will do limited good. My only answer is to try to be more concerned about posterity than I am with dedicating my savings to my own inherently limited preservation. I do have some savings, but we all know that without insurance it takes serious wealth to be able to finance all the health care that will be helpful.

So what is my beef with ObamaCare? Simply that the government is horning into what should be private arrangements. Obama wants to make “blue pill” decisions for my wife and for me, but he doesn’t even know or care what time zone I’m in or what good I might be doing - or even what “good” really means (as a general rule I’m pretty sure that killing babies doesn’t qualify). ObamaCare intends to lead to “single payer” which is Newspeak for government control eliminating private choice. And as has been noted, we are pretty far along that path already with Medicare and Medicaid.

But the crucial point is that in America socialism is called “progressive” but it is no such thing. The Constitution has something to say about progress, and it doesn’t have anything to do with the metastasis of government. What it does say (Article 1 Section 8) is that

“The Congress shall have power . . . To promote the progress of science and useful arts, by securing for limited times to authors and inventors the exclusive right to their respective writings and discoveries . . . "
To focus the government on “blue pill” decisions is to focus not on progress but precisely on the status quo, taking the absence of progress for granted. “The progress of science and useful arts” over the past century has been such that an American secretary today would be ill-served to trade circumstances with Queen Victoria. Queen Victoria didn’t have access to airliners or efficient automobiles, or anything made of plastic or much of anything in the way of electrical appliances which we all miss so much when the power goes down. She lived to be 80, but her husband died much younger and she was a depressed widow for a long time.

All socialism does is share scarcity, not abundance. ObamaCare inevitably would help some people in the short run, but its main effect would be to stifle innovation in the long run. Increased government is not innovation; the Soviets had that for 70 years, and it did nothing for progress. SOCIALISM IS ABOUT POLITICIANS ARROGATING TO THEMSELVES THE CREDIT FOR WHAT OTHER PEOPLE DO.


14 posted on 04/01/2012 4:46:30 AM PDT by conservatism_IS_compassion (The idea around which “liberalism" coheres is that NOTHING actually matters except PR.)
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To: chuckles
FRiend, you have my prayers for you, your family, and your mom's soul as well.

By your account, she was not the only fighter in the family.

15 posted on 04/01/2012 5:03:38 AM PDT by Smokin' Joe (How often God must weep at humans' folly. Stand fast. God knows what He is doing)
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To: chuckles

Prayers up!


16 posted on 04/01/2012 5:28:45 AM PDT by antisocial (Texas SCV - Deo Vindice)
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To: chuckles

One issue which I am hearing about is that after 65 you have to use Medicare, all private insurance stops.

Now you may be able to pay, but you still have to use/apply for Medicare.

This is the GVT taking care of you.


17 posted on 04/01/2012 5:29:13 AM PDT by where's_the_Outrage?
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To: chuckles

My wife’s uncle died in a nursing home of a leg infection that they would not treat. He was 80 also. He was a retired postman and still had some financial resources but it did not matter. He did not have political resources.


18 posted on 04/01/2012 5:31:24 AM PDT by arthurus (Read Hazlitt's "Economics In One Lesson.")
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To: Jimmy Valentine

I an 65 and healthy. I expect that I will not die untreated like that but I do expect that my end will come at the hands of the US Internal troops i.e. TSA and its derivatives or the ICE army. Many of us will. We are way past the tipping point. The total Utopian State is coming to us. I keep thinking it won’t be long until I wonder why I didn’t get out while I still could. But then, when the USA becomes violently totalitarian, and I do believe that is coming soon, where is there to go? The rest of the world will quickly be divided between China/Russia and the Kaliphate.


19 posted on 04/01/2012 5:38:23 AM PDT by arthurus (Read Hazlitt's "Economics In One Lesson.")
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To: Reagan69
Medicare has always had death panels. It is government medicine.

Of course, and there will only be more and more rationing of Medicare, regardless of whether conservatives or liberals are in power. The demographics are simply relentless.

The only difference is between those who still pretend that we won't have to ration Medicare spending (most politicians are of course in this category) and those who are candid enough to admit it.

And as long as people have the right to buy what Medicare doesn't cover with their own money, I'm OK with that.

20 posted on 04/01/2012 5:42:52 AM PDT by Notary Sojac (Mi tio esta enfermo, pero la carretera es verde!)
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To: chuckles
Your post brings back memories of my mom and her last days.

My mom had a stroke in 2008 and they inserted a feeding tube.
After a day or so they ran tests and said she was not able to swallow.

The Dr told us she would go into a coma and would die in 3 days.
We were caring for her at her home (you lose a lot of rights when you allow government nurses to visit from time to time).

He stated he was going to remove the feeding tube and she was to go home and receive hospice care until her death.

This was the hardest thing ever for our family. She did slip into a coma.
We decided from the start that our mother was never going to be alone and there was always a family member at her side till the end.

She lived for 28 days without food and water!

My 2 sisters and I were there with her and about 15 minutes
before this happened my sisters dog came in the room (she had never done this before) and looked my mom's way for about a minute tranfixed. She got under the hospital bed
exactly right under my mom.
About 5 minutes before we realized my mom had passed the dog abruptly got up and turned and looked at my mom for about a minute and then left.
What was that all about I don't know.

21 posted on 04/01/2012 6:08:55 AM PDT by freedommom
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To: chuckles
I agree with the experience and conclusions of most of your post. My mother recently came home after a three month stint in the ER—>nursing home system beginning with triple pneumonia. After two days in the hospital, she was put on a ventilator. From that point, things tended to go downhill through what I would call benign neglect. Her naso-gastric tube was found to be misplaced and she had been without nutrition for three days. After failed attempts to place it again, she went without nutrition again for three days.

If not for family involvement (a physician and an OT among us) I firmly believe she would have been allowed to pass. The casualness of her treatment and default points were clear and less medically informed families would have been clueless. She is 88 and, arguably, she has had a long, full life. However, with intensive family involvement, proper medical care and very hard work on her part, she is now back and living about 80% of what she was before the episode. I suspect, though don't have evidence, that policies and attitudes regarding care and cost are already in place - cultural death panels, if you will.

The culprit, IMPO, is our loss of Judeo-Chiristian values, due in large part, to gub’mint via the separation of church and state myth. After that, factor in defacto gub’mint control of medicine already via dollars spent /not spent in medicare and medicaid. Finally, thanks to gub’mint, the devalued dollar combined with escalating medical costs (again, gub’mint and lawyers) tend to drive the economic sterility of a utilitarian policy philosophy.

Paging Doctor Peter Singer...paging Doctor Peter Singer...

22 posted on 04/01/2012 6:17:22 AM PDT by WorkingClassFilth (I'm for Churchill in 1940!)
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To: chuckles

Part of this problem may be the low reimbursement rates of Medicaid and Medicare - they cannot afford to provide quality care when paid so little. The major problem, though, is that employer based health insurance typically stops paying for your care past age 65, saying you have to sign up for Medicare.
A partial solution for individuals would be:
1. Don’t sign up for Social Security, so you don’t get stuck in Medicare / death-care.
2. Get long term care insurance so you don’t have to use Medicaid to pay for a nursing home (so better quality care in a nursing home).
3. Get private health insurance that covers you as an elder OR sign up for a medical sharing ministry (to meet insurance requirements) OR self-insure for medical costs (lots of savings).


23 posted on 04/01/2012 6:33:43 AM PDT by tbw2
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To: chuckles

I am so sorry for your loss. Prayers up to her, you and yours...


24 posted on 04/01/2012 6:37:34 AM PDT by Caipirabob (I say we take off and Newt the site from orbit. It's the only way to be sure...)
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To: tbw2
Part of this problem may be the low reimbursement rates of Medicaid and Medicare - they cannot afford to provide quality care when paid so little.

Thank you for posting this. I have been astounded that my mother keeps finding good doctors who are willing to essentially treat her for nothing. Of course, they are overcharging their regular patients in order to give my mother her treatments at Medicare rates.

25 posted on 04/01/2012 6:47:41 AM PDT by Stegall Tx (Living off your tax dollars can be kinda fun, but not terribly profitable.)
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To: arthurus

I’ll soon be 64 and I am convinced that I will not enjoy the `luxury’ of death by natural causes.

Oh well, most of us Vietnam vets still know how to shoot.

;^)


26 posted on 04/01/2012 7:12:15 AM PDT by elcid1970 ("Deport all Muslims. Nuke Mecca now. Death to Islam means freedom for all mankind.")
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To: chuckles

A serious suggestion to everyone with elderly and/or disabled parents: America has been becoming increasingly toxic to the elderly and disabled, and it will almost certainly become much, much worse, no matter who is in charge, for several reasons.

Government involvement in health care, the baby boomers all coming of age, a general lack of people willing to care for geriatrics in medicine, and a huge lack of people to do the day to day maintenance. Add to this collapsing medical ethics that views suicide and homicide as good alternatives to the “hassle” of continuing care.

So it is time to consider “The Mexican Option”. Don’t just dismiss this in an offhand manner.

Mexico’s health care is a lot more capitalistic than health care in the US. Their medical schools do not intentionally restrict the numbers of doctors they graduate, like schools in the US, and they have an abundance of skilled nurses and a great abundance of nurses aides and other workers.

And a large percentage of them speak English. So what does Mexico offer that the US does not?

1) Far less expensive, but capable surgeries, diagnosis and treatment. Far less expensive hospitalization and nursing home, as well as ordinary retirement housing. Far less expensive pharmaceuticals.

2) Much more, and less expensive, medical labor, so that there is a team of people for just a few patients, especially to take care of the little things that matter like cleaning, laundry, food preparation, even around-the-clock sitting.

3) Respect for the elderly and infirm. Mexican families almost never send their older members to nursing homes, as this is culturally discouraged as disrespectful. They also have a much better regard for the elderly as a whole, so tend to be good caregivers, unlike much of the care found in the US.

4) The ridiculously high expense of nursing home care in the US is so bad, that some elderly and at least partially ambulatory people have figured out that for about the same money, they can lead much better lives aboard cruise ships. Better food, adequate medical care from the ships medical staff, maid service, etc. Opposed to sitting in a wheelchair for hours every day staring at a painted block wall, or lying in bed staring at the ceiling.


27 posted on 04/01/2012 7:38:19 AM PDT by yefragetuwrabrumuy ("Be Brave! Fear is just the opposite of Nar!")
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To: chuckles

Will remember your mother, you and your family in my prayers. Thank you for sharing with us.


28 posted on 04/01/2012 8:03:08 AM PDT by azishot
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To: yefragetuwrabrumuy
4) The ridiculously high expense of nursing home care in the US is so bad, that some elderly and at least partially ambulatory people have figured out that for about the same money, they can lead much better lives aboard cruise ships. Better food, adequate medical care from the ships medical staff, maid service, etc. Opposed to sitting in a wheelchair for hours every day staring at a painted block wall, or lying in bed staring at the ceiling.

My mom is moving to a retirement community that is like a an apartment complex combined with a country club plus a skilled nursing facility. The Executive chef previously was in charge of food service on cruise ships and appeared on more than 100 episodes of Martha Stewart.

29 posted on 04/01/2012 8:06:29 AM PDT by Paleo Conservative
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To: chuckles

I am so sorry you went through this carelessness and lost your mom. Thanks for the heads up.


30 posted on 04/01/2012 8:14:03 AM PDT by SaraJohnson
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To: chuckles

bttt


31 posted on 04/01/2012 8:27:05 AM PDT by petercooper (The one difference between Obama & Romney: Obama is only half white.)
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To: Recovering Ex-hippie
My mother died in 92 and the care was better then, that is only twenty years ago!

The more control the federal government has over the health care system, the worse it gets.

Just wait until they have total control.

32 posted on 04/01/2012 8:34:21 AM PDT by E. Pluribus Unum (Government is the religion of the sociopath.)
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To: Paleo Conservative

Paleoconservative, all

Your stories echo what happened to my mom. She fell and got a subdural hematoma. She aspirated somthing because the fall affected her swallowing. She had other conditions (kidney and lung) that got aggravated by the injury. The doctors pressured me to put her into the subacute wing of the hospital in spite of one of the conditions requiring hospitalization ( subacute is not a nursing home, its the stage in between ) I had POA and pushed back, but to no avail. She had COPD that got worse... they then pushed her out from subacute into a nursing home. They couldn’t find a home that had enough percent oxygen so they ended up hooking TWO oxygen concentrators together in order to give enough air to her.
She died a week after going into the nursing home.
That was ten year’s ago......I am still angry about it. The subacute facility had the nerve to have a big display showing a young lady that had had a similar injury and the facility had given her hyperbaric treatments which cured her.


33 posted on 04/01/2012 8:36:32 AM PDT by WildHighlander57 ((WildHighlander57 returning after lurking since 2000))
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To: chuckles

Thanks for sharing with us. I am 80 years old (young?) and have COPD. No cure there. And I will remember your mother and you in my prayers.

I am sorry you lost your Mother. I lost my Mom several years ago and still miss her. I wish you and your family good memories of her.


34 posted on 04/01/2012 8:50:58 AM PDT by winkadink (During times of universal deceit, telling the truth becomes a revolutionary act. George Orwell)
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To: Paleo Conservative

The bottom line is pricing. How much will that set her back, and take into account Medicare and insurance, both of which may be drying up soon.

It may not be a bad idea that, assuming the worst, which in this case is increasingly likely, that you all have a ‘plan B’ and a ‘plan C’.


35 posted on 04/01/2012 9:02:05 AM PDT by yefragetuwrabrumuy ("Be Brave! Fear is just the opposite of Nar!")
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To: chuckles

“we already have Obama Care. It’s been here for awhile now.”

So true.

Please forgive my crudeness for the truth is often told in jest.

However with “Zero-Care” the system is streamlined and highly improved, in a MBA-think sort of way, that not only improves the governments bottom line so that more of it’s ‘care’ can be doled out to more retired people but will allow those who “complete their treatment” to ‘will’ their real and personal property to the governments’ proxies for redistribution. All for the greater good.

On a side note; “Zero-Care” is greatly interested in Hollands’ highly inovative moble euthansia units. To be called “Specialized Natural Unliving Facilatating Forces” or “SNUFF” in the United States.


36 posted on 04/01/2012 9:02:58 AM PDT by fella ("As it was before Noah, so shall it be again.")
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To: chuckles

I am so sorry about your mom, chuckles. I can hear your frustration and your pain in your post. Your post brought tears to my eyes.


37 posted on 04/01/2012 9:11:26 AM PDT by Student0165
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To: chuckles

I’m sorry for your loss.

It’s one thing to let someone pass without “heroic measures.” Letting them deteriorate through neglect is something completely different.

The bastards won’t be satisfied until we mirror North Korea in every way.


38 posted on 04/01/2012 9:28:26 AM PDT by Rides_A_Red_Horse
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To: chuckles

Thanks for the post. Moving back to the US after 26 years of federal service as educators in military kids’ schools, we are finding this out, as well. No one wants to take Medicare age people.

Fortunately for my mother-in-law, who has had a recent hip surgery and now will have to go for another procedure, the doctor has been very willing to take her and do what it takes to get her back on her feet...at the age of 86. She’s always been independent and wants that back, if at all possible. I am so grateful she has a doctor that sees her as a person, regardless of her age! And, yes, prayer does help!


39 posted on 04/01/2012 10:44:54 AM PDT by Shery (in APO Land)
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To: chuckles

Chuckles?


40 posted on 04/01/2012 11:51:44 AM PDT by Mike Darancette (Romney just makes me tired all over.)
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To: chuckles

So very sorry, and thanks for warning us about the death panels.

Prayers said for all concerned.


41 posted on 04/01/2012 12:07:27 PM PDT by Sun (Pray that God sends us good leaders. Please say a prayer now.)
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To: arthurus

Interesting point. My sense is that we are due for another civil war, which could split the U.S. into three parts; east coast, west coast and central. The east coast and west coast will collapse into themselves due to anarchy. The central area being more conservative and self reliant will over time absorb the depleted eastern and western regions.


42 posted on 04/01/2012 1:27:02 PM PDT by Jimmy Valentine (DemocRATS - when they speak, they lie; when they are silent, they are stealing the American Dream)
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To: Seabeejas

Prayers for all.

I too have a little story about a trip I took down the civilian hospital path.

But another time

May God bless us all.


43 posted on 04/01/2012 3:57:33 PM PDT by Steve Newton (And the Wolves will learn what we have shown before-We love our sheep we dogs of war. Vaughn)
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To: Steve Newton

Then we will pray for you also. Contrary to many here, my experience was life changing. The Doctors, Nurses and others I met are still my friends. I had never met a greater group of people anywhere. It literally changed my life for the better to know there are people out there that give so much. I sincerely wish everyone could say the same.


44 posted on 04/01/2012 5:18:34 PM PDT by Seabeejas (h)
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To: chuckles

I am so very sorry for your loss.


45 posted on 04/01/2012 8:21:05 PM PDT by Shadowstrike (Be polite, Be professional, but have a plan to kill everyone you meet.)
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To: chuckles

Prayers for you. I am going through a lot with my Mother right now. She is 91 and just broke her hip. She was on hospice , they took her off for the surgery and will have therapy. Then she will probably go back to hospice.


46 posted on 04/01/2012 8:39:19 PM PDT by Irish Eyes
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To: Seabeejas

You don’t know how much I needed that my FRiend

God bless


47 posted on 04/01/2012 9:04:55 PM PDT by Steve Newton (And the Wolves will learn what we have shown before-We love our sheep we dogs of war. Vaughn)
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To: chuckles
I just wanted to reply to everyone that posted that your prayers mean everything for me and my family. I need them in the worst way. I had the POA and she was counting on me to make the proper decisions for her. The guilt I feel overtakes me at times. I keep wondering why I didn't run through the halls screaming for someone to help my mother. Why didn't I call a life flight to take her to Houston or something? I thought of calling a cop the morning she died to have them explain why a doctor didn't even look in on her since the ER. How sick did they think she was?

I just had to get it off my chest after so many were second guessing Cheney's heart transplant. Why is it any of their business? They are the ones saying she is better off dead than being paralyzed on one side.

I tried to keep the story as short as possible so as not to drone on on every detail, but there was much more going on than just this. One night, her Pic line was pulled out. They thought she may have done it. I said it was taped to her like concrete and she couldn't have reached it with her good arm. They finally admitted it must have been removed by mistake. I found an insulin needle in her bed and asked the nurse about it. She said she didn't know how it got there or who left it. I said my mother isn't diabetic. They said the bottled feedings must have changed her sugar tolerance. Just one load of crap after another.

I know it will take me time to get passed this, but I'm just having trouble right now. My father's death was quick. Heart attack in the middle of the night. We had just visited the day before and he went home with all his faculties, no broken hip, no disabilities, nothing. He was 85 and had a couple of stints. I grieved and was able to move on. This is different for me. He died in bed at home, not in a hospital and it wasn't drug out for months.

I thank everyone for your sympathy and sharing your stories. It helps to know I'm not alone.

My wife drives a van for the county to take the elderly places. She has many people with strokes, missing limbs, cancer and so on that get around just fine. She told me of a woman that had a stroke that paralyzed her just like my mom. Today, after some therapy, she drags her leg and throws her dead arm from place to place to do what she needs to do. Her husband left her and she lives alone. She shops and cooks for herself with no help. She won't even allow my wife to help her get in the van. She inspired me to have some hope for my mother and to look for any abilities as a blessing. If no one helps you and you are helpless, you can never get to that point of helping yourself however.

I wish I knew enough HTML to post a picture of her on here about a month before her stroke. She didn't look 80 or act 80. To treat her as if her life was over just kills me. Her mother died at 96. Long life ran on her side of the family. All I ask of the doctors and nurses is to "do no harm".

48 posted on 04/01/2012 10:06:51 PM PDT by chuckles
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To: chuckles
With respect.....do you/did you believe that your mom's health care choices were limited to only those things for which Medicare would pay??
49 posted on 04/02/2012 5:16:21 AM PDT by Notary Sojac (Mi tio esta enfermo, pero la carretera es verde!)
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