Posted on 09/09/2021 3:21:43 PM PDT by MrsMNJohnnie
I am struggling with grief. I am sure I am not the only one here at FR, doing so. This is journey. It is not a problem to be solved. I would just like to start this thread for a safe place for us who may need each other and/or help each other. Please feel welcome to share or maybe just reading it will help. I hope this thread gives us a place to go through the journey of grief without feeling alone.
I am so sorry for your loss. Your thread is a great idea so I hope it catches on. I think all us FReepers know loss like yours. Talking about it does help. Prayers.
I’m sorry for your loss 😢
Been there myself
Prayers up
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I lost my Mom sudden in 1989, I was 22 years old. It never goes away but proud of myself, My marriage, which will be 30 in a few weeks and always glad my Mom knew and loved him before we married...and our two kids we have. Hang in their friend. Not always easy but always easy with friends <3
Lost both of my parents in the last 2 years. Was especially close to my mom and she was (relatively) young at 70. I know how you feel. I couldn’t even talk about her for months. Then, I started to tell stories about her...and finally, I got to where I can laugh about good times remembered. It’s tough - I still miss her badly...but it does get better. Hang in there.
So sorry to hear that. But I’m really happy that you had a wonderful mother who loved you and lived a good, long life.
God bless you both.
I am glad that people at least have FR if they can find nothing else.
The isolation in our dispersed virtually connected world is new and strange.
Prayers up.
Good for you and good for sticking it through with your marriage. It isn’t clear that mine will make 20—it depends how fast my wife can move the divorce she has decided on through.
My mother is in the end stages of dementia. I get comfort in the fond memories and the love she showered on her family.
It is hard to watch her rapid decline and most days feels like she is already gone.
Hang in there folks. Time heals all wounds.
People who have had their moms throughout most of their lives are so, so lucky. On that note, if I might offer you a gentle, heartfelt bit of advice...be happy for the time you did have with your mother. Remember the good times and let your grief ease. She would want you to be happy.
I lost my wife to cancer last October. Hard to believe it’s been almost a year. I still say goodnight to her when I get into bed.
Every couple has to go through this at some point. I didn’t realize that at first. We all have to find a way through it.
To all who have suffered loss of a loved one... it is a tough journey and you should seek help moving through it. Eight years ago I lost my wife to cancer after a 28 month fight by a tough 110# horsewoman. The best thing that I found was Griefshare. It is a 12 week course of video, daily workbook and weekly group session with others who have suffered a loss. Huge healing for most of the participants and well worth the time and sharing. Look up griefshare.org and find a group by zip code. I have been a facilitator after going through the course twice (the first time was only 7 weeks after her death and I was in a normal fog) for the last 6 years. God bless all of you as you cope with the loss of a loved one....
I’m so very sorry. Mothers are most precious and the world is poorer for the loss of every good person. I dealt with my grief by collecting memories of mother and telling her story so that she wouldn’t be entirely lost. Let what she taught you help others in the future. I love to read the stories of good people and how they influenced others.
Sorry to hear of your loss. It does get better as time goes on. I became an expert at losing family members. My Dad passed in 1978 at 73. I was 31 at the time, separated with two sons, and on my way to divorce the following year. My mother passed at the age of 69 in 1990. My only brother passed at 51 in 1995. My second oldest sister passed on her 69th birthday in 2010, and my last sister died in 2014. I’m 74, the same age she was when she passed. My goal now is to not outlive my sons. My youngest, now 50, had cancer surgery in 2019, and went through six months of chemo. so far, so good. My oldest who will be 55 in November was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis several years ago. Both sons took the shots, so I worry even more about them these days. I will keep you in my prayers.
Prayers for you. I lost my parents recently. Couple years ago. It is not something to take lightly. Make sure you breathe. Your Mom would want that. It is your time, make the most of it. Remember her and honor her. Pass on what she taught you. It is your time.
I lost my wife to dementia on January 1, 2021.She was also covid positive for the last week of her life. She spent the last 5 years in a nursing home, unable to recognize her family members, nor able to speak.We had been married 47 years when she died. I feel your pain. My only comfort has been that she was a devout Christian. We had a large support group most of which were active members of the faith community. It confuses many nonbelievers when they comment on the loss of my wife when I tell them that I miss her but I am so happy that she is now free of the burden of the disease that took her life. Yes, I miss her but this is temporary.Nonbelievers will not understand this, but that is ok.
Lost my mom Sunday.
Finished cleaning out her apartment today.
My grandmother passed this year. We had an odd relationship for many reasons. My aunt sent me a box with some things my grandmother wanted me to have. I have not yet opened it. It has sat here for over three months.
I just can't do it.
Maybe next month.
Or not.
C.S. Lewis's A Grief Observed is helpful. It has no answers but it will let you know you are not alone in your questions.
My most sincere condolences friend.
If not cancelled due to COVID this year, I would actually be in Atlanta tomorrow, at the HQ of Delta Air Lines for the fourth time in five years, giving the opening Keynote Speech, followed by several grief recovery workshops throughout the day, to bereaved Delta employees who this compassionate company allows to fly in from around the world and gather for a day of bereavement support.
We never want to lose a loved one, but it's what we do with the love that remains that helps us move forward...never without them, but with them always becoming who we can be...should be.
PM me if you ever just need someone to talk with who has been through the fire...you are never alone!
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