(1) Keep trying with medical doctors, getting second and third opinions, and even trying nutritionally oriented doctors. As to mental illness, sometimes things work for a time and then fail, but then a new medicine or therapy can be found that works. Also make sure that there are no aggravating physical issues, like dietary intolerances, nutritional deficiencies, or a GI illness.
(2) Check your legal options as to how to get a civil commitment order. Your wife may be best off in well-chosen residential care. Finding a way to arrange and afford that will not be easy.
(3) For your sake, somehow, every week, find a way to take a break from the burden of your circumstances for a few hours. Go to a movie. Meet friends for dinner. Take a walk in a park. Anything to take a break. That will mean finding someone to care of your wife for that time. You will be surprised at how helpful such breaks can be to your peace of mind and resilience.
find a way to take a break
I’d love to. But I have no friends in the area as I am always dealing with her. If I am not with her she is constantly accusing me of cheating. So I go to work and come home. The only break I get is when I take our grandson somewhere. I am very thankful that he is around!
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