[montag813]

Why can’t gays just keep their damn mouths shut? Me Me Me Me Me. Why would he tell his mother this? What could it possibly achieve aside from increasing her suffering and grief?

[ifinnegan]

“That same night, my father took me aside and confided that before his marriage he had an affair with a man but got psychological help and was ‘cured.’”

But just prior to that he says he has no proof?!?

This guy is quite the genius.

[dmz]

LOL.

My mom was quite ill, bipolar disorder, breast cancer, and did not have a lot of road left in front of her, and I was typically brutally honest with her.

Until a coworker said the following: You spent the first several decades of your life lying to her, or at least concealing the whole truth. Now, as she is near the end of her life you tell her the truth?

Don’t tell mom.

[Graybeard58]

Well, number one, he’s not gay, he’s queer.

[taxcontrol]

What good can come from the conversation? I have a visceral dislike for those that gossip, especially those that gossip about the dead who are no longer able to defend themselves.

[Fido969]

Mom knows, cupcake.

[NorthMountain]

I promised.

Sodomites disgust me. Their whole world revolves around their filthy, perverted, and unnatural methods of achieving orgasm. That unpleasant topic supersedes all else for them.

I promised.

Yes. You promised. So STFU. Jerk.

[Calvin Locke]

I suppose "Name Withheld by NYT" ought to watch/re-watch "Death at a Funeral".

I generally preferred the UK original over the US remake.

Peter Dinklage played the boy-toy in both versions.

[Blue Jays]

The maggot who wrote to The New York Times probably has a mother who was born in the 1920s.
That selfish jerk is NOW going to saddle her with headaches at this point in her life? Good grief.

[faithhopecharity]

if was all THAT homosexual, your Mom knows about it already.
(don’t try to tell Mama anything. Rather, you’d be better off asking her.... where you came from...)

[Cowboy Bob]

Castration cures homosexuality.

[RetiredTexasVet]

On a scale of 1 to 10 this worthless article rates a -4 ... don’t you queers get it .... no one cares about your sodomy!

[fruser1]

“I came out to my parents in the 1970s, while home from college. That same night, my father ...”

His Dad was b.s.ing him.

My guess is daddy made the story up to make his son feel better by approaching the problem from a sympathetic perspective. Probably hoping his son had made a one time mistake and would “get over it”.

[beelzepug]

“The only thing of which I am certain is that he let me down.”

He let YOU down? What a selfish POS you are!

[LeonardFMason]

What a QUEER story.

[AppyPappy]

He just wants to add more drama to her life.
Gays are big on that revenge thing.

[discostu]

Bo proof means no accusations, especially not of the dead. There’s no point to it. Really even with proof there’s no point. Let Dear Ol Mom keep her memories as is.

[dfwgator]

Maybe this was his dad...

[fwdude]

I'm actually kind of impressed that the response to the inane question was actually halfway sane and rational. Good points made:

- the fag questioner had no actual "fact" that his father was "gay."
- the revelation of this hunch would help his mother in no way imaginable.
- A promise made to the father didn't cease to be binding because the promisee is dead.

[B212]

this is similar to someone shouting fire in a crowded theater....I control you by raising my childish voice....