A good checklist for love is 1 Cor 13, which gets around the common objection that love is weakness or acquiescence or excusing.
Love is the reason why God is caring how we live in the first place, and it is the reason why God is never stuffing it down our throats or making us into puppets without consent involved. God shows us hell, if need be, so that we will see that heaven really is the place we ought to be going. But the irascible grouch is as bad a picture of God as is the eternally indulgent and excusing grandfather in heaven.
Amen