I wish I had some good advice for your sons but I’m wondering much the same thing for my children.
I hear you both. The current crop of young women in post-Christian America is horrifying. Mine are older than yours, and among myself and my women friends, there have been several wrecked marriages and trashed engagements that have broken our sons’ hearts because the women were unfaithful, many within months of the large, expensive engagements or weddings. These “have it all" feminism-tainted college women met someone else at work or online...
I notice from watching the Duggars on tv that they appear to have a network of other families with similar values regarding virginity, courtship and marriage. I am not a fan of the Duggar parents’ personalities, and it’s clear they had a problem of naivete with their oldest son, but for what it’s worth...
Maybe there are homeschool associations near where you live that would have promising young girls and boys coming up, and you could have family get-togethers with their families. Just a thought... You also might explore whether your church can find good study units for young teenagers to prepare them for marriage, since they start being sexualized by the culture even younger than that. Any way to start them off with at least a textbook idea of the issues, in addition to your good example.
Megan, your essay is just wonderful. May God bless your family profoundly.