[allmendream]

I dated a woman from a traditional culture that was a 36 year old virgin. I figured she might have potential and asked her if she engaged in masturbation - when she said no I was very troubled by her lack of sex drive and lack of even self experience with sexuality.

We spent a few nights together, and she was not comfortable receiving pleasure. After fooling around a little (very little) she told me it was the first time she had touched a man's sexual organ - I replied “I could tell”.

Later she seemed disappointed that things didn't go further and told me “If you want something you have to TAKE it!” and I told her in my culture that is considered RAPE.

I broke up with her after going to Sea World and she wore stupid shoes for a day of standing around and walking around. Who has the time to train someone up from nothing in their late 30’s? I didn't have much hope at that point that it was fertile sexual soil just waiting for the right conditions to spring up into a garden.

Sometimes when someone misses the boat - it sails on without them - and they never will make it to the promised land.

[Melas]

I dated a woman from a traditional culture that was a 36 year old virgin. I figured she might have potential and asked her if she engaged in masturbation - when she said no I was very troubled by her lack of sex drive and lack of even self experience with sexuality.

Makes perfect sense to me. The problem is that you'll find a number of equally misguided men, who would look upon the above description positively, only to find themselves married to her and unable to shake the lonely, unloved feeling that would permeate their marriage.