Anybody who claims that they know what does, and does not, cause every single rape that happens, is wrong.
Some men clearly rape because they have uncontrollable urges. Some are lustful. Some rape for sexual gratification (heck, I bet more than just some, if you include those who get sexual gratification from the power).
Saying that rape is not sexually gratifying is like saying you can’t get pregnant from rape — I mean, if the man isn’t sexually gratified, there will be no semen to impregnate the victim.
And maybe it is only in the movies where drunk men end up raping the heroine because they are attracted to her. But I doubt it.
Rape is an act of physical violence. That doesn’t mean that the PURPOSE of rape is physical violence.
And of course, this completely ignores date rape and “lack of informed consent” rape, the first being a case where there was clearly sexual attraction but something at some point changes for one partner but not the other; and the second being a case where the woman and man are both engaging but not necessarily because of a choice (like if they are both drunk, or if they are on drugs purposely or through nefarious means).
I think the “Rape is never about” people cause great disservice, because they convince some women that nothing they do can matter, and then those women might do things that put them at greater risk, thinking there is no such thing as “greater risk”.
Thank you. I hate to be nasty but how do men get it up if it’s not about sex?
I feel like I’m the only woman to think like this. Except, of course, the great Camille Paglia.
It has been well-known for decades, though seldom reported, that far and away the most common female sexual fantasy is being raped. Which ties right in with the "romance" novels, many of which feature actual rape, and the wild popularity of the 50 Shades books. While 50S may not be about rape, as such, it most certainly is about mixing sex with domination and power exchange. With rape being the ultimate in both.
This is not to say that women who fantasize about this stuff want it to come true in reality. (Unless of course the rapist is gorgeous, well-dressed, rich and considerate.)
But quite obviously the notion packs an erotic punch for both men and women.