Posted on 09/19/2015 7:32:43 AM PDT by SeekAndFind
Hah.
Your first statement is already happening in many cases.
Your second statement is okay.
Your third statement presumes too much.
Interesting.
Thanks.
Garbage in, garbage out.
Age? When your young it matters somewhat more meaning late teens to late 20's. That is due to the maturity levels involved. It used to be women matured earlier in emotional maturity than men because women began families in their mid to late teens and married men even up to 10 years their senior and the marriages lasted. Today? Today you are a pervert.
From late 20's on the focus over the years to follow is less on starting a family and more on finding the right person to share your life with. If family happens great. I was three years senior my first wife She was 20 I was 23. My second wife I was 28 she was 35 and I didn't know it till we had dated for a month. I knrew she had kids because she spoke about her babies. I asked how old are they she said 12 & 14. I did the Math and asked how old are you she said 35. LOL too late for me she had me hooked. Not that I objected I accepted it immediately. But we had a lot in common.
Look at the person you are dating. Watch how they treat others including kids, elders, and ones with physical or mental conditions. If you think that isn't a biggie you may be the one with a physical condition. The Vows remember? Look at who they area as a person and not what they look like. The inner beauty last much longer than the physical.
The best thing a mother can do for her teenage son is teach him how to cook, sew, laundry, and help clean including dishes which in this age dishes is a breeze. Him knowing this means he can manage the household for his spouse if needed due to pregnancy issues, illness etc.Fathers teach your daughters to change tires safely, check vehicle fluids, how to reset circuit breakers in the home, how to shoot. Her knowing some basics means she can do likewise for her husband if needed.
Your Vows. The most important part and many times the first thing to be ignored. They have meaning and are a promise to each other before GOD. Think long and hard before taking them. Will your spouse stand by you through them will you do likewise? The one thing I was taught by a wise man before I married was to never go to bed angry at my spouse. Yeouch! But he/she... Yeah and you did what last week? Unless it is a violation of the marriage vows work it out, make up, and don't let it fester into a cancer to the marriage. It's called letting the devil get his foot in the door. Slam it on him.
If you are happily married you're blessed more than the richest person money wise. If you are struggling in getting along then work on it. Get help if needed. It's too darn easy today to quit. If you are being physically abused GET OUT NOW!
Every once in a while make it a point to stop and think honestly what you do if your spouse departed this earthy world and was no more? What things would you have done that you didn't? What things left unsaid? Your perspective on your spouse may change radically in that line of thought process. It's a good sobering reality check and refocuses you back to each other.
Despite ones best efforts success in business, wealth, looks, and health, are often things that are what they are and you make do. It's called reality and life. Who you are in core values, personality, Faith, and Love, is what builds successes that are beyond measures. Our values system in this nation is broken and in many cases results in unrealistic expectations and demands.
yes.
..lol lol
The story goes like this: Two bulls are are grazing when the younger says to the older bull....lets run down and have sex with one those cows, to which the older bull says, lets walk down, and have sex with them all....
I ended up in my second marriage doing all the house work including cooking, cleaning, etc. My wife was severely disabled when we married it happened while we were dating. I met her at work and I could tell watching her at work caring for her patients a lot about her character. We met and dated for four months then married. We were married for 29 years. We had our spats as everyone does. We had a lot against us odds wise in many respects. Before I became disabled 10 years into our marriage I didn't make that great deal of money but we got by usually by my getting overtime. When I had to retire money was more tight. She was called home early this past spring.
Money wise I ended up in Chapter 13 and I have about $12K to pay off in 5 years. When she passed 40% of our income was gone. But that's fine too I don't mind the debt. Besides if it came down to it I could sell off my place and have plenty to start over on.
No regrets for the marriages. Both ended in the same way. The first one ended in under 4 years. That's why I said think about what you would do if suddenly your spouse passed. No one knows the day, hour, or second. With my second wife I had almost a month warning her time was up. My first wife passed one morning an hour after I went to work from a heart attack at 23 years old. Had we been as picky over things that really and truly don't matter as people are today two good marriages would have likely not happened.
I get a kick at people when I go out like today I went on a walking trail. A guy about 15 years younger than me said "hey you look like Santa does anybody ever call you that"? Oh Yeah for over 20 years now. Do I get mad? No I think it's hilarious especially with kids. The beard do hide a lot of ugly LOL.
My hunt for the next mate will be in Australia.
Read somewhere in my horoscope that its my destiny, so coming in december i bought the tickets, the lodging for a 5 week vacation in Oz.
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This folks is a prime example of emotional reasoning.
The wife of a relative, who was a divorcee, spent the first 5 years of their marriage getting herself out of bankruptcy created by her ex-husband, who had run up credit cards in the tens of thousands. Upon divorce, all that debt was split in half.
Men are not totally innocent. There are equal numbers of a-holes on both sides of the gender fence.
Because we are so PC that men are not “men.”
As much as the parents of today’s millennials are beaten down and PC, they tend to remain “men” in terms of knowing it when they see it...and acting like it when other men are not around.
These women are looking for their “fathers.”
So, move down a generation.
Today’s men are wusssie-fied. Today’s women do not have father’s in a lot of cases. They wouldn’t know a “man” if they came over and sat on their lap.
You also have judges who say as follows:
To young man, “Drop out of school and pay child support”
To young woman, “stay in school, go into debt, make him pay you.”
Men only scholarships are sexist. Female only scholarships are mandatory.
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