People make too big a deal on all the wedding fru-fru. It's not about the few hours event but about the lifelong commitment. Ditch the forego the dinner and put the $$$$ toward a house or pay off those students loans so the rest of us won't be stuck with the bill.
That’s generally my position. Go get married in a small church, then begin your life.
Whaaa it is all about the bride man!
Most practical wedding reception I ever saw...full wedding party dressed for the day, the minister, I’d guess about 50 guests....in the semi-private room at Golden Corral! Now, there’s a couple with a promising future.
With friends like this,,, who need them ?
That’s some minnesota nice for you.
But what about all those poor wedding planners getting paid to plan wonderful and expensive weddings? And all of those florists and bakers, what about them? It’s horrible, tragic even!
Sure hope she hadn’t sent a gift on ahead.
Or was the point of the invitation to suck as many potential gift-givers into an obligation as possible? In any case, these aren't the kind of people you want to stay in touch with.
There’s some weird juju idea that spending a lot on a wedding will make it last or something.
If it were me, I would respond with a comment stating it was nice being friends, but now it is ended, have a happy life. This couple need to get some etiquette learning.
Well. Fifty-one years ago, husband & I married in a largish church wedding. I’d never even been to a wedding of any sort; so I had to try to do it by the book. - Got a summer job working at Redstone Arsenal in Huntsville, AL on the Saturn V “moon shot” project (Clerk Typist), made enough to pay for the wedding. A few years later, I was very nervous when the astronauts took off for the moon; afraid I’d made a horrible typographical error on the work orders I’d typed.
It went OK; no thanks to me. The engineers I worked for took it for granted that MANY men would lose their lives in the quest for the moon. - I couldn’t look at it that way, so I prayed!
Good thing it wasn’t a NY wedding!
Now there is an RSVP that means something.
Huh. Get this.
I hired a guy to lay tile. Got his business card from a friend.
He brought his girlfriend to help him. They laid the tile, I paid them. This was the only time I ever met these people.
A few weeks later, they sent me a wedding invite, which included an RSVP card and a request for cash in lieu of gifts.
I didn’t even bother to RSVP.
Pay it and ask for a to-go box.
sending a bill to someone because they cant make a wedding at the last minute is just goesh....that person would get nothing from me and would no longer be a friend.
this couple sounds totally self absorbed and I bet are liberals that think the world owes them.
I’d consider that a favor.
Their true colors have come out so now they don’t have to waste untold time, money and energy only to find the same thing out years from not.
Chalk it up to the cost of education, then move on.
I would have sent them the following “Credit Memo”
Wedding Gift Credit:.....$75.00
Less dinner fee...........($75.90)
Net gratuity:..............($0.90)
Then I’d send the outstanding balance in coins with the next Xmas card so they don’t forget that I won’t forget.
That’s OK, they can be at the divorce party.
People that petty always seem to divorce within a few years.