Not quite.
Presuming that they were both single, and available, here is the big difference.
Had the man turned to the woman and asked her if she would like him to make love with her, she would have rejected him out of hand.
Had the woman turned to the man and asked the same question, they would have been making love within 30 minutes.
Probably. But if either had come up for air from their designated fantasy, noticed the attractive person next to them and asked her/him out for coffee and a get-acquainted chat, a relationship might have developed.
The dreaded R word? Why bother when fantasy is so available. Sad.