In a supermarket one day, I noticed an attractive man and an attractive woman at the newsstand, facing away from each other. He was looking at Playboy pictures, she was reading a romance novel. They both had that “lonely single” look. Neither was interested in the really attractive person next to them.
Fantasy trumped reality for the man, who wanted to SEE sex, and for the woman, who wanted to HEAR/READ about it.
Not quite.
Presuming that they were both single, and available, here is the big difference.
Had the man turned to the woman and asked her if she would like him to make love with her, she would have rejected him out of hand.
Had the woman turned to the man and asked the same question, they would have been making love within 30 minutes.