Posted on 01/02/2016 7:55:14 AM PST by reaganaut1
My sister has been dating her boyfriend for two years. They live together and seem mostly happy. And I am happy for them, except for one thing: I am about 99 percent sure he is gay. Now, I have no problem with homosexuality, but you can understand my concern. Also, I am not the only one who thinks this. Several male friends have told me that he has tried to kiss other men or grab their crotches. I would like to bring this up with my sister. How should I do it?
Michelle, New York
Request denied! Before you say anything hurtful to your sister, let's take a peek at some of the (homophobic-adjacent) assumptions that you've made on your (probably well-intentioned) road to judgment. Your 99 percent certainty rests on unknown evidence. (Spare me your gaydar.) But I am willing to bet that much of it involves silly stereotypes about masculinity. Is the boyfriend effeminate? Does he follow fashion or musical theater? News flash: He can still be straight.
More problematic is the "gay panic" of your male friends, whose gossipy stories may rely on secondhand reports from still other men. Not so reliable. What's more, I don't buy it. Gay men and lesbians have long been, and often still are, a persecuted minority. (Have you seen the excellent film "Carol" yet?) The idea that a gay man could blithely and repeatedly "grab the crotches" of his straight cohorts is absurd. There would be consequences.
But even if all these allegations are true, who are we to substitute our judgment for your sister's? You say she is happy with this man after living with him for two years, plenty of time to decide for herself whether she is. Every relationship is different; some are more sexual than others.
(Excerpt) Read more at nytimes.com ...
I read this as the NY Times giving a thinly-veiled warning to anyone who might bring up the (legitimate) subject of Hillary’s lesbianism - don’t do it or there will be consequences!
has he been shunned by his family?
normal people treat the “out of the closet” as dead.
I think my president is. What can we do?
“Now, I have no problem with homosexuality, but you can understand my concern.” Bwahahahaa, there’s your problem, fool! You have no problem with sexual deviancy and sexual degenerates, but you’re concerned for your sister’s health? Bwahahahaha ... liberals are the greatest fools.
As riveting as churning sewage on a hot summers day, I give you the NYT.
Another clue that your sister’s boyfriend is queer: He reads the NYT.
Gay men and lesbians have long been, and often still are, a persecuted minority. …Perpetuating the victim status in spite of protecting the less-than-two-percent.
Lesbianism of Hatellary Rodham is merely the symptom to be ignored since it is indicative of the degenerate deviant mind of the thing running for office to serve her oligarchical masters.
Was it the fact that he was raised by a tranny, or is married to one that gave it away?
There were consequences. The straight guys told this girl. I’m not sure what the author means by consequences unless she assumes the straight guys would beat him up, with is totally hetero-phobic adjacent. Off to the re-education camp with her :)
One word:
Disease.
But if the sister is suffering from ‘heterosexual panic’, she’ll just have to get over it and learn to be happy.
A) New York City is an expensive place to live.
B) Is it possible that the sister and this guy have banded together to keep family members from endlessly engaging in matchmaking activities?
C) I say get her out of NYC!
Or maybe he is just a misunderstood Muslim male? So many possible reasons. Where’s Freud on this?
Homosexuality is a health risk. Why must author apologize for that fact?
“Dear Reader: Your sister is a beard.”
Sorry, honey, but your sister is a lesbian hiding behind a gay guy who’s still in the closet.
I like the answer to the last question:
“I have a daughter who has had three children, whom we adore, in four years of marriage. Many people ask me: “How many more children do you think she will have?” Or: “Does she not believe in birth control?” How should I answer these frequent inquiries?
Anonymous, Denver
“Back to other people’s sex lives! Look into nosy people’s eyes with maximum sincerity and say: “I don’t know. Would you like her telephone number, so you can call and ask her?” That should quiet them down.
I find the NYT’s answer homophobic.
The excessive overreaction shows that they deep down feel that homosexuality is wrong. If they really thought it was OK, they wouldn’t have any problem with the putative brother-in-law bringing it up for discussion.
Second, they weren’t even willing to consider the possibility that the sister might be a lesbian and that the living arrangement is one of mutual convenience. This again shows latent homophobia.
They should send the writer to diversity training until he acknowledges his covert feelings.
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