Posted on 11/22/2021 7:39:33 AM PST by rebuildus
Dude.
Face it.
You're gay.
Child molesters often wear clerical collars and are treated much too gently in modern day America.
Gotta agree with HumbleG here. The last chapter of this has not been written.
keep your pickle in your pants and you won’t have anything to tell your wife. and why would you tell your kid? Just ewww.
Liberace gay. Cause he wants to have a discussion.
Sheeesh dude...waaaaay TMI.
Telling the kid is a big mistake. What’d he do wrong to have to listen to this “confession”? If it didn’t affect him directly, leave him out of it.
Actually, telling the wife is a mistake imo. Why put her thru the agony of knowing your personality flaws, if only to clear your own conscience.
Your minister sounds like a real snake-oil salesman, who is in the business for self-glorification and satisfaction of his own perversion. Get away from this person ASAP and have no more contact.
As to your own sexuality, you are clearly conflicted. We all are subject to various types of lust - so as much as you have been manipulated by others (your neighbor, your minister) you also have an equal part to play in the sin. Focus on overcoming those desires in yourself.
Thanks for your frankness. It seems like frankness, anyway! LOL Nob help you if it’s not true!
I do think that sincere confession, properly and considerately directed, will repair a lot of damage, both psychic and even physical - since repressed memories, inconvenient and sometimes inexplicable desires or fantasies, etc, will quite often lead to physical illness (what besides eating spicy food late in the evening causes ulcers...?) and even injury from accidents and explosions of temper.
I can even see the logic behind a responsible cleric berating (from his pulpit on a day of worship) someone he knew was flaunting Nob’s law - if the person showed no signs of wanting to correct. Who wants a scummy liar in the congregation, who moreover might leave viruses in the church bathroom at some point? Out the b4$tard!
That’s why confession is often the better route, because there is such a thing as a responsible cleric left in this world. They are growing few and far between, but they exist.
I feel bad that you were abused by a cleric and then caused pain to your family because you were having a hard time admitting to yourself what happened and dealing with it. It sounds like you lucked out telling your wife and kid. (Haha, that’s why I always do bad things in front of everyone! Because I’d rather face angry rejection than embarrassment!)
Regarding others saying that you’re now “gay” - I wonder if we shouldn’t try to rethink creating a category of behavior peculiar (in this age, anyway) to those males and females who have been sexually abused in youth. Who are seldom gay, but most often seem quite unhappy.
Jesus: *frowning* Please take off the William Buckley mask.
Me: I can’t! It’s stuck!
JC: Very funny.
Oh, man. I just checked out the blog.
Married man and father in a homosexual relationship with his pastor for years, blames the pastor for the relationship—then continues to go to the pastor’s church, apparently taking his family with him, sits through the pastor’s sermons, and gets miffed if what the pastor says doesn’t set well with him?
Yikes!
Dude.
Face it.
You’re gay.
At least I'm not the one boning a preacher and writing about it.
I'll take "mean spirited" over that ANY day.
Yep, gotta admit it, he hit the nail on the head with that one.
As for the author of this article, this is the first time I can recall seeing somebody work so hard to publically convince the world that he’s not gay, BUT if he is, it’s somebody else’s fault.
I think we can all agree Humblegunner is frequently a jerk, but that does not diminish the fact that he’s dead-on target about the author of this article.
The dude is in fact gay.
People are made “gay” through sexual trauma, especially if it is repeated.
There is nothing gay about that satanic lifestyle choice.
He's a grown man.
First time this preacher tried to kiss him or grab his junk he
should have gave the preacher a knee in the nuts and an elbow to the base of the skull.
He didn't. He reciprocated.
That makes him a willing homo.
If you read his blog, he reports having been molested by a priest in his childhood.
I am very disappointed in people whom I looked up to when I was growing up. I recent years, I found out that they are rapists, homosexual or committed some other other major sin. I was a fool. But that is okay. Innocence is a virtue. And the less we are exposed to the evils in the world, the less likely we are to become evil ourselves. I do believe this.
No excuses, because by being evil we hurt others (strangers and the ones that we love). Sometimes very severely.
Bottom line: we need to resist the temptation for evil as much as possible and being good Christians helps a lot.
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