Posted on 02/02/2015 4:42:01 AM PST by servo1969
Somehow or other the word “feminism” never enters these articles, but where do you imagine that the modern habit of demeaning, degrading and ridiculing men comes from?
We are not talking about something that occurs behind closed doors. Being contemptuous of men, making them look like fools has become the new, modern way for women to attack men.
One might say that the assaults men commit against women are far more serious. One would probably be right. And yet, life is a two-way street and the feminist habit of assaulting men with derisive remarks must produce a hostile cultural environment.
To the feminist mindset men are chronically misogynist. Women who mock said men are merely defending themselves.
The men who are subjected to this form of emotional abuse—why do we not consider it abuse when it is inflicted by a woman on a man?—sometimes lash out in anger. Sometimes, they run out and cheat. Often, they simply pack up and leave.
All things considered, no man can lash out at a woman, physically or verbally. The culture is so hypersensitive to the incidence of male-on-female violence that the least hostile remark by a man will be grounds for indictment.
Since men are no longer allowed to get angry, more and more of them leave.
If you are asking yourselves where America’s absent fathers are, and if you note that a large number of children grow up without a father in the home, you might consider the off chance that some of these emotionally abusive wives have driven their husbands off.
And yet, ironically, these wives are ridiculing their husbands for not being very good… housewives.
It’s the modern feminist’s way of keeping her husband out of the kitchen. If you were confused by feminism before…
Aside from the fact that feminism has made it open season on men, these forms of emotional abuse are ways for women to validate the wonderful work they do in the home.
They are saying that their work is so difficult that no man can do it well.
Call it self-affirmation at someone else’s expense.
Heaven forfend, but enterprising young single women have occasionally tried to exploit the situation. One shudders to think it but some young women are not above poaching other women’s husbands. If they are as clever as I think they are, they do not do it by practicing the lessons they read in Cosmo and they do not do it by exposing a little more cleavage or hiking up their skirts a couple of extra inches.
The key to a man’s heart is not through his stomach, but through his pride.
Are you a woman who wants to poach another woman’s husband? Try telling him this: If you were my husband I would never let you do the laundry.
Game. Set. Match.
Why has this topic reared its head?
It seems that Chicago Bears quarterback Jay Cutler sent a text to his wife, one Kristin Cavallari in which he bemoaned his difficulties taking care of their children in her absence.
Apparently, this wealthy young celebrity couple never heard of Nannies.
Cavallari shared Cutler’s text with the world via Instagram. Ashley McGuire of the New York Post then reported it.
How much do you want to bet that Cutler risks being seriously mocked in the locker room once the new season arrives? How will this little problem affect his ability to lead his team’s offense? How many women will be happy to console the dejected QB?
The problem will not be that Cutler was overwhelmed by young children, but that he allowed his wife to make him look like a fool in public.
McGuire points out that it has become acceptable for women to make a mockery of their husbands:
It’s somehow become culturally acceptable for wives to mock their husbands, and this is bad.
Men don’t like to be mocked. Neither do women, but I rarely see a husband mock his wife, especially when it comes to being a mother. It’s a sort of sacrosanct territory that a man knows better than to stomp on.
And yet I see women mock their husbands all the time. And I don’t mean tease. I mean derisively mock and shame, to their face and behind their back.
Some women will say here—I know it because I hear it all the time—that they limit their derision to lunch with their girlfriends. Not only is this improbable but women are far less successful at hiding their contempt than they think. If a woman feels it and thinks it, her husband knows. It’s like the man who is cheating on his wife but who insists that she does not know. Don't bet your marriage on her ignorance.
McGuire remarks that one consequence of this new cultural attitude is that more and more children are being brought up without fathers. This despite the fact that some men put up with the abuse and stay in their marriages, regardless.
McGuire explains:
I’m not the first and I certainly won’t be the last person to say that there is a “fatherhood crisis” in America. A third of American children are now growing up without their dad in the home.
And while there are promising signs that those fathers that do stay with their children are becoming more involved in their lives or at least want to be, this is still an area that needs improvement in American society.
But I can tell you one way that women can ensure that men won’t help more with their kids: Mocking them when they falter. Posting their “please help” moment of desperation for all to see.
To sustain her argument McGuire linked to an article from the Daily Mail. The article, by Frances Childs, dates to 2011. It shows that the problem McGuire identified had previously been identified.
As Childs described it:
Sophie pours another glass of wine. Shaking her head, she sighs heavily. ‘He’s such an idiot. I can’t leave him alone for five seconds. God knows what sort of mess I’ll get home to tonight.’
We all nod sympathetically. ‘Mine practically blew the microwave up last time I ventured out for the evening. He’s so useless,’ says Lisa, pulling a face.
She isn’t talking about her monosyllabic teenage son — she’d never be so rude about him. In fact, although the lad has been twice suspended from school and rarely logs off his incessant computer gaming, Lisa never ceases to boast about his incredible talents and intellect. It’s her husband of 17 years she’s roundly and publicly criticising.
Childs continued:
Our husbands’ sins range from never emptying the dishwasher to being emotional retards who are criminally incompetent at childcare and let our homes go to rack and ruin through lack of interest in DIY.
And I know we are far from alone. Get any group of women together and you can be sure they’ll talk about their husbands — and it will rarely be complimentary.
It’s become so commonplace to run down our spouses that Sally Bercow, publicity-mad wife of the Speaker of the Commons, felt totally at ease painting her husband John as a henpecked domestic drudge on national television.
Gleefully informing her housemates on the trash TV programme Big Brother that she makes John mop the kitchen floor and empty the dishwasher while she has a cup of tea, she appeared to think that belittling her spouse somehow made her look interesting.
I can’t in a million years imagine men talking about us with such vindictive nastiness. But belittling your husband has become not just acceptable but even de rigueur. And what’s worse, if you don’t participate in husband-bashing, you’re often cold-shouldered; it’s as if you’re a disappointment to the sisterhood, a sad little wifey.
The worst part, Childs avers, is that women have gotten into the habit of demeaning their husbands in front of their children:
More than once, I’ve seen mothers and children in cahoots, exchanging raised eyebrows over yet another ‘job’ that Daddy hasn’t done. In sharing tales about men’s incompetence, women are coming dangerously close to normalising a corrosive and lasting disrespect for fathers that can only have devastating consequences.
Research carried out by the University of Kent last year demonstrated that by the age of eight boys believed girls were better behaved and more successful than they were. Surely these negative opinions of their gender are down to boys growing up in a culture that routinely derides and ridicules masculinity.
As we know, slut-shaming is a terrible, terrible problem. Shaming one's husband, no problem at all.
Another victory for feminism!
Prager is right.
And one way women demean men is in advertising.....every white dude on a commercial is a dolt - unless he’s a feminized lib hipster type.
I think men don’t marry anymore because besides the onerous legal burden placed on them if the wife so much as loses interest in being married, they view those commercials as what every day for the rest of their lives will be like if they get married (kids loving mom while despising dad, mom disparaging dad in front of the kids, etc.).
For women, love and admiration go together. Men understand that a woman cannot love a man she does not admire.
For a man, when a woman belittles him in front of others, what she's really communicating, whether she realizes it or not, is that it's time for him to move on.
Pretty much true. You can look at the newest round of TV series offerings to see every diverse group in the world - all of them completely sane, rational, intelligent, loving, caring and kind - except for the idiot white male buffoon.
Yep, and then there’s the 12 year old black kid from Detroit who’s going to “major in political science, get a law degree, then come back to Detroit and boost the economy” - because as we know, political science and a law degree teaches one so much about economics.
Why would I want to get married? I like sex.
A woman like myself finds it difficult to stomach what feminism had done not only to men, but to women. I can’t stand it when I see good men being treated poorly. Feminism discounts love, honor, and respect for your husband because you don’t need a man for anything
Women rightfully did not like it when men demeaned them individually or collectively. It was always in a patronizing sort of way for the most part. More of the “Poor dear just can’t handle man work...” sort of thing.
These women today, now that they have gotten to parity, are vicious harpy bitches not content use to a little eye rolling “Men!” type commentary but are hateful, spiteful and mean: they very thing they accused men of being for so many years.
Pity my grandson who has to deal with it.
“Are you a woman who wants to poach another woman’s husband? Try telling him this: If you were my husband I would never let you do the laundry.”
Nonsense. Just tell him you will treat him with respect, acknowledge that he’s a man and never publicly mock him. No need to even bring up the laundry.
I would advise any young man in the USA to be very careful about marriage. The culture that most American women have been brought up in is a horror show, and the legal system is sure as hell not on your side.
See if you can find a nice church-going girl far from the big urban centers.
Sounds like he’s describing my first marriage.
Another part of this humiliation comes from just about every new comedian and sadly, every new preacher. Seems they always resort to the cliched wife is always right - husband always wrong - blah blah blah predictable stuff.
It’s everywhere. It reinforces itself. I am blessed that this is not the case in our house. Heck, in our house, the rule is “if daddy ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.”
As it should be.
Yeah, you right....my bad.....what WAS I thinking?????
This is the worst. Reducing a man to nothing more than a punching bag or a scapegoat. An object on which to heap abuse.
Dogs get better treatment. Indeed if one verbally punished a dog every time it walked in a room, the dog would learn to cower and run away. I wonder if perhaps this just might be one of the reasons divorce rates are now 50%.
“Another part of this humiliation comes from just about every new comedian and sadly, every new preacher. “
When’s the last time we saw a competent, confident husband/father portrayed in a TV sit-com? Years ago my kids liked to watch the Disney channel, and I found it very troubling that every single dad in the shows was a lazy, bumbling oaf, always needing their much smarter wives to save the day.
Women mock their husbands and the people mock their government.
1) Men can't cook. Any attempt will result in a culinary disaster and leave the kitchen looking like a tsunami swept through;
2) Men are either pushover ninnies or drill-sergeant tyrants when it comes to raising kids. In any case, they're incompetent;
3) Men are bungling boobs when it comes to home repairs, lawn care, and other traditionally male duties around the house;
4) Men are barely competent in bed, and most must be guided with a firm but loving hand in the arts of the caress;
5) Men drop their dirty socks everywhere, spill potato chips and Cheez-Whiz on the couch while watching football games with their boorish buddies, and don't put the toilet seat down;
6) Without a maternal superwoman at his side, the average American male could not dress himself, feed himself, get off to work on time, or function in polite society without either humping the hostess' leg or peeing on the parlor rug.
But at least there's no sexist stereotyping going on ...
yep, and even on NCIS - who’s the boss? Either a woman or the black guy? Who is the only character in the series to have a normal family? The black guy.
BUT wait, it just dawned on me...Law and Order Criminal Intent - always has the while male super cop and his white female assistant. Damn. We found one.
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