My wife and I added one element, in a progressive manner as the kids got older and could understand more.
The kids had the right to ask why - but only AFTER compliance. As little ones, the answer was usually very simple, including “because I said so”. As teens, they got answers that explained some of the factors they couldn’t yet perceive.
Again, they had to comply, but they had the right to understand the reasoning behind the ruling, once they had complied.
It seems to both have worked and be working well, so far.
Again, they had to comply, but they had the right to understand the reasoning behind the ruling, once they had complied.We did the exact same thing...
One of the worst things a parent can do to a young teen is leave them anger as to why you are seemingly unreasonable in their mind...
They deserve to understand the who, what and why you made your decision...
They may not like it, but they at least have a reason and know you respect and love them enough to explain......