Posted on 02/07/2017 11:17:02 AM PST by rhett october
Though it’s often a complaint we hear from a wife that her husband won’t talk, we often receive a request for help from a husband who says, “My wife won’t talk to me.”
It’s all over the realm of possibilities in terms of what this means. Sometimes the husband means that his wife won’t talk to him other than small talk.
In other words, the two don’t seem to “have much to talk about” as people say.
This is a typical complaint from a spouse or an agreeing couple. We’ve been largely taught to believe that if we aren’t in constant conversation and dialogue with our spouse that something is terribly wrong. That we aren’t close enough or that the person not talking doesn’t care enough about us or that our marriage is broken in some other way. Nonsense.
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Your son is a relationship voyeur. He is absorbing how you two do relationships. Not a bad thing just how one is put together in the noggin.
And who among us hasn't, at one time or another, pointed the remote control at your wife and pushed either the "off" button or the "decrease sound level button" ...
just hoping that the elves may have replaced the old remote with the long wished-for magic remote ...
Jerry Seinfeld had a great line about this.
Marriage in one sentence:
You’re wrong; I’m fine with it.
Ha. The other day I was overloaded and work and stressed, went to take a smoke break outside to get my mind off things, and a female co-worker came out to smoke and tried to start asking me what I was upset about. I said “I don’t want to talk about it”, because I just wanted to have my smoke in peace. She kept prying and I was short with her. She couldn’t understand why I was grumpy about her prying after I said I didn’t want to talk about it, so I pointed out that if I don’t want to talk about something, prying will not make me less upset.
She said “You should never live with a woman!” I said “I know, that’s why I’m still single”
“My wife’s great, she’s been leaving me pretty much alone for the past month...”
Danger Will Robinson! That’s usually when they are plotting something!
I’ve always believed that one good hallmark of a strong relationship, whether with a spouse, girlfriend, friend or what have you, is being comfortable enough in each other’s presence to not feel the need to constantly be in conversation. Sometimes, it’s just nice to be together. Talking isn’t necessary.
Me, I’m fairly blunt anyway. I don’t go around sulking silently. If something’s bothering me or on my mind, then I say something. If I’m not saying anything, there could be any number of reasons why, lost in thought, preoccupied with a work issue, or just nothing that seems all that important to talk about.
To me, constant chatter is a sign of nervousness and discomfort. It’s not a positive to me, it often causes me to wonder what’s going on with a person to cause them to go on like that.
Of course, I could probably live out most of my life in my head, so long as I was reasonably well fed, dry, comfortable and under no serious threat, so what do I know.
Many men would even settle for a MUTE button. Sometimes its funnier without sound.
>>It might sound trivial, but this issue was really making my wife feel like we were broken or something.<<
It is called “You are a man and she is a woman” syndrome.
Adam got an earful about it, too.
I think insecurity is sometimes involved.
Tis is why God created Eve after everything else.
Imagine days of “It’s nice, but ...”
Good old Adam.
First man to ever hear his wife say, "I don't have a thing to wear."
I'm usually thinking "man I really got to go to the bathroom but I just don't feel like getting up. Wish I could send someone else. I think I can hold it in a while longer." Or something equally profound.
If the two of you have nothing to talk about it is a problem.
You do not have to yammer 24/7 but you should share enough common interests that you talk about more the strict necessities.
us, too. 40 plus years!
Same here. Mr. GG2 and I do talk to each other a lot but that’s because we are like minded and share common goals and interests. But sometimes we just sit in the same room in companionable silence and look at our tablets.
Apparenty I have an automatic MUTE button. My wife says I never hear anything she says.
Said the blessed man.
Another approach is to get a camera, become expert with it, and start including her in some of your interesting shots. You might be surprised at the effect.
It will likely make your life fuller and richer. Listen with instant, truly sincere, and total engrossment. Nothing ennobles the speaker more greatly.
I’ve found my increasing deafness a blessing to my marriage.
My husband and I go in fits and spurts. We can go hours during trips or both talk a mile a minute. I’m fine with either one.
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