I did, too -- like you, back in the 80's.
33 years married and 4 now-adult out-of-the-house kids later, I like to say I married the kind of girl every guy wished they were married to!
FReegards!
Posted on 10/16/2018 12:27:13 PM PDT by SeekAndFind
Keenly observed!
The old jokes are often the best.
Mine didn’t leave. She made me leave. She got the house. And the kids. I’m still footing the bill.
You are obviously a lying troll.
(I keed, I keed!)
Lucky bastard.
I did, too -- like you, back in the 80's.
33 years married and 4 now-adult out-of-the-house kids later, I like to say I married the kind of girl every guy wished they were married to!
FReegards!
Same here, only I got the kids and am not footing the bill. I really did luck out.
You are the most attractive and intelligent woman in the world.
Money, looks, and charm. Nothing else matters to women
You must have a better lawyer. Or else you don’t live in California.
Did it without lawyers. Don’t underestimate the narcissism of women.
She was more worried about what her three teenage kids would think of further ruining their dad. Used that against her and it worked.
Kids still hate her, but it cost me less.
What a bunch of romanticized moonsong. Women like those men because they know those men will treat them like crap. And any woman who throws herself at some fake rock-n-roll "idol" secretly wants to be treated like crap.
I find that list highly offensive.
You forgot ass and legs.
It’s all about validation. If you know how to validate a woman, both of you will be happy for life. Been married for 29 years to the same woman. Getting, “I am so pissed off at (insert name here) for doing (insert what that person did here)” has me responding with, “I can hear the frustration in your voice. Is there anything I can do?”
She appreciates that I am listening and actually gets what she is saying. (I have no clue what she is saying) A kiss on the cheek, a hand touching the small of her back and a smile and I am set for a night of nookie.
It has worked for 29 years and I am not about to try something else.
That list seems like a generalization-more like instructions for being a person that people will like rather than making a guy into a babe-magnet-but every little bit helps, I suppose...
As long as the guy is an alpha and a real man-muy macho, honest, fit, hardworking-a fine cowboy-then the plata doesn’t matter to me-I make my own living, and like my independence. My guy is a Marlboro man type-just right for me. Also, too many guys my age are secretly selfish wusses-they want a woman to be a purse or a nurse-since I’m not either one, I chose a blue collar cowboy who owns a home based business and also has a job that has him working on the road 4-5 days per week-no chance he will want to be dependent, any more than I will-we are equals and partners-good match.
I do cook for my man-sometimes we cook together-paleo/organic diet is what we both like and grew up with. We both work out 3 X per week, do physical jobs-I weigh the same as I did at 17-I’m 5’8 1/2” tall; 106 lbs-I’m not going to outgrow my size 4-5 wardrobe at this late date-even if I could afford a new one-I respect myself and expect my man to respect himself, too-mate selection priorities are very different when people are past the age to reproduce...
RE: My guy is a Marlboro man type-just right for me.
Marlboro? Does he smoke? :)
Wow, and you’re a guy?? You actually DO understand women. Kudos
Allow me to translate this from a P.R. / P.C. speech code to what they really mean in a woman’s mind:
7. Leadership and Initiative
Really means: Alpha male. Not a whimp.
Not just a man who comfortable with aggression (A very bad word in psycho babble, but we all know women like it) in the right times, but this is also code lingo for men who are ambitious and takers; IE, borderline sociopaths (which is also a problem, specially when they cross that line in their relationship). But we will get to ambition later, because that crosses over to another one listed.
6. A Sense of Humor
What this really means: He can put up with her BS, and he can put up with life’s BS and make light of it. Women don’t want to have to deal with a sourpuss or a crab-ass. If you can make her laugh or smile when she otherwise wouldn’t be having fun, you’re a perfect little performer. Ops, sorry for the cynicism. This is actually one of my better personal attributes, but I don’t mind calling a clown a clown, even if he is in the mirror.
5. Passion and Ambition
What this really means: You’re not a deadbeat. You produce in life, and you produce in the bedroom (and where ever else it’s suitable at the time). Not much more to say here.
4. A Sense of Style
What this really means: Learn how to show without being a flamboyant. Women want to be proud of how a man looks. Of course grooming has fads, but you’re supposed to look like you care, but not look like a peacock. heh.
3. Confidence
What this really means: You get things done. It’s really just the same thing as #7 and #5 but this has a social spin. You don’t wilt in the face of chaos, confrontation, or burden. These are all hybrids and offshoots of a woman’s desire for a man who takes care of stuff. If I were a feminist I’d be cringing right now.
2. Good Listening Skills
What this really means: Empathy. See #1
If you don’t have empathy, you’re not going to listen and you wont know what you are listening to when you try. Sorry. Let’s cut the BS out of these.
1. Kindness and Empathy
What this really means: You’re not just giving, but you know what to give. You figure it out. Most guys know this is a hugely attractive attribute and they fake it when they first meet and first start dating women. It seems to me from my experience observing people (all people, but were’t talking about men here specifically I believe) that people fake empathy and kindness quite rather well when they have to. It’s really sad. Most women should trust their gut when they are getting lots of compliments and lots of gifts but something doesn’t seem quite on. Your spider senses wont go off when someone has real empathy. Listen to them.
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