Submissive wives lift the lid on their unique marriages - and reveal why they believe female [tr]

UK Daily Mail ^ | May 15, 2015 | Erica Tempesta

[C19fan]

Three women who believe the key to a successful marriage is always being subservient to their husbands' needs are dolling out relationship advice as the stars of a new television special exploring the world of submissive wives. The hour-long TLC special Submissive Wives’ Guide to Marriage, which airs on Sunday, chronicles the lives of three couples - two who are already in successful submissive marriages and one hoping adapting to the lifestyle will save their shaky relationship as they sleep in separate rooms. These woman step aside and allow their husbands to be the leaders of their households because they believe it proves their trust in them - and in God. 'Submission is one of the greatest gifts God has given to a woman,' Tara Furman explains in a preview clip from the episode. 'I have a joyful home because I am a submissive wife.'

[Luircin]

Muslim, sexual, or the actual Biblical definition of submission, complete with the commands that husbands love their wives like Christ loves the Church?

[fwdude]

Every man needs a good sammich.

[rktman]

Yup. I learned the art of compromise a longgggg time ago. Momma suggests something, I compromise by simply saying “Yes dear.” LOL! :>}

[dragonblustar]

Every man needs a good sammich.

In this day and age, define the word, "man".

[I cannot think of a name]

Reading the article leaves me wondering.

After 35+ years, I would say our marriage is more of a democracy with a reasonable dictator having the final say in case of a tie. If it absolutely comes down to it, I make the decision. After all, a car can only have one (1) steering wheel.

Thankfully, in 35+ years it has only come to that a few times (less than a dozen for sure).

[NorthstarMom]

It’s hard, as pride is constantly striving inside, but submitting to my husband is the wisest thing I have done. A non adversarial relationship means he takes my opinion into account often anyway. God’s way is the best way.

[Wiser now]

Sigh. Libs always twist things. Always. “Submissive” does NOT mean “subservient to the man’s needs”

[PGR88]

Men should submit to their wives as well.

[Resolute Conservative]

My wife is the director of operations in charge of running the family, I am the CEO and make the hard decisions and surround myself with smart people (her) to make my job easy.

[NorthMountain]

The article references Bible study as inspiring at least one of the couples.

Ephesians 5:

21 Be subject to one another out of reverence for Christ. 22 Wives, be subject to your husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 As the church is subject to Christ, so let wives also be subject in everything to their husbands. 25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. 28 Even so husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no man ever hates his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This is a great mystery, and I mean in reference to Christ and the church; 33 however, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

Question for "all":

Does this describe your marriage?

[NorthMountain]

I would not trust either of those females to make me an unadulterated sammich.

[wardaddy]

Submissive wife all the time sounds boring especially for wild Whole Lotta Love coitus

But it’s nice when they aren’t bitchy and say no about anything

Being a married man means asking permission a lot

And listening without offering logical resolutions to said whining

A lot

Tell me I’m wrong

But my rib

I love her more than life

[Covenantor]

Great googa-mugah! Just noticed what the 'passenger' was grabbing.

[yefragetuwrabrumuy]

Dominance and submission in marriage is complicated. While most people assume that equality between a couple is better, the truth is often that *some* of the time, one of the spouses wants to be more assertive, and the other, more passive.

There are, of course, extremists, whose relationship becomes a “dominance/submission” deal; but the truth is such relationships can be exhausting, and “higher maintenance”. It is far easier to be passive all the time, than dominant all the time.

Far more common are people parrying with each other until they find their partner’s boundaries and comfort zone. Things such as having your own desk, your own quiet alone time, your own finances as well as combined finances, sharing of responsibilities in lots of things as well as individual responsibilities, and a willingness to help out your partner, all contribute to creating a mutually pleasant situation.

You also have to adjust to your partner’s bad habits and behavior, some of which they can change, and others they either can’t or don’t want to change. Along with a lot of acceptance of inevitable change, as in “Old age isn’t pretty”.

[BenLurkin]

[ken5050]

My definition of the "missionary position:

Man on top, woman in the kitchen..

[RoadGumby]

Men should SERVE their wives. Christ did NOT submit to His church, He came to serve.

[ifinnegan]

First, I don’t know why these couples want to cast their pearls before swine, and

second, the contemporary secular promiscuity that is normative makes women much more subservient than any Biblical marriage relationship.

[MrB]

And a well-ironed shirt.