Dang, Ann, nobody forces you to take your mom out to lunch. If she was that bad, then try to do better yourself and maybe your kids will take you to lunch once in a while. You might even get a card on mother’s day. Or not, can’t say, I don’t know you.
We get two chances at a parent child relationship, once as a child, once as a parent.
If she wants to enjoy the holiday, be a mother to her children so that she receives that adoration she didn’t receive.
Or adopt a female relative or in-law to fill in that maternal gap.