Posted on 09/19/2015 7:32:43 AM PDT by SeekAndFind
It’s a complaint at least as old as “Sex and the City”: Where are all the good, dateable men? Why are there so many amazing women and so few acceptable mates for them? For a long time, the conclusions drawn were that women were doing something wrong. Too aggressive, not aggressive enough, not putting themselves out there, putting themselves out there a little too often.
A new book “Date-onomics: How Dating Became a Lopsided Numbers Game” by Jon Birger sets out to show that women aren’t doing anything wrong: There just aren’t enough Mr. Rights to go around.
Birger explains that this is the experience nationally, not just in oft-mentioned dating wastelands like New York City. With more women going to college than ever before, there are only so many baccalaureate bachelors for them to meet and marry.
That seems reasonable at first glance. Hey, if a woman is looking for someone with her level of education, and this is a deal-breaker for her, then sure, there’s a serious shortage of suitable men.
Birger points out that a woman who was 34 in 2007 began college in 1991 when women outnumbered men on college campuses by 10 percent. He notes that “in 2012, 34 percent more women than men graduated 4-year colleges.”
The numbers are indeed daunting. But they obscure a question all of these unmarried college-graduate women should be asking themselves: Why does a degree matter so much, anyway?
In his book “The Higher Education Bubble,” Glenn Reynolds quotes statistics showing that the cost of college has increased 439 percent since 1982. Reynolds’ book discusses the crippling debt many college graduates carry and how many of their degrees make the debt nearly impossible to ever erase.
(Excerpt) Read more at nypost.com ...
Character in husband and wife is the indispensable basis for a good marriage and a Godly life. Other things are nice to have but character is a must have.
I am single in my 40s too and there is a lot of dead on truth about what you say. It can be pretty ridiculous for a woman who is about to “hit the wall” with her looks and age.
>>>A woman does not want her sole purpose in life to be to *make a man happy*. If that’s what you’re looking for, you can continue to expect to have trouble finding someone.
If men are just looking for someone to wait on them and cater to them, they they ought to just hire a housekeeper. That just sends a signal to women that the man is selfish and self-serving. No woman wants to wait on a man who sits in front of the TV vicariously living his dream life with a beer in one hand, a remote in the other, and yelling at the stupid referee who’s blind as a bat.<<<
Yeah I kind of expect a woman to prioritize making her husband (me) happy to the extent of keeping a clean house. Being frugal, modest and cooking good meals. I can be single if I have to share the housework and have a 50/50 marriage.
But lady seriously your comment is a bit much. I said many things. You picked one comment, imagined I meant something I did not say and then complained about that.
As for my expectations, they are typical for men my age or older. You ought to appreciate that. Hand in hand with a traditional view is that a man will be the breadwinner. That allows a woman the freedom to stay home with the kids with they are young. And to take off a day of work when they are older but sick.
I think the best approach is 100/100. Each spouse tries to give 100%. I just prefer to do that in gender defined roles. Apparently from the original article, there aren’t enough guys willing to marry all these “amazing” women. They can always enjoy their one night stands and come home to a cat or dog.
Aha! I have lived in the DC area and been in the dating scene since a 2007 divorce. I know a lot of these women. Much of their laundry lists are not realistic. Couple that with modern day liberalism/feminism, its no wonder they fail.
>>>I am single in my 40s too and there is a lot of dead on truth about what you say. It can be pretty ridiculous for a woman who is about to “hit the wall” with her looks and age.<<<
This is my personal preference, but many guys don’t seem to mind. I personally find a woman’s past sexual history a huge turn off. Especially as these women are about to hit the wall. Many have been doing one dude after another. But now they want some guy to commit to them, take care of them and give them the kids. A woman like that just seems too risky. Especially since they can have the mentality of ....kid first....see how things work out with husband second. Because, she can say to yourself, you can always divorce him. With the bonus parting gifts of cash and a babysitter for you to go back to doing random dudes.
Completely correct; that's just delusional talk from these women.
I am glad you pulled out the SMV chart. Its also good that you give red pill advice to your daughters.
This is just silly. There are plenty of good men out there. Women just have to realize that all they need is one.
Absolutely.
Yes, that would be what CH calls riding the "c*(k carousel"/been through dating hell. And then all of a sudden they want beta bucks and settle down.
And it should turn you off! What kind of judgment does that show for a woman? Racking up a high number/list does not make one prize worthy. It as you say, is risky.
"No", said the older, wiser bull.
"Let's walk down this hill, and screw all those cows".
I recall seeing a young woman broke down on the side of the road one time and I did what anyone ought to do and stopped to make sure she was OK...
She gave me this look like she was about to pepper spray me, and a caustic attitude to go with it. I got back in my car without a word and left her there.
I don't stop anymore.
Because, you know, there is obviously something wrong with me.
Reserved airliner seating usually kept guys away from sitting next to women, and god forbid you seat a single guy next to a child traveling alone because all men are rapists/pedos until proven otherwise, ie, dying unconvicted.
The war on masculinity seems to be a pendulum that only swings one way. Oh, darn, I’ve outed myself...
Soft degrees in areas that don't pay well result in lower average wages for women.
Men usually work more risky jobs, longer hours, have degrees in the technical field and this means they, on average, earn more than women.
That ‘wage gap’ is NOT proof of a war on women, it is a reflection of type of degree and job.
Not easily. Women generate two thirds of divorce filings. The deck is stacked against the guy in family court, especially if there are kids. Guys know this.
A woman who marries a good man in her early 20's, has several kids by him, and makes an effort to keep him happy shouldn't worry.
Yes. . .and what I observe while teaching college (and hear from the young men) is this: women are asking guys out more. . .but it is more an invitation for sex, a hook-up, really. The ‘serious’ guy is not pursued as aggressively.
“A woman does not want her sole purpose in life to be to *make a man happy*. If that’s what you’re looking for, you can continue to expect to have trouble finding someone.”
I made it my purpose in life to make my wife happy.
She made it her purpose to make me happy.
We live for each other and do what we do for the love of each other, and making the love of your life happy is first and foremost goal.
Married for 38-yrs.
It should be a service of love, not an demand of obligation.
If the guy is expecting that his wife is there to make him happy, he’s got the wrong perspective because he’s making it all about him.
It’ll never work because no woman is going to put up with it for long.
Flash it at some girl desperate to leave the Philippines, because it's not enough to make me want to have sex with a garden gnome.
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