“Is she now a “former” GF?”
Oh, yes. 14 years of dating. I left her (Beat her to the punch) and she left that night and stayed with mister World of Warcraft fisherman.
A year later I met a real woman and married her a few months later. 14 years vs 14 weeks. Let her sit on that whoopie cushion for a while.
Granted I wasn’t the best guy in the world - we dated each other in high school and dated throughout our 20s, through college and after. I was stupid. I wasn’t a real man.
But she still had to hop from one lillypad to another. A golden parachute.
Sounds like you are doing ok. Good.
Oh, yes. 14 years of dating.
There's the problem right there, as your post went on to explain. Fourteen years without putting a ring on it, and you were shocked that she finally met someone else? Wow.
You seem to have figured most of it out since then, except for still resenting her for her straying from a relationship that was probably involving sex relations outside marriage, or was not sexual but had gone on for 14 years with no commitment to marry. Talk about the pot calling the kettle black.
I judge you. I look down upon you, since I am superior to you in every way. Your lifestyle is unacceptable to me and to all good people. Why you want to live the way you do is mindboggling to any thinking person.
The manosphere refers to it as "branch swinging" i.e. a monkey will not let go of the branch it is holding on to until it has a grasp on another branch.