Posted on 12/01/2015 7:00:33 PM PST by rickmichaels
Men are often advised to stand out from the crowd to attract women - there can be only one alpha male. Women, on the other hand, are told not to be too weird. This advice has sunk in: a 2006 study found that when in a mating mind-set, men become less conformist and women become more so. A paper in the June issue of Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, however, reports that we have it all wrong.
In the new work, which studied subjects who identified as either heterosexual or bisexual, both women and men preferred nonconformist partners - those whose clothes, opinions or life decisions broke the norm - when selecting from online dating profiles, describing ideal partners or picturing dates with people they had just met. Men showed just as much interest as women in oddballs (and in one experiment, in fact more interest), even though subjects predicted women would like misfits more. Further, independent-minded people - in the U.S., the U.K. and India - reported more success in both short- and long-term dating. Other research has shown breaking rules to be a good indicator of status and power, which may explain part of its appeal for both sexes, but gender role expectations have yet to catch up.
"The old-fashioned gender stereotype - that men go for conformist, submissive women - has been slow to die," says lead author Matthew Hornsey, a social psychologist at the University of Queensland in Australia. "I'm intrigued by the notion of the 'girls' night out' and how many women feel as though they can be more unguarded without men around - more relaxed, more crass, more honest, more funny. And I keep thinking, 'Why are you keeping this good stuff to yourselves? Men would love it!'"
I can't think of a man who "owes me an apology". My husband closed a car door on my leg once and apologized profusely, which was not really necessary, as he didn't do it on purpose. I'm pretty sure he didn't anyway.
Truer words were never spoken and experienced by anyone dating on the east and west coast...
We guys have screwed up girls, Big time.
Curse Engels, Marx, Lenin, and useful idiot Madison Ave / Hollywood Ad-men propagandist dupes whose trade ensured we’ve devolved much of society to where we are now: ungrateful, ignorant, entitled, narcissistic, deviant fools.
RE: “In this Brave New World, men and women have no idea WHAT the h*ll they’re doing.”
I’m pretty sure that’s not a woman.
Bisexuals and homosexuals are not normal people, no matter what the American Psychological Association says. I believe a great number of their association are also homosexual themselves.
no, they’re not normal people. I could tell you stories the gay guys i worked with told.
like meeting in the park in crowds of 5 or 10 and getting a room together. all of them.
and MUCH MUCH worse.
they dont deserve to be punished by humans, but they don’t deserve marriage, it’s insane..
and they don’t deserve any legal protection.
blacks are black. you can see that.
how do you know someone is gay on an interview?
how do you prove discrimination? insanity
Ping
“Attracted to” and “want to stay with” are very, very different things.
I have always been attracted to hot Catholic girls. That has worked out quite well for me. And I have stayed with her.
I confess I once had the hots for a curvy girl sporting a purple mohawk and the tattoo “F-— You!” highly visible on her left arm.
Bisexuals are the truly amoral among us. They don't care what they nail, as long as it bends over.
Your aversion is well-founded and acutely so.
‘Why are you keeping this good stuff to yourselves? Men would love it!’”
I doubt that. The crass behavior? No, no thanks. No man in his right mind marries the party girl.
That looks just like the tranny named Rebecca that worked for CSLA a couple of decades ago when our company worked there, we were all warned not to stare or question it or we would be kicked off the job. That’s about as sexy Thai Transvestite.....about, but not quite.
I learned long ago thre are two types of girl: the one you you take home from the party, and the one you take home to mom and dad. Never mistake one for the other.
A non-conformist woman today is one who says I want to be a stay at home mom with four kids - all by my husband.
Of course, it did say women..............
I don't know the name of that snake, but I had a friend who owned one. The snake was very mean. He also had a Colombian boa that did not like people, but that rainbow snake liked to bite, wrap and squeeze. When my friend wanted to clean the rainbow snake's cage, he just stuck his hand inside. The snake would immediately bite his hand and wrap itself around his arm. The snake was only about 4 feet long, so there was no real danger, but it wasn't the type of animal you would hand off to others.
May I translate this as a life long bachelor...
Men want a chick that looks like she wants to get....well...A woman with round heals....well...She wants “it.”
Men want ‘easy’.
Just say’n.
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