Skip to comments.Whatever You Believe About Homosexuality, Say It Kindly
Posted on 11/25/2008 5:21:48 AM PST by Invisigoth
When I asked people why or why not they thought homosexuality was a choice, I asked for specificity and examples, so unless it was especially funny or insightful, I included only the best of the feedback that stayed within the guidelines. Lets get to it.
Every truly gay friend Ive ever had believes he was born that way. They say they knew as early as they could remember that it was same-sex people who made their hearts beat faster.
I think youre born that way. Too many kids I knew growing up came out of the closet when they left my hometown. None of them surprised me. They were effeminate as children.
Its definitely something youre born with. I grew up in a private Christian school attached to a Christian church in a bubble basically and there was this kid that was off. Years later I ran into this same kid at a bar and knew exactly why he acted the way he did when we were growing up.
When my friends nephew could barely speak (maybe a year and a half old) he would say he was a girl and not a boy. For his second Christmas he wanted a Beauty and the Beast magic mirror. He ran around the house in womens shoes and nighties. He is now 18 and gay as he could possibly be. This kid was born gay.
That response followed the guidelines and was funny.
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That’s odd, as most studies show homosexuality is the result of childhood molestation.
I’ve known a few friendly turd burglers.
Decent piece. A lot more even-handed than I thought it was going to be.
Were they born that way, or did they sexual urges change later in life? I don’t think the answer will ever present itself.
I know a lot of gay people, and they are fine people. I just wish they wouldn’t act on their impulses in that it is an abomination in God’s eyes.
I don’t think it’s specifically child molestation but rather the envirorment a child is raised in.
A strong willed, controlling mother and no father figure or a weak father will give a child tendencies to want to be female if male and attracted to women if a girl.
At least that was the studies I read.
My sister turned lesbian after two husbands and four children. My other sister and I couldn’t understand it. My mother was pretty dominering (always) and particularly butted heads with her. My dad was in the army when she was young. Because he was back home for my other sister and myself, he tempered my mom and was very attentive to us.
But also, it’s a lifestyle choice. She chooses to be with the woman she is with. Over her kids who don’t want their children exposed to it. I don’t understand that.
Being *nice* to Gay acquaintances and allowing the Homosexual agenda to take hold, are 2 different things.
Stay out of my bedroom and I’ll stay out of the privacy of yours.
I believe everything the Bible says about homosexuality.
I'll second this statement.
I have never believed in hate toward the Homosexual community. Hate is something that kills the hater before the hatee.
However, I do disagree with many parts of the Homosexual agenda including gay marriage etc. I do not say this with any malice. I say this from purely a practical point of view.
I want our Homosexual brothers and sisters to understand that many of us (maybe the vast majority of us) truly love them and pray for them and that the disagreements that we have with them are based on core principles and not hate.
I will gladly defend a gay person being beaten up solely for being gay. I will also gladly go and publicly support marriage being between one man and one woman.
The media tries to portray anyone who disagrees with the gay agenda as gay haters. That is NOT the case.
The problem is that in the past 30 years, the entire world has become a gay bedroom. It is impossible for them to keep it their own business because the movement demands that everyone, everywhere accept and encourage them.
Once, it was "the love that dare not speak it's name." Now, it's the love that won't shut the hell up.
You can’t be “born” gay.
Its a behavior.
Gender confusion. A good shrink could have corrected this problem before it had a chance to become a fundamental part of his personality.
For his second Christmas he wanted a Beauty and the Beast magic mirror.
Of course he did. He wanted to be a pretty, little girl.
He ran around the house in womens shoes and nighties.
He is now 18 and gay as he could possibly be. This kid was born gay.
I'm willing to bet a fiver that he'll be dead by forty.
Poor kid had a normal, healthy life stolen from him. Shame. Breaks my heart.
I’m not contesting your reference.
Simply stating what several sincere studies have concluded is the basis MOST OF THE TIME.
Same here, but I think the "fineness" is many times just on the surface. The two homosexual friends I have both have deep-seated anger issues and take mood-altering medication. One is incorrigibly lazy and has an entitlement attitude; the other is industrious, but otherwise opinionated, angry, and very sacrilegious. I know, many heterosexuals have these character flaws too, so I'm not presenting firm evidence to the argument. Just saying the people who really have it together are, among other things, heterosexual.
Let us suppose for a moment that alchololism has a genetic component, and some people are more prone to experiencing the problem. So what? I would never think of walking up to someone whom I knew was an alcoholic and saying, "Hey, you know what? God made you just the way He wants you to be, and you can't help yourself to prevent this behavior that feels good to you! Here, drink up! Let me buy you a beer!" But that is exactly what the Libs want all of us to do in the case of this disability...smile and rubber-stamp the bad behavior as being just fine.
I have known probably five homosexual men and a couple of women in my life, and without exception they were smart, kind people trying to do the best they could. They were also, every one, from homes where I could see either emotionally absent or overbearing authoritarian fathers. And every one of them was, at some time in their history, recruited.
What is more, in each case, I could chart for you how the "lifestyle" (that's "sin" to you and me) gradually enveloped them and took them completely. They each began as well-rounded people: athletes, singers, scholars, teachers and more. But over time, what they became was "gay"...it permeated every aspect of their lives, became their sole and central point, with no other factor given any real weight. It is the ultimate in narcissism, because the person becomes more important than anyone else on the planet. It is his or her feelings that matter more than friends, relatives or society.
As everyone who has seen this knows, it ultimately becomes required for everyone around the homosexual to endorse their choice or be cast out into the night, because no disagreement with their behavior will be tolerated. I have lost some good acquaintances because I would not bow down and pronounce what they did as good.
If I had a good friend who thought that sticking their face in a glass furnace sounded like a really fun time, I would have to warn them that the after affects could kill them. If I had a friend who was trying to drive their car off a cliff, I would be honor bound to try and prevent it...even if they intended to.
Suppose that I am a vegetarian, and I stand on a soapbox in front of an Outback Steak House, and announce the following:
You probably don't want to hear this, but what you are doing is morally wrong. It is insensitive of you to put your own desires ahead of all the damage that your own lusts creates all around you. Firstly, you endanger your own bodies with behavior that is scientifically shown to put you at great risk of several diseases, risking even your own deaths! Secondly, the money that you are costing the medical insurance industry because of your own self-driven choices could be used to help protect the health of thousands of other people. Thirdly, by giving in to the desires of your flesh, you are causing worry and grief to those around you who care about you! And fourthly, you are in the end the only one who can prevent these bad choices in your life, because you can, at any time, decide to stop behaving irresponsibly! For your own moral good, for your health, and for your families and friends, I plead with you to reconsider what you are doing!"
The news media would portray you as "a bright, concerned individual, unafraid to take an unpopular position on a controversial subject, who bravely has stood up to warn those about him about their moral obligations to everyone around them, and the dangers of their own self-centered behavior."
Now, instead you are an evangelical Christian, standing outside of a gay bar. Go and repeat the indented paragraph.
That's right...you are tarred and feathered in the media as "a small-mided, self-centered Bible-thumping conservative who wants to take away the natural rights of others, cruelly limiting their choices and brutally committing hate-speech that belittles and condemns them."
It is usually the Liberals who wail about their goddess "Tolerance" who are first in line to throw stones when you won't tolerate the things THEY hold dear. I wish that all the people who are standing line to tell us what we can eat, where we can smoke, what firearms we are allowed to protect ourselves with and how much of our pie we should give to others were half as ready to hear what we think.
I’ve had many longtime *gay* friends (male and female) and I have never been overwhelmed by any flaming gay pride nonsense or such.
Chances are though, living near Austin, TX. for the last 30 years, I might be immune.
I believe you are correct that some are connected to actual sexual molestation.
But especially with homosexuality becoming the “I’m friends with a black kid” of the 80’s, some of it is just wanting to be different. And the envirorment.
I think that studies that were done before the normalization by society, may have different outcomes today.
I do. My brother is gay. He and his friends are some of the most selfish people that I have ever met. Life is about them and being "fulfilled". It has nothing to do with responsibility. They see the fault as being other people's selfishness in not wanting to approve of the lifestyle and chalk it up to hating anything different.
Every terrorist believes G-d made him to avenge whatever by means of murdering masses of innocents randomly.
Every thief thinks, this is my nature.
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What logic! What serendipity! Let us speak nicely to those who come to ruin us all.
>>Once, it was “the love that dare not speak it’s name.” Now, it’s the love that won’t shut the hell up. <<
Wow! Spot on!!!
That’s so sad.
In our case, I’ve taken over the roll of Grandma for the kids so it’s kind of okay and I would move heaven and earth for them.
She is basically alone except for the girlfriend.
The “normalization” you speak of, is in place to better establish adults, in a position to prey on our children.
She will never see that as having been her choice. She will believe it was a choice forced on her by others and their "hateful" opinions. It is sad.
I’ve found the testimony of ex-gay folks immensely valuable psychologically....because they are in a good position to know what they were thinking at the time and also what was fundamentally flawed about it (which, of course, most currently homosexual people are largely blind to).
My little hypothesis is as follows, at least for males. Boys grow up for one reason or another estranged from other boys—either as a result of molestation, or family problems, teasing, or sensitive personalities, what have you. When the rest of us went through a phase where “girls are icky”, they found themselves identifying with girls and not with other boys. Then, at puberty, this feeling of estrangement and otherness toward other boys is improperly sexualized, with all the symptoms that we normally have toward girls (crushes, heart palpitations, etc.).
The homosexual person sees this as a continuity between his childhood and his adulthood—thus “I was born gay” and “I was gay as long as I can remember”. But that’s hogwash, because sexuality doesn’t awaken in *anyone* till adolescence. They may have felt different, but the mistake is in identifying that difference as a protosexual attraction to men.
Wait, I don’t want you to think that I’m saying it’s a good thing. It’s a societal thing. Please understand that.
Geez, we've read this one here dozens of times
Tell them you will pray for them to be cured of their mental illness. They HATE that!
I just leave them alone.
You are absolutely correct.
She sent a note to her middle son who has basically avoided her, laying on a thick layer of guilt and begging him to call her. His wife (who is the most Christian woman I know) said that she and the kids (6 & 4) could see “Grandma” but not with her girlfriend.
The son called her and told her this. Mom hung up.
I do the same, but getting them to leave US alone is another matter.
How sad. She will weep and insist that she’s being treated badly and hated all the while refusing to see it’s by her choice. Gays will not bend one iota, they will not meet anyone halfway. Their selfishness demands all or nothing. But it’s everyone elses fault. People in general can be so blinded by “me”. Accept my sin or you hate me.
Yes, she told her daughter exactly that.
Male and female He made them. After that, everyone makes choices as to sexual activity - who, what, how, where, how often, etc.
Molestation, troubled relationships with their father, or overbearing mother, at least for male homsexuality. Anyone says that being “born that way” is lying.
While there are undoubtably some that are born with urges, the vast majority are not. Well over 90% of admitted gay men admit to sex at least once with a woman so, so much for women can’t do it for me argument. And more than 90% of admittedly gay men admit that their first voluntary gay encounter happened only after they got good and drunk.
You don’t need to get drunk first to do something you believe and know in your heart you are meant to do. Sorry, but its a complete load, no pun intended, that homosexuality is not by and large nothing more than a psychological disorder.
Homosexuality, particularly male homosexuality is nothing more than a psychological disorder, and narcicism is one of its many outward symptoms.
Whatever You Believe About Homosexuality, Say It Kindly
What I know about Homosexual activity is that it is morally wrong, morally repulsive, against the law of nature, historically wrong and until the left in this nation got its way, was a crime (for 95 percent of recorded history).
And as an American that dedends the US Constitution and the First Admendment I will say this just as I have here. The homosexualmafia and the enabling left can pound sand which should only serve to make them happy.
We had a dear friend who had left that lifestyle behind. He married, became a pastor and they adopted 3 needy children. We didn’t hear from him for 5 years and my hubby found a gay profile for our friend on Aol and we contacted him. His wife had taken his kids and left him and he had been kicked out of his church. And he had Aids. He was still “cruising” and not telling his partners that he was infected. He died 2 years ago, reviling his church for not helping him. None of it was his fault. I guess it’s more than just selfishness, it’s also the immaturity of a childish point of view.
That is horribly sad.
The truth is that nobody knows what causes homosexuality. The politically correct answer is that they are born that way. You’re not supposed to think it’s a choice. I honestly don’t know what causes it, but I don’t think we need to change established social policy and arrangements such as marriage just because we don’t know what causes homosexuality. If they want to go live in The Castro, fine. Let everyone live their life as they see fit, but don’t force society to change to accomodate a tiny minority.
he would say he was a girl and not a boy/stand him next to a girl and show him what girl looks like she has one of those and she can have all of them she wants.
If it don’t fit, don’t force it.
Well put and I agree completely.
And a few people have so clearly got behaviors associated with the opposite sex that one has to wonder if heterosexuality was really ever in the cards for them.
It's also been said that when women have many sons their body secretes extra estrogen to compensate, so youngest sons in a family where all the children are boys are supposedly more likely to be homosexuals.
>>It’s also been said that when women have many sons their body secretes extra estrogen to compensate, so youngest sons in a family where all the children are boys are supposedly more likely to be homosexuals. <<
I’m married to the youngest of four. Three are boys. None are homosexual.
It is not fully understood how the homosexual disorientation came to be.
However, sticking one’s penis in another man’s rectum is definitely a choice.
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