Posted on 05/11/2017 10:02:05 PM PDT by BJ1
At the end of the day, most men just want a woman who’s nice. “Nice,” to a man, means being soft, gentle and kind. It means asking your husband how his day was and really listening. It means doing something nice for him with no expectation of getting something in return—you know, the way you did when you were dating. But wait a minute, you say. Don’t women want the same thing? A man who’s nice? Not exactly. Most women do want a man who’s kind, but that’s not the same as nice. Ask any guy you know, and he’ll likely give you example after example of women they know who said they wanted a nice guy but in reality wanted a bad boy. That’s because just as most men are attracted to femininity, or softness, most women are attracted to masculinity. And masculinity is hard. Gruff. Take charge. So, where are you on the nice scale? If you’re not an inherently nice person, believe me I get it. I think I’m pretty nice, but that isn’t the first word one would think of to describe me. The truth is, I’ve had to exercise my nice muscle. Now Playing Author shares marriage advice for 'alpha females' Never autoplay videos I’ve had to learn how to be be nice. A lot of women think they’re nice because they act nice. But acting nice and being nice are two different things. Being nice means you think of others before you think about yourself. (And yes, there’s such thing as being too nice and putting your needs last; but I’m not talking about that.) It means you’re attune to the needs of others and incorporate those needs into the equation. Most husbands have no desire to lord over their wives....
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This is a good explanation of the game:
https://heartiste.wordpress.com/2013/03/13/woman-admits-to-alpha-fux-beta-bux-dating-strategy/
No wonder the “youth” and millenials are so confused. Rather then the simple. “Men want a feminine woman, women want a masculine man” there are 60 different “genders,” women who are vulgar and aggressive, men who’ve been doped up when they were boys, whose main lessons of dating have been from MTV and online porn.
I wanted a woman with a kind disposition and a bird with a pleasing voice. Failed on both counts. Still have the bird.
Divorce Corp. is also a must documentary to see. The Family Court racket rakes in over 50 billion a year from families.
Whatever confusion exists among Millenial males is the direct result of the Left condemning masculinity.
+1.
Its been awhile since I did that, but I remember the same thing; bragging about how much they liked to travel and how adventurous they were.
I fantasized through 11 years of marriage that just once my wife would come out to the backyard while I was doing yardwork in the hot sun, and tell me what a good job I was doing, and how much she appreciated me, and bring me a cold glass of lemonade. It never happened, but my fantasy persisted for 11 years. I literally thought about it every single time I cut the grass. She is now my ex-wife.
This article is painful to read. Not because it’s wrong.
Because it’s 110% right. It leaves me sad and unhappy.
Thanks for posting that. That would be a perfect Hallmark card for Mother’s Day.
Is that too much to ask of a life partner ... apparently in America ... Freeport ladies not withstanding
I forgot time include romantic in my list
How about just 2 cats?
But I am looking into a third.
Wow. Can I ask how you both were able to avoid court? I thought it was impossible to avoid the courts.
Or did you still have to go into family court, it’s just neither of you had lawyers and had worked it all out beforehand?
Family Court is set up to drag the process out and have each side antagonize the other, to maximize court time, attorney fees, and court-appointed experts.
Sad you both split up, but glad neither of you got reamed in Family Court. Your separation is more like how they do it in Europe, where the courts are not set up biased towards either side, are not set up to make money off the couple splitting up, and kids are not used as weapons and stealth alimony.
“masculinity is hard. Gruff.” - just the writers opinion. not in any definition I’ve seen of the word.
Upon finding myself middle-aged and in a surprise divorce, imagine my shock and awe when I discovered Asian women. What had I been doing all my life? They are comfortable with your masculinity, do all the soft and nice things you could ever want, yet make you work a little bit for their affection. I see none of the entitlement or engrained feminism that our culture teaches. Will probably never look at another Western woman again.
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