There were two couples I knew pretty well where the husband got blindsided, dumped by a wife who basically wanted to kick up her heels with somebody else. The women in these cases truly victimized their husbands (AND kids), and I would never hold the divorce against the husbands.
And it's always possible that by some objective criterion, her marriage vows were an empty lie, defective from the git-go, IF she always knew she was lying about "til death do us part"; she was always figuring she would split if Splitsville was attractive enough.
In that case, there were really no binding vows because a binding vow cannot be predicated upon a lie. In other words, there was no "what God has joined together" because God doesn't join together on the basis of a lie. In that case, you'd be free to seek marriage elsewhere, and may God bless you. Your present wife would be, in the eyes of God, your one and only honest wedded wife.
Doees that make sense?
Yes, what you say makes sense, but it goes even deeper than that. One thing I liked about the video was that it touched on a subject that is near and dear to my heart lately, and that is that we need to be really careful in taking completely literally much of the instruction in the bible. For example, Jesus was very compassionate toward the woman at the well who had been married five times. His comments about committing adultery were also in answer to some particular issues rather than just the holistic concept of a divorced man and/or woman meeting and marrying.
He got very much into what the Torah and old testament said and how Jesus was building on it.
I confess that I think people get it wrong when they think Jesus says it’s ok to divorce your wife for marital infidelity. The reason is as follows. Matthew 5-32 says that if a man divorces his wife for a reason other than adultery, he makes an adulteress out of her. The reason the exception is there is because in that case she has already made herself an adulteress.
But the fact of the matter is that if one is in their 40’s and ends up single, pretty much all the women that are available are divorced. You’re sort of stuck. And The same is true of the women looking for men. At that point, I have to invoke 1 Cor 7:9 - But if they cannot control themselves, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
My wife and I are now 64 and have been married 20 years. we are both HSD individuals (High Sex Drive) and are more active than most twenty somethings, and yet sex is only a tiny facet of our relationship. Our love has grown more than I ever thought it was possible to love and be connected to another person. It is almost literally like a fairy tail. The love and respect just continues to grow every year. We were both divorcees that met at exactly the right time and place and had a three month courtship in 850 emails and $3500 in long distance calls before we were married. We met at our 25th high school reunion, but lived 2500 miles apart.
The video has most of it in text along with closed captioning.