I don’t have the exact verse ... from memory:
There is no greater love than to lay your life down for a friend.
The other:
God is charity. [aka ‘love’]
I personally believe that love can cleanse the soul — it is not as realiable as Jesus because we never feel perfect love all the time.
But some sodomite out in the battlefield who jumps on a grenade for his buddies? I like to think he goes to heaven ... LIKE to think.
Of course, it is better if we all feel fear for our souls, but I like to believe that selfless hearts full of self sacrifice are a kind of ‘window’ to heaven.
If that were the case, and if heaven was filled with those type of people, I wouldn't want to serve the Lord, because heaven would be a horrible place to spend eternity, and our heavenly Father wouldn't be a just, righteous and holy God.