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You hit that nail on the head. Women are notorious “mate poachers” - they want a man who already has a woman. He is vetted, domesticated, and desired.

I think a large part of it is the assumed pre-vetting. The guy in a relationship is assumed to have good qualities, otherwise his girlfriend would have dumped him (and this is judged relative to the hotness of his current girlfriend). A guy without a girlfriend is judged to be a loser, by the same criteria.

One possible way out of this for single guys, is to be seen hanging out with a cute woman.

Part of the pre-vetting is that a man in a relationship seems safe. A women hung out with him, went over to his place, spent the night in his bed - and didn't wind up beaten up or dead or locked in a box under the bed.

My dad pointed that out to me when after a girlfriend of mine attended a Crew race and I suddenly noticed a TON of female attention from women on the Crew team. She was hot - so I was obviously desired by hot women - and she was healthy and happy and SAFE, and coming back for more - all good indications.

For single guys I recommend NEVER taking “in a relationship” off your status on Facebook or other sites - and as you recommended - hanging out with a beautiful woman can NEVER hurt.

Cultivate friendships with women single guys - when you are single OR in a relationship. One woman I met on the Crew team many years ago is still a close friend - and besides the benefits of female advice and a hot woman to hang out with where other women can see - she has hooked me up several times with single women she knows.

As much as I would have liked to have “hit that” years ago - maintaining a friendship has paid dividends year after year.