Posted on 07/23/2015 9:56:48 AM PDT by rightistight
Jess Zimmerman, who writes for the Guardian, has a brilliant idea: why don't people pay her for being their friend? In an article titled, "“Where’s My Cut?”: On Unpaid Emotional Labor," Zimmerman makes the case that she deserves cold hard cash for being there for people.
Zimmerman begins her article by summarizing a recent case of a psychic swindling a man out of hundreds of thousands of dollars by telling him she could make a woman fall in love with him. The psychic wasn't completely at fault, Zimmerman writes, because men treat women like property and the hopelessly in love man should have realized that. And women never chase after men who aren't interested, she implies.
Eventually, Zimmerman writes that she helps men with their problems sometimes. "Why not get a Rolex out of the deal?" she then asks.
"People are disturbed by the very notion that someone would charge, or pay, for friendly support," she writes. "It’s supposed to come free. Why?"
Zimmerman then starts to talk about #GiveYourMoneytoWomen, which demanded that men give money to women for free. "Men like to act as if commanding women’s attention is their birthright, their natural due, and they are rarely contradicted," she writes, as if men don't ask other men questions. "It’s a radical act to refuse them that attention. It’s even more radical to propose that if they want it so [expletive] much, they can buy it."
The concept of "emotional labor" is the problem, according to Zimmerman. "We are told frequently that women are more intuitive, more empathetic, more innately willing and able to offer succor and advice," she explains. "How convenient that this cultural construct gives men an excuse to be emotionally lazy. How convenient that it casts feelings-based work as “an internal need, an aspiration, supposedly coming from the depths of our female character.”"
House work, sex work, and being a friend is all very similar, Zimmerman argues, saying, "Housework is not work. Sex work is not work. Emotional work is not work. Why? Because they don’t take effort? No, because women are supposed to provide them uncompensated, out of the goodness of our hearts."
And why do women not charge men for being their friend? The Patriarchy; Zimmerman writes, "We let this happen because patriarchy is so good at training women as its proxies; we’ve internalized the idea that our effort is men’s birthright.
"Enough of that. We don’t necessarily need to insist that men just give us their money – though you should, if that works for you, and write down what they say because I bet it’ll be funny. But we absolutely get to recognize that the constant labor of placating men and navigating patriarchal expectations is exhausting because it’s work."
Zimmerman concludes, "I don’t expect to get $700,000, now that I’m trying to remember that emotional labor has value. I don’t expect to get anything, really. But at least now I know that when I get nothing, I’m being cheated. That’s a start."
-PJ
Pretty cute for a Cairn Terrier.
Like I said “Boner Protection.”
Women don’t chase after men who aren’t interested? Want there a book and a movie based on the opposite principal? I guess the intended audience was men.
I would then send you on your way with no advice.
“Churchill: “Madam, would you sleep with me for five million pounds?” Socialite: “My goodness, Mr. Churchill... Well, I suppose... we would have to discuss terms, of course... “
Churchill: “Would you sleep with me for five pounds?”
Socialite: “Mr. Churchill, what kind of woman do you think I am?!” Churchill: “Madam, we’ve already established that. Now we are haggling about the price”
Go for it. But that’s why some people have pets.
Eh, this fem-beast is just another self-entitled, brain-washed, left-wing Nazi whore, and it’s just another day in the new America.
And I bet her close friends hate her.
Now internalize the idea of the men you would once have been able to marry lining up for the next flight to Asia. :)
Having seen her picture and read her writing enough to know what she's like, and as weak as her writing is, she should stick to that occupation and not seek money for her companionship.
[Note: In my professional life, I prefer dealing with people who pay for value and expect to be paid for the value they deliver. Just not in my social life.]
Fiend!!!
*goes blind, swoons*
And you don't have to walk me. :)
Hardly. After all, liberals have turned our entire country into an Onion article.
Looking at that picture and thinking about what Mr. Limbaugh had to say about feminists....
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