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13 things mentally strong people don't do
Business Insider ^ | July 16, 2015 | STEVEN BENNA

Posted on 08/02/2015 1:04:47 PM PDT by MtnClimber

1. They don't waste time feeling sorry for themselves. "Feeling sorry for yourself is self-destructive," she writes. "Indulging in self-pity hinders living a full life."

It wastes time, creates negative emotions, and hurts your relationships.

The key is to "affirm the good in the world, and you will begin to appreciate what you have," Morin writes. The goal is to swap self-pity with gratitude.

2. They don't give away their power. People give away their power when they lack physical and emotional boundaries, Morin writes. You need to stand up for yourself and draw the line when necessary.

Read more: http://www.businessinsider.com/things-mentally-strong-people-dont-do-2015-7#ixzz3hgqFRPZQ

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Rush discussed this article last week about the review of the book by author Amy Morin.
1 posted on 08/02/2015 1:04:47 PM PDT by MtnClimber
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I seem to have trouble with people that commit the repeated mistakes of number 8 and resenting that I am successful because I don’t, number 9.


2 posted on 08/02/2015 1:07:50 PM PDT by MtnClimber (For views of Colorado scenery and wildlife, click on my screen name for my FR home page.)
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Bookmarked and copied the URL to the office email.


3 posted on 08/02/2015 1:08:16 PM PDT by wally_bert (There are no winners in a game of losers. I'm Tommy Joyce, welcome to the Oriental Lounge.)
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It would be a great article to share with coworkers. I am thinking of doing that myself.


4 posted on 08/02/2015 1:10:00 PM PDT by MtnClimber (For views of Colorado scenery and wildlife, click on my screen name for my FR home page.)
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Without 4), FR would cease to exist. :)


5 posted on 08/02/2015 1:14:40 PM PDT by Mr. Jeeves (Heteropatriarchal Capitalist)
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To: MtnClimber

Considering the world we lie in, one philosophy seems to work better than others.

“Stomp the weak, hurdle the dead”.

Which has become a vicious cycle of perpetuation.


6 posted on 08/02/2015 1:16:31 PM PDT by Norm Lenhart
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To: MtnClimber

Bookmark


7 posted on 08/02/2015 1:16:51 PM PDT by Cap Huff
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5. They don’t worry about pleasing everyone.
Oftentimes, we judge ourselves by considering what other people think of us, which is the opposite of mental toughness.

Morin lists four facts about constantly trying to be a people-pleaser: It’s a waste of time; people-pleasers are easily manipulated; it’s OK for others to feel angry or disappointed; and you can’t please everyone.

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You are right!


8 posted on 08/02/2015 1:18:36 PM PDT by MtnClimber (For views of Colorado scenery and wildlife, click on my screen name for my FR home page.)
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I would agree with everything except point 2. Giving away power is something that requires very strong mental health.


9 posted on 08/02/2015 1:22:25 PM PDT by DouglasKC (I'm pro-choice when it comes to lion killing....)
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To: MtnClimber

Thanks for posting. I heard him reading something and it sounded good.


10 posted on 08/02/2015 1:27:07 PM PDT by RushIsMyTeddyBear (I'm fed up.)
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To: MtnClimber

That’s right.

I think, Like me or Bite me :)


11 posted on 08/02/2015 1:28:04 PM PDT by RedMDer (Support Free Republic and Keep FReedom ALIVE!)
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I have never understood the ‘be everyones buddy’ thing. To me, that screams ‘I’m a person with no identity or beliefs of my own”. At least beliefs strong enough to fight for/defend.

There is little point in antagonizing people for kicks but sometimes one does have to forcefully defend their beliefs/actions. And thats gonna antagonize someone by definition.


12 posted on 08/02/2015 1:35:11 PM PDT by Norm Lenhart
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Few mentally strong, intelligent individuals (but I repeat myself) vote for Obola. Or Hillary.


13 posted on 08/02/2015 1:35:56 PM PDT by Robert A Cook PE (I can only donate monthly, but socialists' ABBCNNBCBS continue to lie every day!)
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To: DouglasKC

In the proper time/place/context, absolutely.


14 posted on 08/02/2015 1:36:08 PM PDT by Norm Lenhart
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BTTT


15 posted on 08/02/2015 1:38:31 PM PDT by right way right (Disclaimer: Not a prophet but I have a pretty good record.)
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Good stuff. Need to send a copy to my ex-wife.


16 posted on 08/02/2015 1:41:51 PM PDT by Chainmail (A simple rule of life: if you can be blamed, you're responsible.)
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Two things my dad told me when I was going off to college and into my adult life:

First, he said that life is not fair and don't expect it to be. It just isn't. Things may go your way sometimes but they are bound to go against you at other times. Just acknowledge that fact and be prepared to handle whatever life throws at you.

And second, he told me that half the people I would encounter in my life would not agree with me, like me or support me. They will hate you no matter what you do. You just can't get some people to like you no matter how hard you try, so don't waste your time on them. The secret, he said, was to just ignore those people and focus all your energy on the other half.

True story and great advice for everyone. Fathers know best......

17 posted on 08/02/2015 1:48:02 PM PDT by HotHunt
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To: MtnClimber

#14: Make lists of what “strong” people do.


18 posted on 08/02/2015 1:49:09 PM PDT by ifinnegan
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I’d like to add something that mentally strong people need to do MORE of:

1. Crush your enemies. See them driven before you. Hear the lamentations of their women.

END OF LIST. ;)


19 posted on 08/02/2015 1:49:55 PM PDT by Diana in Wisconsin (I don't have 'Hobbies.' I'm developing a robust Post-Apocalyptic skill set...)
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People will recycle old crap time and again...and present it as new and amazing.

This stuff is in the bible...and what’s the Old Testament? 3,000 years old?

The Tao is older, I think...the same stuff is in there.

Not that the points aren’t true...but they are not revelations.


20 posted on 08/02/2015 1:51:21 PM PDT by Vermont Lt
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