Hence a huge reason to study empty-hands martial arts: by understanding hand-to-hand combat & techniques (blocks and locks), the “violence” can be gently & firmly removed from the scenario, with clarification that it _can_ be horribly escalated if need be.
You don’t get it do you? This is not about a game, but about the worst sort of situation a man can get into with a woman.
Re-read the part of my earlier post about who is gonna get arrested if the cops are called.
The men in these situations have been “programmed” by their families of origin (usually an abusive mother) to seek out a similar type of woman, and then to submit to the abuse, like they did as a child.
If that background doesn’t fit you, you are not at risk to wind up in this type of situation, and if you do, you’ll know just to “walk away” from the relationship.