Posted on 10/24/2014 6:26:09 PM PDT by lifeofgrace
What are we to do with this latest school shooting tragedy? Unlike the killings in Oklahoma City and Ottawa, Canada, this was no terrorist or self-proclaimed warrior carrying out a religious fatwa. Jaylen Fryberg was a 14-year-old boy. He could be my son, or anyones. This is really a tragedy, every bit as much as the massacre at Sandy Hook Elementary almost two years ago. Except that by all accounts, Jaylen Fryberg was no mentally ill recluse. He was an outgoing, smart, athletic boy who was named freshman homecoming king at his school.
There are no words to erase the sorrow the parents of the dead and wounded teenagers. I only have prayers for those being treated for their wounds. Those parents dont care about political statements, the news media, or gun rights at this hour. They only want their children to recover. Two teenagers dead, four wounded, at least three fighting for their lives.
What drives a young teenager to do this? First of all, it has nothing whatsoever to do with hunting. Those photos of Fryberg holding a 14-point buck for the camera are simply what teenagers in rural America dothey hunt. A boys skill at firing a rifle and hitting a deer are irrelevant to shooting a table full of his friends at point blank range with a pistol, then turning the pistol on himself.
It also has nothing whatsoever to do with firearms training. James Holmes had little or no firearm training and purchased 4,000 rounds of ammunition online, practicing only a few times before his deadly spectacle in Aurora. The companies that sold him the ammunition are now being sued for selling to a crazed, homicidal killer. (Note: he wasnt homicidal until he committed the act).
This tragedy has everything to do with passion and despair. The passion of a brokenhearted 14-year-old experiencing his first breakup. Possibly she left him for another friend. Fryberg tweeted his grief.
Did you forget she was my girlfriend? Jaylen Fryberg (@frybergj) September 19, 2014
Your gonna piss me off... And then some shits gonna go down and I don't think you'll like it... Jaylen Fryberg (@frybergj) August 20, 2014
For anyone whos ever lost a girlfriend (or boyfriend) to their best friend, that is some of the worst pain you can feel. A young teenager is ill-equipped to handle it. It happens every day: thats true. It does, somewhere, to someone, and those kids dont run out and shoot a table full of people and then themselves. But Jaylen did. If he could take it back, I think he would. If he could place himself at the edge of the cliff of despair before he pulled the trigger, I think he would stop, put the gun away, and walk away.
Lots of things drive people to the edge of the cliff of despair, where rage is pushing them over the edge. As those people get closer, driven by a blind mixture of grief, passion, anger, and an irrational urge to simply kill and die, there is another force pushing back. Its grace. Thats the Christian name for it, at least. Unmerited, undeserved, unearned favor and mercy pushing back against the bottomless darkness of despair.
Bear with me if I may be completely transparent for a moment. Ive been to the edge of the cliff. There are only two times in my life Ive experienced a blind rageseeing red. One time, when I was 17 or 18, and a good friend of mine stole my girl. Well, I guess she wasnt my girl because she left me for him, but in my mind, I was head over heels. I didnt have the maturity to handle the situation, so I lay in wait for my ex-friend to leave her house, and fairly ran him off the road, to do as much damage as I could (I didnt have a gun, only a tire iron). But he drove off before I could approach. Fortunately for me, or the rage would have given me a totally different future.
The second time was much, much worse. I was in business with another longtime friend, and we had a disagreement over how the business was being run. The other people in our venture were professionals, a few of them military officers. In this public meeting, my friend proceeded to tell how untrustworthy I was, and recounted every terrible thing Id ever done since I was thirteen to prove it. I saw red. It was my birthday, adding insult to injury. I walked out in the middle of his talk, went home and brooded. Then I went back. I came into the room with a loaded pistol in my hand. At the last second, when I had racked a round into the chamber, I simply handed the cocked pistol to my friend, and told him to simply kill me, it would hurt less than what I was going through (to his credit, he didnt take it).
I believe if not for grace, I would have pulled the triggerpossibly on the whole room. I went home and waited to be arrested. What I did was a felony, probably at least three felonies. The years in prison were accruing in my head. The police never came. The next day, I saw my board members again, and asked why they didnt have me arrested. I was told every man has his breaking point, and we witnessed yours, and they never brought it up again. Grace.
Why do some experience grace, again and again, and some dont? I think that everyone experiences grace. Grace was with every one of these killers, the ones who did it for some twisted fame, the ones who did it for some twisted god, and the ones who did it out of despair. For all the would-be killers in the world who didnt pull the trigger, its grace that restrained them.
Where was grace when Jaylen Fryberg pulled the trigger? God was right there, imploring him to stop. Every fiber in Jaylens being felt the pull. But there was another fighter in the battle for Jaylenthe enemy is always there too.
Cain said to the Lord, My punishment is more than I can bear. Today you are driving me from the land, and I will be hidden from your presence; I will be a restless wanderer on the earth, and whoever finds me will kill me. Genesis 5:13-14The first murder in the Bible was one of jealousy, passion and despair, and Cain wanted to die. Only Gods mark on him allowed him to survive. Jesus was betrayed by Judas, who hung himself on a tree. Most who fall off the cliff of despair into the pit of murder experience the desire to die, and sometimes its the desire to die that propels them to murder.
Where was grace when Jaylen Fryberg walked into his school and shot others, then himself? God was right there, ready to place His mark upon Jaylen, but tragically, Jaylen resisted. I was not a Christian when grace stopped my hand from murder. I dont know why grace restrained me, and not Jaylen. But I do understand the grief and despair he must have felt.
Before we start using this tragedy for political fodder, on both sides of the gun control, school, parenting, hunting, and every-other-debate we have, can we take time to grieve along with Jaylens parents, and the parents of the dead and wounded. Id like to take the side of grace to weep with those who mourn, and pray for those who are injured. There will be plenty of time to yell past each other when this is over. For those parents and friends, it will never be over.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HkAZteruVAw
Quite moving. I have to conclude from this that the boy was emotionally stunted. Obviously we don’t know if he was medicated, but it wouldn’t surprise me.
The new way kids are raised in America, not just by parents, but in schools, the media, general culture, etc. is radically different from 3000 years of human history. This social engineering, this experiment, is damaging children and malforming their minds. This has NOTHING to do with guns.
I don’t care how wonderful he was..
what he did wasn’t a childish juvenile delinquent prank...
he was a murderer...
he went to the school with intention to do harm...
The August 20th tweet was a major slap-in-the-face clue and warning that this kid was going to blow. Who received the tweet, and did they act/report it to parents, school officials, the police and/or health officials?
These are the questions that need to be answered because a failure of someone in this chain is possibly the real cause of allowing this tragedy to happen. Not the 2nd Amendment; background gun buyer checks; right-wing extremists; etc.
It began at home and among friends/school. If those people fail, as the first warning lines of potential trouble, then the shit will hit the fans, 60,000 gun laws or not.
It is people control that is at the heart of the issue and until we begin to examine who lives in our society, and learn the triggers that set them off, we will blithely go on in our stupor of ignorance and denial.
I can’t agree. That tweet wasn’t any different than the bravado a thousand kids say a thousands times over. If the school or any other “authority” had acted on it, people here would react with disgust about Big Brother, etc. And they wouldn’t necessarily be wrong.
Unfortunately a number of those tweeters carried out acts of violence and killed people.
This is one of the issues I said needed to be researched. What are some of the signs of forthcoming violence and can we recognize them in time to prevent it.
My concern is that there's no practical way to do this without creating more of a federal leviathon than we already have. Do we subject every kid who plays "cops and robbers" to interrogation? It seems to make more sense to prepare public officials (teachers, etc) with arms training to counteract "awful possibilities", than to assume every word/tweet/drawing is a threat.
JAYLEN???? I thought that was a Girl’s name?? Wonder if he was on MEDS.
Looking at his picture....PONY TAIL??? OMG!! Parents are raising FREAKS!
Um, where were you in the 60’s and 70’s, I don’t care about the ponytail, how did we get to where our children are so incapable of dealing with the normal experiences of growing up without these outrageous responses? I don’t think it’s music, video games or movies, I think it’s our boys being castrated and turned into effeminate freaks that are told it’s wrong to be a man, tuff it out and keep going, be strong!
Marysville is right by Tulalip Indian Reservation. Ponytails are quite common for Native American males of all ages. Whether or not he’s Native American I am unsure of. I’d say yes based on the picture but cannot confirm.
BINGO!!!! Does the kid have a DAD??? Or raised by a mom?? BIG difference!!!
Oh yes, he does like Native American!!!
He could be my son, or anyones.
No not really. I have a son who is already a grown man. He di not shoot anyone in his school or anywhere else.
The passion of a brokenhearted 14-year-old experiencing his first breakup
Well and now his last.
Like none of us ever got dumped before this kid.
The August 20th tweet was a major slap-in-the-face clue and warning that this kid was going to blow. Who received the tweet, and did they act/report it to parents, school officials, the police and/or health officials?
Was it? That was two months ago. In the meantime people said he was normal, and he was even homecoming king.
Should a threat be investigated? Yes! But what if they came to him, as they did to the Santa Barbara shooter, and found him perfectly “fine”? If he has seemed normal ever since, who is to know what he was planning? Also, do we know he was planning this two months ago?
It’s hard to prevent these. We still need to try.
Was a very good article imho. And 14 year old boys (and girls) ARE emotionally stunted. I know I was. I was listening to a guy talk about teen’s brain development, etc. The ideas of acts and consequences haven’t developed yet.
“Ya know how you ask the kid why he did what he did and he shrugs his shoulders and says ‘I don’t know’. Well, he really doesn’t!”
I mentioned the media in another post of mine. And that might be part of it - but when I was a kid, even when I wanted to hurt someone I didn’t because I knew it was wrong.
Nowadays everything is relative, with no “truths” to be found.
Nobody argues those points - most folks also have the capacity to have an ache in their hearts for the mental/emotional anguish he must have experienced (most of us were teenagers and can relate to the pain even though we didn't snap).
The two incidents you describe a NOT ‘blind rage’. They were both premeditated acts.
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