Oh, yes. 14 years of dating.
There's the problem right there, as your post went on to explain. Fourteen years without putting a ring on it, and you were shocked that she finally met someone else? Wow.
You seem to have figured most of it out since then, except for still resenting her for her straying from a relationship that was probably involving sex relations outside marriage, or was not sexual but had gone on for 14 years with no commitment to marry. Talk about the pot calling the kettle black.
I don’t believe an unmarried couple can ever “cheat.” There is no commitment so there is no infidelity. Any woman who lets a relationship go on for 14 years without a ring, is a sap.
Congratulations ! You managed to find another post written by someone inviting you to tell them what you think, what they should do, and how horrible they are !
Whoo hoo !
Cheers, a-hole. I appreciate the Doctorphilling that you have graciously bestowed. I’m glad you were there for those 14 years of our lives so that you could level your wisdom on us.