[Nova]

"If she says no (or doesn't say yes) or clearly indicates it, it means no, regardless of who she is married to."

Yea, and I'm not going to try to defend a husband that would repeatedly do such; but I do agree with "Ohioan" that this is not the same type of crime as a "rape."

Such behavior, between a married couple, really isn't in a standard "rape" category. And I'm not at all sure that our criminal statutes and enforcement mechanisms are appropriate for dealing with such things.

Don't invite the police into your bedroom unless your quite sure you want them there.

[muir_redwoods]

A sex act involving an unwilling partner is rape. There is no standard form of the crime and the crime itself is what invites the law into the matter.

The notion that a person gives up all right to (or any portion of) the sanctity of herself simply because she is married is 12th century at best. No one owes another person sex. Period.