Posted on 11/25/2005 12:36:46 PM PST by Sonny M
DEAR ABBY: My husband, "Kirk," accompanied me overseas for an extended military tour. He has been an excellent care provider for my two children, ages 2 and 7. He does all kinds of activities with them that I cannot because of my work schedule.
I recently found out that Kirk has been having an affair and stealing from me to fund his activities. Initially, he lied about the whole thing in counseling, but when cornered he confessed. Kirk has since promised to end the affair, and I have taken precautions with my finances.
We have agreed to stay together until we get back to the states (about six months), and then we will file for divorce. My friends think that I'm crazy to keep him around, but there is no better person here to take care of our children -- and changing my hours is not an option. We never argue in front of the kids and are actually on amicable terms. Am I crazy? -- HURTING OVERSEAS
DEAR HURTING: Are you crazy? Crazy like a fox! You are behaving in a manner that is mature and rational, and I commend you for it.
DEAR ABBY: My 14-year-old daughter has been shaving her arms for the past six months because she says they are "hairy." I have tried my best to talk her out of it. I asked advice from a neighbor, and she said I should forbid her from doing it because she can get skin cancer. Is that true? -- CONFUSED MOM, CALEXICO, CALIF.
DEAR CONFUSED MOM: If that were true, every man and woman who shaved other parts of their bodies would be suffering from skin cancer. However, I would discourage her from shaving her arms because there are better ways to deal with the problem. Using a depilatory wax to remove the hair would take it out by the roots and cause it to eventually grow in more sparsely. And using a depilatory cream would "wipe" away the hair, leaving less of a visible stubble than shaving does. She might also consider bleaching the hair on her arms, which would make it less noticeable.
DEAR ABBY: My mother-in-law recently decided to move into an assisted-living facility. Because of limited space, she needs to get rid of excess baggage, so she had a rummage sale. She has also begun to return gifts she has received to those who gave them to her. I find that rude and insulting, as each gift was given for a reason, and getting them back feels like rejection. A good friend of mine feels it's an honor to get those gifts back rather than see these treasures in a rummage sale or given to someone who doesn't understand the meaning behind the gift. My question: Who's right? -- CINDY IN MINNESOTA
DEAR CINDY: She is. And my question to you is, why are you looking for rejection? Your mother-in-law has to downsize, and I'd say she's doing it in the most sensitive way possible.
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you're in the US, not France. shave your armits ,wookie.
I think she was talking about the actuall arms, not the pits.
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