Posted on 03/21/2017 8:40:43 PM PDT by nickcarraway
Make him a mouthful of sammich?
Ping.
How do I shut up a LEFTSPLAINER?
Signed, The World.
The guy is a chatterbox and you just tell him to be quiet.
If you are not a strong enough person to do that then you should not be in charge of anything.
What I found what works, is:
stop everything you are doing.
Call attention to Fergus.
Tell him he has the floor.
The room will go silent.
Ask him to explain the process\procedure\steps to take.
(If he takes you up on it)
Once he steps on a land mine, you stop his dissertation.
Tell him he is wrong.
Explain the correct procedure beginning from where you left off.
In either case, tell him in no uncertain terms .... no more interruptions.
Crush the patriarchy!
Insecure woman.
I have had great female and male bosses. I have also had horrid bosses of each sex.
This article is so wrong in so many ways. In short she does not know how to be boss and never will. It has nothing to do with her sex but her poor leadership qualities.
She could learn a lot of things relating to whatever it is she does, then she might not have to ask a man (the horror!) for help.
I have had great female and male bosses. I have also had horrid bosses of each sex.
This article is so wrong in so many ways. In short she does not know how to be boss and never will. It has nothing to do with her sex but her poor leadership qualities.
Agree completely with your first paragraph. However, leadership is a skill set, which means it can be learned. Becoming a great boss doesn't happen by accident, and mediocrity is practically the default. All of my best bosses were constantly working to improve themselves and their management skills. My worst bosses were people who just assumed their position meant they were experts in everything. There was never any growth, and they got progressively worse over time. This is the writer's first foray into management. Asking for help navigating new challenges is a promising sign.
Wut? She asked him to simmer down and learn the job she's already an expert in before he starts yammering on incorrectly about it.
Never interrupt a mansplainer. Because he’s a man.
In a couple more years, she’ll be in charge of water boarding.
Leftsplainer! I will keep that one.
Cisgendersplainers are also a pain.
This behavior isn’t gender-specific. I’ve seen it a lot, in both men and women.
And it ALWAYS gets worse, until eventually the person has to be fired so the rest of the team can function.
Dear person writing to your boss. It doesn’t matter if Fergus makes you upset. You’ve given notice. Let go.
Fergus didn’t just walk in the door - somebody liked him and his background enough to want to hire him. Your actions are undermining that higher-up’s decision. His supervisor may put her hand up to stop his input, but it’s inappropriate for you to do so because he is your equal. It is also inappropriate to speak harshly to him in a meeting setting. That’s what closed doors are for. What you’re really doing is trying to make yourself look more valuable going out the door and that’s selfish. Turn your criticism into a helping hand.
Fergus needs to let trainees know that he is the new trainer - because he is. You’re gone. If he just sits there while you decide whether he’s your perfect duplicate, you’re wasting the company’s resources. He should be conducting the training sessions, with you there to give him feedback - after the session in a quiet environment. Since he’s done equivalent work in other settings, and likely has a wealth of experience to draw from because of his age (btw, even mentioning his age in a letter to your boss is harassment), understand that he may have different insight than you. His responsibility is to please the hiring authority, not you. Have fun in your new career and don’t worry about Fergus. He’ll be just fine.
Testosterone?
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