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I’m An Asian Woman Engaged To A White Man And, Honestly, I’m Struggling With That
Huffington Post ^ | February 2, 2019 | Tria Chang

Posted on 02/10/2019 6:56:27 PM PST by EdnaMode

“Oh, God, another Asian girl/white boy couple,” I groan, dropping my fiancé’s hand.

He hates it when I do this. So do I, really. I know it’s unkind and self-loathing, but every time I see another couple of our racial makeup, a little part of me sinks. We live in San Francisco, so this dip is as common as the hills. In these moments, I wish we were anything else ― that he were my gay best friend or we were startup co-founders, that he were Asian and I were white, that we were exquisitely ambiguous races, or that I could sink like my feelings into the sidewalk, be a little worm, and date whomever I want without considering social perception.

Shame is neither the wisest nor most mature part of oneself, but it still has a voice. “Stop it you guys!” my shame wants to say to these other couples. “Can’t you see the more of us there are, the worse it looks?”

“It” meaning the prevalent trend of Asian women seeming to end up with white men. “It” meaning the perpetuation of Asian fetish.

The first time I heard the term ”Asian fetish,” I was the only Chinese kid in a tiny school. Other students in my class had been pairing up to date since fifth grade, exchanging love notes and making each other Alanis Morissette mixtapes. I waited for my ”Jagged Little Pill” cassette, but nothing came in fifth grade. Or sixth. Or seventh. Or eighth.

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TOPICS: Chit/Chat; Local News; Society
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To: DNME
Every commercial on television features a black husband and a white wife, or so it seems.

I've been noticing that for years now. I've told my wife and daughter that, it's not by accident and that the advertising people and companies are trying to play to the audiences, but that they're going too far by not reflecting the true composition of American families. And, it's not just black-white/white-black marriages. Asian and Hispanics coupled with whites and blacks, seem to be about half of the interracial families on TV commercials. They've gotten to the point that, it's more ridiculous than real.

How 'bout the black dad with the white baby? Seems like the mother is out of the picture and dad was left to care alone.

When it comes to racism, it's Hollywood liberal who are throwing it on our faces constantly. Nobody more racist than he or she that is constantly talking about it.
181 posted on 02/11/2019 5:06:02 AM PST by adorno
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To: oldasrocks

Yes. I date a pretty, young Chinese girl who graduated from Cornell for a shot time. She blamed her periods of insane rage on PMS. I’m quite sure she was bipolar. She took pleasure in denouncing my faults. Being a Reaganite was a big one. When not crazed, she was quite pleasant.

Although she prided herself on being a liberal feminist, her parents owned a sweat shop in Brooklyn. She saw nothing wrong with it.

Why did the relationship persist for a while? The food and sex was good.


182 posted on 02/11/2019 5:07:42 AM PST by DeplorablePaul
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To: EdnaMode

Asians can be extremely racist.


183 posted on 02/11/2019 5:10:26 AM PST by central_va (I won't be reconstructed and I do not give a damn)
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To: EdnaMode

PuffingtonHost.


184 posted on 02/11/2019 5:12:12 AM PST by Leep (It's.. (W)all or nothing..!)
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To: rbg81

“1. They keep themselves fit
2. They generally look younger than they are
3. They are smart, hard working and well behaved
4. They generally avoid the Feminist nonsense
5. They know how to treat a man”

All true although the author seems badly broken.


185 posted on 02/11/2019 5:15:49 AM PST by Brooklyn Attitude (The first step in ending the war on white people is to recognize it exists.)
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To: Clutch Martin
...the filth from the feet of humankind.

I just said that!

186 posted on 02/11/2019 5:16:55 AM PST by Elsie (Heck is where people, who don't believe in Gosh, think they are not going...)
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To: DeplorablePaul
When not crazed, she was quite pleasant.

Adam!! Eat some of this damned FRUIT!!!


187 posted on 02/11/2019 5:19:45 AM PST by Elsie (Heck is where people, who don't believe in Gosh, think they are not going...)
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To: Elsie

...because you listened to your wife...


188 posted on 02/11/2019 5:20:31 AM PST by Elsie (Heck is where people, who don't believe in Gosh, think they are not going...)
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To: Brooklyn Attitude

All true although the author seems badly broken.


I think it is definitely true for those “off the boat” after their formative years. If they were born and/or largely raised in the US, all bets are off.


189 posted on 02/11/2019 5:25:20 AM PST by rbg81 (Truth is stranger than fiction)
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To: EdnaMode
Well, that was a pantload of crap.

At least as far as I was able to get before I retched.

This is journalism?

This is what passes as reality for damned dumb ass liberals?

Sucks to be progressive.

190 posted on 02/11/2019 5:29:01 AM PST by Snake Skin Sonny
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To: max americana; Elsie; metmom; 2ndDivisionVet; knarf; dsc
My brother is married to a wonderful rightwing pro-Trump Filipina.

So am I. She voted for DU30 too. Two things I can say about most Philippine women, that I think does not apply to other Asian women, is they generally don’t care about looks and age differences. I will not say how much younger my wife is, just that she is younger. Eat your hearts out brothers. 😁👍 They are usually content to be a woman, and let the man be a man, and value family above all. However, if anyone thinks they are submissive and allow a man to walk all over them, they have probably never had a Filipina. 😆

191 posted on 02/11/2019 5:36:55 AM PST by Mark17 (Genesis chapter 1 verse 1. In the beginning GOD.... And the rest, as they say, is HIS-story)
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To: Extremely Extreme Extremist

Looks like he lost...


192 posted on 02/11/2019 5:37:15 AM PST by Chickensoup (Leftists totalitarian fascists appear to be planning to eradicate conservatives)
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To: EdnaMode; All

I’m not sure anybody’s mentioned the biggest put-off: Never mind the culture of color (white for him, whatever they assign her these days): SanFran is by far off-putting.


193 posted on 02/11/2019 5:39:35 AM PST by Colofornian
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To: FLT-bird

I did read a study about inter racial dating one time years and years ago. It had to do with muscle mass of the women. Men want women softer than they are and women want men stronger. Black women have too much, so black men will look at white women, white men turn to Asian women. Black women and Asian men being at the opposite ends of that spectrum were less attractive to members of other races and thus were less likely to date inter racially


194 posted on 02/11/2019 5:51:20 AM PST by Betty Jane
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To: All

Extreme feminism is driving men andv women farther apart. But, male dominance is also prevalent. All energy chooses the path of least resistance electricity, hydraulics, pneumatic, or love. One must insure they keep the conductors in good repair and maintain a go barrier of isolation from outside damage.


195 posted on 02/11/2019 5:52:58 AM PST by Retvet (Retvet)
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To: Mark17
WOO HOO and I do NOT want to cross MY Filipina wife.

Hot Latin blood don't hold a candle to a pissed off Filipina asawa.

As much as it upsets me, I cannot break her of walking behind me in my blind spot at Walmart ... just something about her, I guess.

And one more ... she outworks most men one on one and a few twofers.

196 posted on 02/11/2019 6:03:44 AM PST by knarf (I say things that are true. I have no proof, but they're true)
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To: EdnaMode

If you are going to marry an Asian woman DO NOT marry one raised in the USA.


197 posted on 02/11/2019 6:07:26 AM PST by Mr. K (No consequence of repealing Obamacare is worse than Obamacare itself.)
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To: EdnaMode
"To her fiancé: run!!!!!"

If that's her fiance..and he agreed to pose for this picture knowing about this article...her apron strings won't allow him to get far. He's toast and he doesn't even know it.


198 posted on 02/11/2019 6:17:44 AM PST by moovova
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To: knarf
And one more ... she outworks most men one on one and a few twofers.

True bro. I have learned one thing, however. Make sure you get a dependable guy, if you get your house renovated. 👍

199 posted on 02/11/2019 6:20:49 AM PST by Mark17 (Genesis chapter 1 verse 1. In the beginning GOD.... And the rest, as they say, is HIS-story)
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To: EdnaMode

White Man needs to disengage from “Asian” woman.


200 posted on 02/11/2019 6:49:05 AM PST by the OlLine Rebel (Common sense is an uncommon virtue./Federal-run medical care is as good as state-run DMVs.)
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