Posted on 09/06/2017 7:15:26 PM PDT by BJ1
Looking ahead to the next phase of life can seem pretty dreadful if you can’t stand the person who you’ll be spending it with.
That may be what some boomers are facing. Among U.S. adults ages 50 and older, the divorce rate has roughly doubled since the 1990s, according to a recent Pew Research Center report.
Statistically speaking we’re healthier and probably going to be living a lot longer — possibly 30 years longer — than average retirees once did. The surge in late-in-life — or “gray” — divorce is one possibly unintended consequence of this so-called longevity bonus.
Read: Why your retirement may not be so horrible after all
“What’s pushing gray divorce is people are living longer and they feel more entitled to living fully. They’ve contributed to raising children, they want an emotional journey, it’s their time now,” says Lili Vasileff, a certified financial planner and president of Divorce and Money Matters, which specializes in divorce financial planning. “They may have (decades) ahead and don’t want to be unhappy anymore.”
This is combined with a reduced stigma of divorce, both in terms of religion and society’s attitudes. People also feel more financially stable — especially if both partners have careers. But there are some serious downsides to divorce at this stage of life.
“Gray divorcees tend to be less financially secure than married and widowed adults, particularly among women,” Pew says. “And living alone at older ages can be detrimental to one’s financial comfort and, for men, their satisfaction with their social lives.”
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I would have tried to stay together for the kids and all, but when your spouse “drops out” of all connection and responsibility, you just can’t. And maybe I am supposed to be miserable being single, I’m sorry: I’m so glad I’m not living with a miserable crazy person who enjoys causing conflict and unpleasantness. I prefer my life to that of my trapped married friends, at least most of them.
I’d get a divorce but, I need someone to call 911 when I stroke out.
Agreed. When I think how I would have to modify the way I live now to accommodate having a wife again, it reaffirms the reasons I live alone.
Don’t get me wrong, I’d love a boyfriend to do things with, but the whole sharing all the finances and house etc.... uh-uh. No more. I always rolled over submissive and got taken advantage of. I really gave marriage my all and then some, but I don’t see the need to try again.
What is the “villages”?
I’m 59 and pretty virile
My wife who is 51 leaves me I won’t be having sex with old gray haired girls
Prolly not north of 45 I’d wager
Why bother
Unless you want a baggage claim area of baggage with that tang.
Get a girlfriend my man.
Get thin if you are not already
Get some sildenafil if you need it
Live
Enjoy the intimacy and physicality of a fit kind woman
Shit...I can’t imagine not having at least a BFF or squeeze
Talk ol Wardaddy advice on this one
It’ll be fade to black soon enuff
We’re men...girls are different about this as they get older so be pretty prepared to fish for younger bream
Lol ok...seem pretty happy go me.
...”The term “living fully” is a bit on the idiotic side.”...
Yes! Would be interesting to know who initiates the divorce at a later age. Could Cialis be to blame? My understanding is that, in spite of the adorable ads, it does not do much for older wives.
What has really shocked me is the divorces in families with 6 to 12 children.
I know several of them. all leading Christian families in the area.
No one cause for the breakups.
When you start to draw SS as a couple one of you gets 100% and the other gets 50%. If you divorce you get 100% for both of you.
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Not true, if I were to draw SS I would get 50 percent of my former spouses rate.
People are shallow today. They live for immediate gratification like ghetto dwellers. And most will become poor as dirt.
My 2nd wife was 20 years younger, drop dead beautiful, and passed away from breast cancer.
I won't marry again. I've found I like the quiet lifestyle.
And I can Fish, Hunt and go to the Range anytime I want to.
The “Feminist “movement has a lot to answers for here. People like Steinem and Dworkin wanted women to be as miserable as they were. Their blather sowed discontent in a lot of marriages.
Happy 42nd Anniversary!
Sept 7th is a great anniversary date: Hubby and I are
celebrating 31 year anniversary today! We were in our 20’s
when we married but also strongly agree that vows mean something! .....
Happy Anniversary to my husband! Love you!
(Free Republic E-Card)
Wonder if that's still the case...
And how receptive are the women under 45 to you, at age 59?
A senior citizen development in Florida.
Blame obama and obamacare, many divorce and then live together so the person who is chronically ill will be able to go on Medicare/Medicaid. Know several who have had to do it.
I’d fit this bill if we didn’t have Medicare/Tricare Life. We stay barely afloat with his Navy Pension, SS, and my SS. We even downsized homes to a starter home, as nearly 4K ft was to much for us to take care of. Saving up for our last more senior friendly Crossover SUV and not looking at the high end ones. More like a Chevy Equinox Premier which has bells and whistles like lane drift, blind spot warning, and Nav package. Only 1 that comes with the stuff that now is a necessity with hearing and vision issues that age brings.
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